Ukutshatyalaliswa komtshato phambi kwabantwana: amaxwebhu, inkqubo

Ukwahlukana kuyinkqubo engeyantlukwano kwaye ihlala ibuhlungu. Ingakumbi kule meko, abantwana bahlupheka. Abantu abadala okanye abantwana abancinci - banokuchaphazeleka ngokukodwa ngokuhlukana kwabazali babo. Kunzima kumntu omncinci ukuba achaze ukuba ityala lakhe alikho apha. Kwenzeka ukuba uthando ludlula. Okanye omnye wabazali unganakunyamekela omnye. Kubantwana, umama kunye nobawo baya kuhlala bezimvo. Ngabo, umntwana uya kuhlala esenza umzekelo. Ngoko kulungele ukugcina "ubuso", nangona kukubi kakhulu kunye nekati ukukhwela emphefumlweni.

Xa umtshato uqhaqhaqhaza kwii-seams

Xa uqhawula umtshato, abantwana abagqithisi nje ukuphazamisa i-psyche (ingakumbi ukuba umntwana sele sele efikelele ekufikeni kwexesha lokukhulelwa), kodwa kunye neengcamango zehlabathi ngokubanzi kunye neziko lentsapho ngokukodwa. Ngoko, ngaphambi kokuba wenze isigqibo esinjalo, kuyafaneleka ukucinga ezininzi kunye nokujonga ubunzima kunye neengxaki. Ukuba ubomi kunye nomlingani wangaphambili lukhulu kunokwenzeka, ngoko kukufanelekile ukuzama ukulinganisa ubudlelwane kunye nokufikelela kwimilinganiselo ethile, ubuncinane ngenxa yabantwana. Emva koko, abayikusola into yokuba ubaba nomama bahlukana kunye kwaye abasayi kuthetha olunye ulwimi.

Okwangoku, uninzi lweengqondo zengcebiso malunga nosapho kunye nomtshato. Ingcali enekhono ikwazi ukurhoxisa ingxabano kwaye isebenzise amabhanti enxibelelwano phakathi kwabatshatileyo. Into emele ihlawulwe ingqalelo ukuba ngaba i-psychologist ngokwakhe yimeko elolo hlobo. Kulula ukunika iingcebiso ukusuka ngaphandle. Khumbula ukuba isiluleko esihle kakhulu kwimfundo yabantwana sinika abo abangenabo.

Enye indlela "uhamba ngeenxa zonke." Abantu abanobuqili, abaqhankqalazi kunye nabanye abaqhamukayo benza ngokuvumelana nesimo esifanayo - abagqwesileyo beengqondo. Khawuleza bambambe oko ingqondo engacatshulwayo ifuna ukuza kubo, kwaye yintoni umthengi ofuna ukuva. Ukuba le ndlela ibonisa ukusebenza kwaye umtshato uyagcinwa, kungcono kakhulu kwintsapho.

Ukuba, nangona kunjalo, ukuqhubeka nokuphila ngaphakathi kwesikhokelo somanyano ongenakwenzeka, akunakwenzeka, inkqubo yokuchithwa komtshato phambi koonyana abasemncinci iya kubonwa ngolu hlobo lulandelayo.

Uya kuphi na ukuqhawula umtshato

Xa kungekho bantwana emtshatweni okanye bekhulile baze baphile ubomi obuzimeleyo, uqhawulo lomtshato luvela kumalungu eofisi yokubhalisa. Kwezinye iimeko (xa ukwahlula ipropati, umzekelo) ngenkundla. Iingxaki zivela ukuba kukho abantwana abangaphantsi komanyano.

