Ukukhanukela kukunyanisekileyo kwezifiso eziphantsi

UbuKristu abuphiki uthando okanye ubudlelwane bezesondo, kodwa ekuqondeni kwanoma ubani, nokuba ngumntu okholwayo, ukukhanga kuyisono. Kutheni? Uthini umahluko phakathi kobudlelwane obuqhelekileyo ngokwesondo kunye nenkanuko? Kule siza kuzama ukuqonda ngakumbi.

Uthando luthini?

Ukuze uqonde ngokuchanekileyo imbono yeBhayibhile ngesondo, kuyafaneleka ukuqonda ngokucacileyo apho umgca ococekileyo ohlukanisa ubudlelwane obusisiweyo ukusuka kwisimo esiphantsi, isono.

Uthando phakathi kwendoda nomfazi lubonisa iimvakalelo ezicacileyo malunga nomdla wakhe. Kwaye inxalenye eyintloko yale miva - inhlonipho kunye nomnqweno wokwenza into ethile enxulumene naye, ngaphandle kokufuna into ethile ngokubuyisela. Uthando aluvumeli ukuzingca, njengoko kuhloswe ngamabomu ngedini.

Nangona ukukhanukela ngumnqweno wokusebenzisa umntu ngeenjongo zakhe, oko kukuthi, ukuwanelisa izifiso eziphantsi, iimfuno zesini, iimfuno ezikhawulezayo. Unjani uhlobo lokuhlonela nokuhlonela umntu onokubakho?

Umntu osilandelayo umkhwenkwe uyayiphumeza iminqweno yakhe, engazi ukuba njani okanye ukulahla nayiphi na inzame yokuzigcina. Ukukhanukela kukuzingca, kwaye ngoko kutshabalalisa. Uyadla umphefumlo, ahlasele umntu ukuba yonke iminqweno yakhe kufuneka izaliseke.

Yintoni eyahlula ukukhanuka kwisifiso sesondo esifanelekileyo?

Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukukhanukela kubangelwa ukunganeliseki ngokwesini kunye nokungakwazi, ngenxa yeengxaki okanye iinjongo zephambili, ukuqonda umnqweno wabo wesini. Kodwa i- sex drive iyodwa.

Le yenkqubo yendalo, yokwenziwa kwengqondo ehlanganisiweyo yengqondo kunye neyomzimba, ukukhonza njengenxalenye yoluvo olukhanya kakhulu, olubizwa ngokuba nothando. Hayi, ewe, akusiyo eyona nto okanye eyinqanaba eluthandweni, kodwa ngaphandle kwalo, uya kuvuma, akuyi kuyenza ingqiqo.

Emva kwakho konke, uthando phakathi kwendoda nomfazi alukuhloniphana kuphela kunye nomnqweno wokwenza ubomi bomntu obathandayo lube mnandi, kodwa nomnqweno wokushiya emva kobudala. Kwaye ngaphandle kwalokhu, isintu sanyamalala nje ebusweni bomhlaba.

Ngoko yintoni inqweno?

Abantu abanomdla bahlale bekhumbula ngesifiso sesini, asishiyi. Ngokusoloko kumenza afune umntu angayifuni ngokwenene, kwaye ukuba kuyimfuneko, ngoko-ke umnqweno uya kumgxotha, ekukhangela izinto ezonwabileyo, ngelixa uchithwa, uhlazisa iimvakalelo zeqabane. Emva koko, ukukhanukela kusekelwe kwinqweno yesondo kuphela, ukugatya inhlonipho nobungcwele beengqondo.

Kwaye ukuze kuqondwe kangcono intsingiselo, intsingiselo yolu rhulumente ngomphefumlo womntu inokudluliselwa ngolu hlobo lulandelayo: ukuhlushwa kwesilingo akusoloko kubalulekile xa kuthelekiswa nokuhlushwa kwimiphumo yesono ngokwayo. Emva kwakho konke, umntu onenceba yesono esinqwenelekayo akakwazi ukucinga ngokucokisekileyo, akakwazi ukulawula, ngoko ke wenza izinto, yena ngokwakhe uya kuba neentloni ngazo.

