Umzali - qala nosukelo lokuziqeqesha

Yintoni umzali akafuni umntwana wakhe akhule umntu ngokupheleleyo, wonwabile kwaye uphumelele? Ngokuqhelekileyo, Noko ke, siya ukukhulisa abantwana bethu Abanelanga kwenza njengoko uthanda, yaye oko bekuya kuba echanekileyo, yaye thina ezingcwalisiweyo, enibe nifudula ngabazali bethu. Leyo ingumzekelo yokuziphatha lwabazali, njengoko ayiyontetho yemihla ngemihla yonke enyakazelayo nzulu ienjini, yaye sasidla yezimo benze iimpazamo ezifanayo ukuba abazali bethu.

Kodwa ke kukho iindlela ukuyeka lo chain reaction kwaye uqale ophilileyo, uze ungenise ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Okokuqala, kufuneka ufunde ezi ekwakuphila, eminyaka ubudala ulwazi kunye nezithethe, ukuze bafunde ukuba zo bathi ngayo ngumzali. Okubangel 'umdla kukuba, iinkcubeko ezahlukeneyo, iinkolo kunye nezithethe kumazwe ahlukeneyo ziyafana kakhulu kwimiba yezemfundo. Ngokomzekelo, bonke kucetyiswa rhoqo kangangoko ukugcina umntwana ezingalweni zakhe kunyaka wokuqala yobomi bakhe.

Oku kulandela omnye ngeempazamo zixhaphakileyo yoomama abatsha ixesha lethu - kukuba ngenxa yengqesho, imisebenzi yasekhaya kwabo abaqiniseki ukunxibelelana kunye nomntwana wakho, ubuncinane umsuse ngeengalo zam, oko kukuthi qha oyivileyo nomama wakhe - ukuba usana le nto ibalulekileyo ngomnyaka wokuqala ubomi bakhe - kuba into ezizodwa yaye kunqabile.

Okunye - xa abazali uqale indlela onoxanduva kakhulu kwezemfundo, yaye ndiye kalukhuni care okungeyomfuneko, nothando - in umtefisa. Ukuze ufunde ukuthatha indlela off imaski uze uqale ukuphatha umntwana wakho ngokuchanekileyo, nceda cofa apha.

Xa sibhenela izilumko, ngoko, umzekelo, ngo-ಬಿಂದು uphawu ichazwa kakhulu ngokucacileyo indlela yokuziphatha yabazali nje kuphela emva kokubeleka, kodwa kudala ngaphambi kokuba akheke yayo. Umzekelo, unyaka phambi kokuba akhulelwe izicwangciso kuyimfuneko ukwenza imisitho yokuhlambulula izithethe ekulihlambululeni ndawo, ngokwenyama nangokomoya, ngokuba ukufika yomphefumlo entsha ehlabathini. Ukususela ekuzalweni ukuya kwiminyaka emi-6 ubudala umntwana iphathwa njenge ukumkani - musa engxolisa, musa nokuba aphakamise ilizwi lakhe.

Kodwa ke-16 leminyaka ubudala emntwaneni - amajoni, yazenzela uhlobo kulungiselelwa ubomi abadala. Kuye isicelo izithintelo ezahlukeneyo kunye namanyathelo zemfundo, engqongqo kwaye hayi kakhulu. Eyona Isaci weli phakade: umntwana - amajoni, ukuthobela - imfanelo yakhe ephambili. Emva kweminyaka eli-16 njengoko kukholelwa ukuba umntwana awuphinde, uze emva koko ukuze ube ngumhlobo wakhe. Eyabekwa indawo icebiso lobuhlobo.

Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba imfundo yabantwana, amantombazana namakhwenkwe zahluke kakhulu. Ngokomzekelo, amantombazana emva kweminyaka eli-16 kufuneka ibe phantsi kukunyamekela abazali - ukuziphatha okunjalo inzuzo kuphela ikamva ngabafazi, ngoxa inkwenkwe ngelo xesha, xa uthe waqala ukunceda, naxa akafuni kuba ukuba sijongwe kuhlaziswa, ngenxa yokuba i omdala yaye akazekeleli umntu oza kubagcina.

Ekupheleni ndingathanda ukuthi, yintoni uhamba ngeenxa zonke, kufika. Ukuba uhlwayela inceba nothando, ntsako aliyi kuthandabuza ukuba angene ekhayeni lakho yaye, ke ngoko, endlwini wembewu yakho. Kwelinye icala, akukho indlela nesimilo musa ukufundisa umntwana yintoni kuba elungileyo kunye nemfundo zindala okanye ukunika usana lwakho ukuba ngaba amnike umntwana ingqiqo olupheleleyo ukhuselo kunye nothando umcimbi, akubonakali yena uya kuba noyolo yaye uyakwazi ukumelana zonke iimbandezelo zeli hlabathi, kwaye Kunzima ukukhulisa abantwana bakhe uya kuba nempumelelo.