Umntwana izinja iinzipho zayo

Kuqala kwinto zonke, khangela wena esipilini, usenokuba ube lula kakhulu maxa wambi Oluma iinzipho zayo, ingakumbi ngamaxesha meko, xa wena u musa ukulawula, kodwa umntwana kanye nyani ukopishe ukuziphatha kwakho. Okanye mhlawumbi isiginci isandla sakhe emlonyeni wakhe xa yena wazifumana kwindawo ongayazi, phakathi abasemzini. Okanye kwenzeka xa yena luvo, nomsindo okanye ube nemvo ukungaqiniseki phambi holide abantwana.

Ngomonde bukela umntwana ixesha elide ukwenza isigqibo esichanekileyo.

Ukuba uphawula ukuba phambi intsebenzo ngamnye eqongeni yomntwana iluma neenzipho zakhe, andule ke akanako ukumelana nokoyika izihlwele. Inqanaba ukothuka okanye isihlwele inokuba kuba gadalala lomntwana amagama abangenamfundo ukuba matinee. Qiniseka ukuba ukungayiqheliseli ngokuphindaphindiweyo intsebenzo yakhe ekhaya, ngoko ke usana kwi qela uya kuzithemba nangakumbi. Kobeka phi na ingxaki xa umntwana ukhulela okhululekileyo, ngobubele. Ngaphambi kokuba intlanganiso into entsha kwaye engaqhelekanga kubalulekile ukulungiselela - ukumxelela ukuba ngomso usuku lwakhe, kunye nabahlobo baya kuza kuye izipho, ukuza kukuxelela ngaphezu wake, ukuba wayekhumbula. Dlala nabo: "Ukuba uza kohl, ungamniki umatshini ukudlala? Petya Dobry boy! Yizani andibonise unika indlela Kole imoto ... "kwaye simdumise, kwanga xa usana baya kuqonda. Ayizange ayisebenzi? Sekunjalo ukwanga nokudumisa. Ukuba akunjalo namhlanje, ngomso uya kuqhubeka ukusebenza. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo ukuba abakhange waqala ukumthethisa kuye, umnxeba. Kubalulekile ukulondoloza ubuhlobo babo umntwana impilo yakhe yengqondo.

Xa azi unobangela, ngoko unga zama ukunceda umntwana wakho ukumelana neemvakalelo zabo ukoyisa lo mkhwa mbi , okanye zama ukuba athambe.

Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba umntwana buluma neenzipho zakhe xa uthandabuzayo okanye engaqinisekanga na kuwe, ngoko ke kufuneka ukuba ukunceda ngokwanelisa nokuzithemba yaye babe ukuzimela. Ngokufanayo ke, unako ukumelana nezinye izizathu, nangona kunjalo, ukuba amanyathelo khange wanceda, kunye kid yakho ugcina ezilumayo okanye iinzipho Oluma, ungasebenzisa ezi zincomo zilandelayo.

Indlela ukuba balahle iinzipho ukuleqa kubantwana umzali smart?

Kanye nabo bonke lokuphelisa umntwana lo mkhwa kufuneka waluqaba nakwiinzipho bakhe into zingambi kakhulu okanye ingaginyisi mathe lenkqubo. Yintoni idla abazali isigqibo ngokwabo, nje engqondweni ukuba isixhobo kufuneka lichazwe ekhuselekileyo ukuba ungaqhubi umntwana noxinezeleko entsha.

Ukuba isixhobo alusebenzi, kwaye umntwana iluma neenzipho zakhe , kungekho ngaphantsi, emva koko thenga kuye isikhonkwane "nekusayku", esixhotyiswe ngokukodwa eyenzelwe uyilumle kulo mkhwa. Emva nail "nekusayka" incasa ekrakra, yaye akukho lula kakhulu ukuba ukuhlamba off, kodwa akukho yingozi kwimpilo yomntwana, yaye ukongezelela iqulethe mzimba ukomeleza iinzipho zabantwana.

Indlela ukunyanga isikhonkwane ezilumayo? Lula. Kuyimfuneko kuphela ukufundisa umntwana indlela ndinciphise uxinezeleko. Umzekelo, uyakwazi kunye nomntwana wakho ukuqhuba imithambo, ukufunda ukuphefumla nzulu yaye cwaka, wayisingatha ngawo lo mzuzu a yokudlala oyithandayo, ukufundisa umntwana wakho ukuba ukuvula neminwe osenyongweni njenge ngenqindi.

A impazamo eqhelekileyo kakhulu abazali ukuba abanye abantwana aba bayabethwa kuba ngesandla. Oku kuphela kuba yingenelo, kodwa ukufundisa umntwana wakho, kuqala, ukuleqa neenzipho zakhe ngokuzenzekelayo, yaye okwesibini, ukufihla kuwe hlafuna phezu kwenye ekoneni esitheleyo. Ke abathile, eqonda ukuba loo nto yenza ukuba nomsindo, uqala ngokukhethekileyo ukuba enze njalo, njengoko bathi, Mama, "ukulaya". Ukuba umntwana iluma iinzipho bakhe nesithukuthezi - zama kule meko ukuba isandla sakhe into luncedo. Makhe penda, ukufunda iphephancwadi, incwadi okanye umana umcele akuncede ngeenxa zonke endlwini, ngoko isikhonkwane-ezilumayo izakulahleka ngokwalo. Izandla emva ephithizelayo!