Ukuba kukho nabantwana kwintsapho, umtshato usuvele kuphela kwinkundla. Nangona eso sibini sizinzile zonke iingongoma eziphambili (i-alimony, ukwahlula kwipropati, ukuhlala kwabantwana, ukudibana nabo), ukutshatyalaliswa komtshato phambi kwabantwana abancinci kwenziwa kuphela enkundleni. Olu lilandelayo lugqitywa ngokuhambelana nokuhlala kommangalelwa. Masithi ummangalelwa uvela eSamara, kodwa uhlala eVolgograd. Ingxelo yesibango kufuneka ifakwe kwisithili somgwebo sehlabathi saseDolgograd.

Yintoni ebhaliweyo kwisicelo

Kwisicelo sokutshatyalaliswa komtshato phambi kwabantwana abancinci (isampula isicelo sichazwe ngezantsi), ngaphezu kweenkcukacha ezisisiseko (umhla wokubhaliswa komtshato, ixesha apho umbutho ohlanganyelweyo ungaqhutyelwa kwaye izizathu zokupheliswa (kaninzi, isizathu asibonwanga, sichaza nje ukuba ubomi obudibeneyo abusekho Kunokwenzeka), inani labantwana liboniswa. Ingongoma ephambili ekuhlala kuyo umntwana, njani iintlanganiso kunye naye, ubungakanani okanye imvume yokuhlawula i-alimony.

Umva wokugqibela ngumzuzu onzima kakhulu kumabini omabili. Emva koko, ukuba ngaphambi kokuba ityala lingene phakathi kwabatshatileyo akukho sivumelwane okanye isivumelwano senziwe ngokuhlawula i-alimony, inkundla iya kuzinqumela ngokuzimela.

Alimony. Ziziphi ezizozikhetha?

I-Family Code Code inikezela iifom ezimbini ze "imali yabantwana": isabelo kunye nemali ehambelana nemali. Uwuphi umehluko? Kwimvuzo yomzali owashiya intsapho.

Ukuba unesimo esomeleleyo, esomeleleyo, unokufaka isicelo sesabelo. Ngokuxhomekeke kwinani labantwana, inkundla iya kunika uxanduva lokuhlawula i-1/4, i-2/3 okanye i-1/2 yemali eyimali.

Kodwa ukuba umzali utshintshe indawo yomsebenzi ngexesha elimnandi, unomdla wokungcakaza, ufumana imali ngohlobo, lwemali yangaphandle, akafuni ukusebenza kuwo onke, okanye akwenzi ngokungafanelekileyo, anenzuzo kwaye anokwethenjelwa - isixa esicwangcisiweyo se-alimony. Yintoni? Ukuze ukwazi: nantoni na eyenzekayo kwinqanaba lezinto eziphathekayo kwisigxina sakho sesibini, inkokhelo enyanzelekileyo kuya kufuneka ukuba yenze.

Ngamanye amagama, ukuba ukutshatyalaliswa komtshato phambi kwabantwana abancinci kwenzeka enkundleni, apho inkundla inyulela ummangali ngenyanga ye-alimony kwisixa-mali esisigxina, bathi i-ruble eyi-15 000, "hamba uhamba, abahlaziyileyo bahlafuna," kodwa unike umntwana umgca wokugqibela.

Sizahlula njani?

Umbuzo olandelayo wokunyusa: umlinganiselo we-alimony. Ukuba izabelo zicacile (ubukhulu buxhomekeke kwimbuyekezo), ngoko kunzima kakhulu. Kwaye ndifuna "ukufumana inzuzo", nokuhlala ngento - ithemba alikholiyo. Ubomi bubonisa ukuba umntu ohluphekayo ukhokhe kabini, ngoko ke ungabi nomdla. Ukuba kukho ukuqinisekiswa ukuba umzali "okhutshiwe" weenkwenkwezi akwanele ukususela esibhakabhakeni, ke akufanele ucele inkundla ukuba imnike i-alimony yokuhlawula i-$ 50,000, xa ubukhulu obuya kuzuza iikopi ezingama-20, isiqingatha sayo, kunye Emva koko, uya kufikelela kwiimfuno zasekhaya.

