Ukuzithemba - na ... ukuzithemba kunye nokuzixabisa

Ukuzithemba - yenye iimpawu ezibalulekileyo umntu, umvumela ukuba alwe indawo yakhe eluntwini. Kunika ithuba lokuba bazive amandla ukuzithemba esimnika amandla ukuya ngokuqiniseka usukelo ebomini bakho.

amacandelo ukuzithemba

Ukuzithemba - yimeko imfuneko yobukho bomntu oluzinzileyo kwihlabathi lanamhlanje. It iqulathe amacandelo ezininzi:

• Emotional - sinyanzela ngamnye wena njengomntu ukuhlonipha.
• Ubuchule - ulwazi kwiindawo ezithile apho avakalelwa nesibindi.
• Unxibelelwano - ukunxibelelana nabanye, omnye ufumana ithuba lokuba self-zokuqonda. Kubaluleke kakhulu, xa uvakalelwa imvume omnye okanye ngabantu abaninzi, nto leyo iphucula bakhe ukuzithemba kunye nokuzixabisa.

Iimpawu ze yokungabikho ukuzithemba

Nokuba umntu inamandla sinokuphila yokungabikho ukuzithemba, nto leyo lungabonakaliswa kule fom zilandelayo:

• kwenza abanye;
• zabuza luncedo kunye nokubaluleka kwimeko, apho umntu izibandakanye;
• Umntu ucinga ukuba abanye abathandi nto;
• ukusola isigxina ubuqhophololo ngokunxulumene ngokwayo;
• imvakalelo lilolo eluntwini.

Ufakelo, ukwakha ukuzithemba

Ukuzithemba - sigaba entsonkothileyo. Kuxhomekeke phezu kwayo, koko ngengcamango, umntu ubona ngokwakhe. Makhe kubabiza ngokuba izicwangciso ezingundoqo:

• Abantu kufuneka baqiniseke ukuba uya ukumelana nayo yonke into;
• ukukwazi ukunceda yaye, ukuba kuyimfuneko, ukuze ucele uncedo;
• baqonda ukuba izenzo zakhe kuzuze abanye;
• ukuzithemba - na ukukwazi ukufezekisa kusoloko oko athembisa;
• ukuba ukukhanyela abantu isicelo ukuba babelane ngolwazi lwabo;
• akukho mntu self-nokuhlonipha iya kusoloko kukuxelela inyaniso.

Uthando wena uze ube nolwazi ngokubaluleka kwazo

Ukuba ufuna ukwakha yinqolonci yakho, iisayikholojisti bacebisa ukuba ukuthanda wena, ukufumana iimpawu ezintle yaye amabazibonise ngandlela zonke. Cinga, ukuba ngaba kunjalo, yintoni ofanele oyibona kwabanye? Kuphela ukuzithemba ngokwaneleyo kuya kukunceda kuphuma amathunzi. Kodwa simele ungayibaxi ngaphandle kokufaneleka kwayo. Oku akunanto yakwenza self-ngoluvo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, le yokuziphatha sijoliswe ukufihla sokungafumaneki zabo, kunokuba ukulwa nayo.

Kutheth 'ukuthini ukuba ukuthanda wena?

Self-ukuzithemba psychology aqhagamishelana ukukwazi ukuthanda wena. Abantu abaninzi bayoyika yale imvakalelo, kuba kucingelwa ukuba luphawu Narcissism nkqu ukuzingca. Kodwa oku akuyonyaniso. Uthando self kukukwazi ukuba ukulibala malunga iminqweno neemfuno zabo, amaphupha kunye nokuzeyisa ukubonwa. Kulo mzekelo, nonke nina kwakhona ukunceda abanye, ngaphandle kokoyika emangalelwa bazicingela bodwa.

Ukuze ufunde ukuthanda nokuhlonela wena, kufuneka sikhumbule ezi ngongoma zilandelayo:

• Ubani abe yiyo ukuze yena abe ngumhlobo olungileyo. Oku kuthetha ukuba kuye kufuneka ziphathwe kunye nothando olufanayo ukunyamezelana, inkathalo kunye nesisa, njengoko umhlobo okanye isalamane.
• Musa baqhoboshele ukubaluleka kakhulu yokuba olubiyele ndicinga ngawe. Kuluvo ukuze singasingelwa phantsi ndawonye ecace ngakumbi, akusoloko ilungile. Kuphela ezilandelayo iinkolelo zalo, unako ukuza nokuzixabisa.
• Musa mandingaweli ukuxhomekeka abantu, imikhwa, izifundo. Oku kukwenza umntu ekhubazekile ungenako ukwenza ukusetyenziswa ngokupheleleyo onke amathuba ukuba inikeza.