Ngokubanzi, ukukhanukela kunokuba kubangelwa ukukhanuka kwezinto zonke okwangoku kungengowomntu othile, kwaye kukuthi, njengomthetho, kakhulu kunokuba kungakhathazeki ukuba uya kufeza njani ukuzaliseka komnqweno wakhe. Ukukhanukela kukuguqula umntu kwikhoboka lakhe.

Kwaye ukuba ukuba yinto echanekileyo, ngenxa yoluvo, yinkqubo yomnqweno, eqhubela phambili kwizenzo ezingenangqondo zomntu oye wachitheka kwimpembelelo ephantsi, uyonwabile ngokwenene, kwaye ngokukhawuleza uba yinto enobungozi beziyobisi, kuxhomekeke kwiimfuno zakhe ezingazi umlinganiselo.

Xa ukukhangwa ngesondo kuthatha iifomu eziphosakeleyo

Ngokuqhelekileyo, nayiphi na umntu unomdla wokuzibandakanya ngokwesondo kuye kummeli wesini esahlukileyo. Kodwa ukukhanukela kunqwenela ukuguqula, ukuguqula ibe yinto eqhubekayo yesondo, engayifumani nayiphi na imimiselo kunye nemingcipheko.

Ukuvumela ukuba lokhu kuphuhliswe, umntu unamathele kwithuba lokufumana izinto ezinonophelo zesikhashana, ngokukhawuleza ajikelele kwiimfuno eziphosakeleyo kwaye ngamanye amaxesha awanakho ukuqonda ukuba kutheni athathwe kakhulu kwabantwana, abadala, abantu abafileyo, izilwanyana kunye nolunye uluhlu olungapheliyo olunokuthi lunomdla kwi-psychiatrist. Kodwa konke kuqala ngokuzinyanya!

Indlela yokukrazula ukukhanga?

Ukukhanukela kunokunqoba wonke umntu, kodwa akubona bonke abawenza babe ngamakhoboka. Kwaye ukuba umntu uyaqonda ukuba iiminqweno zakhe ziyeke ukuba zimsulwa, ukuba unesifiso esiphantsi, kubalulekile ukuba uyakwazi ukumlahla. Ukuze ungabi yikhoboka lokukhanukela, umntu makenze isigqibo sokugqibela kunye kunye nokunamathela ngokuqinile. Nokuba uthe wahluleka, qalisa ngokuphindaphindiweyo-kwaye le ngotshi yaphakade iya kukushiya.

Zama ukuphazamisa isifundo esingenakukunika ixesha lokubonakalisa izinto ezincinci kunye nezifiso. Emva koko, kwengqondo, akusiyo nto into ekuthatyathwa ngayo ukuba iminqweno yesondo iyona nto ivuselelekileyo ekuqinisekiseni umntu ngomnye uhlobo lomsebenzi.

Kwakule nkalo ukuba ininzi yezinto ezenzululwazi zenzululwazi zenziwe, inani elikhulu lobugcisa lidalwe ngobuciko-ngoko, mhlawumbi, le nto, inxuwa kunye nesiganeko esilungileyo iya kukuphakamisa?

Hlola iimvakalelo zakho

Uthando kunye nokukhanukela kukutsho komphefumlo, okhoyo kumacala athile omda, oqhutywe ngcamango ehlonelwa ngokuqhelekileyo yokomoya, ukuziphatha kunye nenkcubeko. Kwaye bayaphikisana.

Ngoko zibuze umbuzo ukujonga: uvakalelo lwakho uthando okanye ukuthanda kuphela. Into ephambili, isisindo, nokuba ungayinika iqabane. Ulungele ukuyifunda? Ngaba uyamxabisa njengomntu? Okanye mhlawumbi uyinto efunekayo (nceda uqaphele-kufuneka) unelise umnqweno wakho wobudlelwane bezesondo?

Kwaye ukuba uyavumelana nesitatimende sokuba uThixo wasinika ubudlelwane bezesondo kunye nemibono enxulumene noko, ukusebenzisa isipho esinjalo ngenxa yokukhanga kukukhohlisa okuyingozi, emva kwayo kukho ininzi yesono.