Indlela elula ngaphandle ukudandatheka

wengqondo owaziwayo Carl Jung wathetha uxinezeleko njengomfazi omnyama, knock emnyango. Ukuba lee oko, zange iza kuhamba, kodwa ukuba mema endlwini, uhleli etafileni uze uthethe kuye, uya kuba nako ukuphuma ukudandatheka. Injalo loo nto - ukuqonda ukuba bahlukane - zenziwa iisayikholojisti ezininzi. Akukho mfuneko ekuthobeni ukuxinezeleka ukuze ukucinga rhoqo malunga naloo nto, rastravlivat iimvakalelo zabo.

Indlela yokuphuma ukudandatheka - indlela elukhuni, oqala ukuqonda le meko. Kufuneka siqonde ubomi wovandlakanyo, apho kuthelekiswa imivumbo iqwarha. Ukuba namhlanje okubi, ngoko ngomso uya kuba ngcono. Kwaye ukuqinisekisa oku, khumbula iziganeko kubomi bakhe - kwaye ababi nabalungileyo.

Inyathelo elilandelayo ngalendlela, ekuthiwa aphume ukuxinezeleka, kukho unxibelelwano, ukongeza zakho iingcinga ezintle. Ncokola abo ezinqwenelekayo kuwe, ngubani owenza ufuna ukunandipha ubomi, umnqweno ukukhumbula impumelelo yawo nawuphi na umsebenzi. Bekuya kuba mnandi ukuthetha nabantwana isizathu kuni mintlhaveko ezinqwenelekayo. Ngokuqinisekileyo uyakwazi ukufumana abahlobo kunye nosapho abafuna inkxaso ngephanyazo nzima kuwe.

Zama ukutshintsha ndithanda, thatha uhambo kwindawo ethile, ukufumana amava amatsha, nto leyo kuba mnandi kakhulu. Umzekelo, ukhenketho efanelekileyo kwisixeko samandulo ezakhiwe emangalisayo, okanye uhambo nje yohlobo kunye esibathandayo okanye abahlobo, apho yonke into njengoko ephefumlayo yoxolo noxolo. Ancome ubuhle bendalo - amayeza womelele uxolo lwengqondo.

umahluko nokuba kunokuba kuqala ezinxulumene ukuba baguqukile indlela yabo yokuphila esikhumbuza ukuba ngemeko yakho. Thatha iholide okanye usuku angayi, chitha akuqhelekanga, njengesiqhelo. Ndwendwela iindawo ukuba bendisoloko ayefuna ukundwendwela, yiya eshukumayo, ubuncinane zoo. Intlanganiso kunye nezilwanyana kwi zoo - yintlanganiso kunye ebuntwaneni kuphole, xa igama elithi "depression" azange nokuba eziqhelekileyo. Ukunxibelelana nabo, wena musa nje aphum ezingani, uya kuqonda ukuba ezahlukeneyo ehlabathini, bayaqonda ukuba kuyo nje ukhozo lesanti apho akukho mfuneko ukuba bajolise ingqalelo yawo. Thelekisa indlela aziphatha ngayo izilwanyana kunye nokuziphatha kwabo. Ingaba inja ehlala endlwini yakho, iya kuba buhlungu ngenxa iingxaki ezincinane? Hayi, wondleke kwaye wonwabe, inja udlala nje kwaye ayicingi oko kunokwenzeka yaye akuyi kwenzeka.

Hambisa ngaphezulu, akumangalisi ukuba bathi intshukumo - ubomi. Isingqisho, umthambo - nto idala ihlombe kunye nesimo sengqondo esihle. Bekuya kuba kuhle ukwenza ezemidlalo okanye ukwenza umthambo. Thabathani atsibe nje. Yiba nomfanekiso lamagumbi, funny kunye nokuzila, phakamisa izandla zakho phezulu kwaye ukutsiba endaweni. Kholwani ndim, ukuba isimo sale avuke. Kwaye ukuba ukongeza ukuba ukukhala, kwaye, ndikhwaze nonke ufuna, ngoko ke isimo ziya kuphucula.

Kwaye xa uncumo, ngoko ke ingxaki kuthiwa "depression ukususa" uya kuba ukulungele ukufumana kuncitshiswa kakhulu kangangokuba ukuba sele ulibele ngayo.

Eyona nto ibalulekileyo ukuba indlela yokuphuma ukuxinezeleka zange saxineka iingcinga buhlungu silahle, ukucinga malunga iimpazamo zakhe ezingemnandi. Yazini ukuba indlela eya amathamsanqa ngakumbi isoloko elindele ohlangabezana kancinane. Kungcono ukuba uqaphele, okanye ngcono noko boyise, iqokelela amandla akhe ukuthanda bobakhe.

Indlela yokuphuma ukudandatheka - nto izenzo zakho ezizimeleyo. Akukho namnye unako ukukunceda kangangoko unako ukunceda wena. Musa bathembele kongenelelo koogqirha, meko leyo ke iyimithi buthuntu ecetywayo iza kubi kuphela imeko, akayi kuba nako ukubuyisela engani. Lixabise mzuzu yonke yobomi bakho kwaye musa ityhefu ngokwakho ngokwabo. Phila kuba namhlanje, musa ukulibala izinto ezibalulekileyo ngomso, khumbula ukuba ilizwi elilungileyo kunokuthiwa ngoku, yaye kuya kukunceda ukugcina uncume abantu abasondeleyo nobudlelwane obuhle.

Nceda wena.