Udinga ukuwucela ngokulinganayo, ukuze ungaphukisi umntwana, kwaye ungavumeli umzali-ntlungu ehlabathini ahambe. Ngaphandle koko, ukutshatyalaliswa komtshato phambi koonyana abancinci kuya kwenzeka ngokupheleleyo phantsi kolawulo lwenkundla. Kwaye ixabiso le-alimony liza kuboniswa yijaji, ngokwezimvo zakhe.

Ukutshatyalaliswa komtshato phambi koonyana abancinci. Amaphepha

Kubalulekile ukuqokelela amaphepha alandelayo:

• I-statement ngokwayo ngo-triplicate (inkundla, ummangalelwa kunye nommangali);
• Umbuso ohlawulwe. Umsebenzi (i-receipt yangaphambili);
• Izatifikethi zokuzalwa zabantwana (iikopi), inqobo iyinikezelwa kumgwebi ngexesha le nkqubo;
• Isatifikethi sokubhalisa umtshato (ikopi kunye nenqobo).

Emva koko inkundla iya kumema inkqubo kwinkqubo, apho iya kuboniswa, ixesha, indawo kunye nejaji.

Ixesha lokulindela

Ngokwalo, inkqubo yokuchithwa komtshato phambi kwabantwana abancinci inokulibazisa ngexesha xa ummangalelwa engazakwazisi okanye i-ajenda ifinyelele kuye, kodwa ugqiba ekubeni angabonakali enkundleni. Ukongeza, iNkcazo yoLapho inikezela ijaji ilungelo lokutyumba ixesha lokutshatyalaliswa (kwinyanga enye ukuya kweenyanga ezintathu). Kodwa nangona zonke izigaba zidlulileyo, emva kokuba isigqibo sejaji sokususa umtshato, amaqela aya kuba nesinye isikhala sakhe kwisibheno. Ngoko ukuba ngokukhawuleza ufuna umtshato, awuyi kusebenza ngokukhawuleza. Imigqaliselo yokutshatyalaliswa komtshato phambi koomntwana iyakwelula kwinyanga enye ukuya ezintlanu. Ngokuqhelekileyo, konke oku kuqwalaselwa kwisakhelo sobambiswano olunabantwana abangaphantsi.

Inkundla iya kuthatha isigqibo?

Nangona kunjalo, ukutshatyalaliswa komtshato phambi koonyana abancinci kuya kwenzeka-yinto nje yesikhathi. Nangona elinye lamaqela lichasene kakhulu, ngeke likwazi ukuchaphazela umphumo. Inketho efanelekileyo kuphela kukuqokelela intando ibe yintonga kwaye uphume kunye nelahleko encinci wena nomntwana wakho.

Ukuba ngesizathu esithile isigqibo senkundla asicaci, emva kweentsuku ezintlanu ungacela inxalenye yokuqiqa, apho kuya kuchazwa ngokubanzi, kutheni ijaji yenza isigqibo.

Ukutshatyalaliswa komtshato phambi kwabantwana abancinci (isampula yesigqibo senkundla esinikezwe ngezantsi) ayisoloko iphela ngokubi. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba iqabane lihlukanisile, kodwa liyaqhubeka lihlala kwintsapho enye, kwintsimi enye ngaphambili.

Endaweni yokugqiba

Ukufingqa konke oku ngasentla, sinokuthi inqubo yokuqhawula umtshato iyabiza, kungekhona nje ngezinto eziphathekayo, kodwa neemeko. Ukwahlukana kwepropathi kungabonakali okusemandleni abo bobabini amaqabane, ukubonakalisa indlela yabo yokwenyani. Ngoko isahlukaniso kufuneka sibe nekhanda elibandayo kunye nentlonipho.

Kwaye kungcono ukuzama ukuphepha ukuwa kweentsapho. Ekugqibeleni, umntwana ngokuphuhliswa kwakhe okuqhelekileyo, kuba kuvela umntu kufuna umama kunye noyise, kwaye kungekhona!