Anze - indlela yokuphucula ukuzithemba

Ikratshi, ukuzithemba kufuneka isekelwe phezu komhlaba esiqinileyo. Ukuphuhlisa ingqiqo ka imfuno yokuqhuba rhoqo self-zeemviwo self-uphuculo, ngokungqinelana kunye nezigqibo zayo. Iyafuna ukunikela ingqalelo ezi zinto zilandelayo:

• Amava. Yintoni imeko negalelo kuphuhliso lobuqu?
• Amandla. Umntu kufuneka bafumane ubuncinane leetalente-5 okanye izakhono.
• Amandla kunye nobuthathaka. Owokuqala kufuneka kuqwalaselwe ngokubhekiselele kuphuhliso lwabo, kwaye eyesibini - ukuzoyisa.
• Izicwangciso namaphupha. Yintoni ongathanda ukuphumeza ebomini yaye kutheni nangoku ungenzanga njalo kakade?
• Health. Ingaba kukho ingxaki kunye nobume bempilo yomtyunjwa lowo? Ukuba kunjalo, indlela ukulungisa kubo?
• Realizovanna ingqondo self. Ngaba kube ngoku? Yintoni emncedayo ukuba kuzuzwe?

Lo mfanekiso nangokwasengqondweni indoda ukuzithemba

Kakade ke, la macebiso kunceda ukwandisa ukuzithemba kunye nokuzixabisa elizayo. Ke kulula kakhulu ukuyisebenzisa xa kukho umzekelo othile. Ngoko ke, lo mfanekiso nangokwasengqondweni kukho umntu owome ukuzithemba linokuchazwa ngolu hlobo lulandelayo:

• Yena usoloko efuna indlela yaso. Nokuba oko kuchasene uluvo loluntu, kwaye wafumana yayo ezifanele.
• Akukho mfuneko imvume yomnye umntu kwaye sikukhonze. Man ukusebenza nokuphunyezwa amabhongo yabo, nto leyo ngokuqinisekileyo kukhokelela ukuhlonipha ngabanye.
• Usoloko ehlonipha abanye. Nkqu nabantu abahlala iwonga ekuhlaleni osezantsi, umntu onjalo kugcinwa ngembeko, ngaba akuvumi yokungahoywa nangogonyamelo.
• Kuzo zonke iimeko eziwudibanisayo ngesidima. Nokuba isikhundla yokulahlekelwa okanye kwintswelo, umntu akafane ulahlekelwe ukuzeyisa.
• Kuye indawo sifo (okanye inviolability). Oku kuthetha ukuba umntu iseti iinkolelo kunye nemigaqo ukuba akukho kutshintsha nkqu kwiimeko ezinzima.

Khangela mentors, hayi nabagxeki

Eyona mpazamo Abantu abaninzi kunye uqikelelo eliphantsi - kugxininisa izimvo zabanye. Ukuzama ukuphulaphula icebiso nabanye abantu nobulumko eqhelekileyo, umntu ukhetha indawo yokufunda, umsebenzi, iqabane ubomi, zokuzonwabisa njalo njalo. Kulo mzekelo, umntu iqwalasela ukuba kulihlazo ukuba bazimele izimvo zabo. Ngenxa yesi sizathu, kufuneka ukuba uyithathele ingqalelo izinto ezimbini:

• Lumkela abacebisi. Ukuba umntu uzama bakugxeke, okanye bafundise ubomi, akukho wanelisekile isikhundla sakhe, uya ngenkankulu kuba nako ukutsala kuyo ngamava ezithile ezixabisekileyo. Kunoko, yena ayenza yamibi kwaye uzama kukutyhalele ikhondo eliphosakeleyo.
• Zama ukuba ufunde kubantu abonwabileyo kunye nobomi babo Siphumeze lukhulu. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuba madolw 'ukuze linikele icebiso kwaye phendla iimfihlo zabo. Kodwa abantu abanjalo kunokuba mentors elungileyo, ukuba unako ukuphumelela bakuthembe.

isiphelo

Imfuneko ukuzithemba ichazwe kakhulu ngaphezu imfuneko ingqalelo yoluntu. Uthe ngoko kuqala, njengokuba umthetho, nguye isiseko esinamandla ndawo owesibini. Le umntu azame ukuba uphumelele, kufuneka sifunde ukuzibona kakuhle, yonke imihla ebonisa ukubaluleka zabo ngokwabo nabanye. Kuba abo bangekabi kuqaphela ukubaluleka ukuzithemba kunye ukuzithemba, kuyimfuneko ukuba lokucinga kwinkcazo Eleonory Ruzvelt. Wathi akukho namnye unako ukwenza uzive ukuba azanelanga okanye enesiphako, ukuba nguwe kuphela asivumeli nto.