Njani ukuba ukuphazamisa umntwana: iingcebiso kubazali

Abazali abanothando benza ezonakalisa umntwana akayi kuba nzima. Kunokuba indlela onoxanduva nokukhulelwa, ukulungiselela ngokucokisekileyo ngumama kunye ngutata, kodwa emva kokuba imbonakalo umntwana ekudala elindelwe zonke iingcebiso ze ufunde iincwadi ezininzi lwemithetho ngesizathu esithile ilityalwe.

Izindululo abazali, izicwangciso ezahlukeneyo akhuliswe eyiyo kunye nophuhliso lwabantwana namhlanje ziyafumaneka nayiphi na imithombo yolwazi efumanekayo. Kodwa kudla ngokwenzeka ukuba abazali ixesha elide abazange baqaphele ingxaki kwintsapho yakhe. Xa umntwana sonakala kuba ibonakale, ukutshintsha le meko kwaye kusebenza ezinye iimpawu yemfundo kuyingxaki kakhulu.

Iimpazamo Common ekukhulisweni

Akukho namnye umzali ezaneleyo asifuni imfundo yabo kuwabhuqa ubomi elizayo wosana. Wonke umntu ufuna umntwana wabo kuphela kakhulu, kwaye le ngxelo yi nyaniso engenakuphikwa. Oku kusenokubonakala ngathi unako buhlungu indoda encinane ngenxa yothando lwakhe nenyameko? Kodwa kwenzeka ukuba unako.

Amaninzi baphanga ingxaki kwenzeka entsatsheni, apho umntwana bakhuliswe enye. Ke ukuba uthe umntu wamkelekile kwaye kudala elindelwe, ngoko ke abandwendweli usapho yonke ubuso oomama, abazali, oomawokhulu, oodadobawo kunye nezinye izalamane sinqwenela nangayiphi na indlela yokubonisa uvuyo lwabo.

Ngokwendalo, yonke ingqalelo kunye nokhathalelo emva kokubeleka ngoku eyale kuphela ezintsha wenza ilungu lentsapho. Yaye Ekuqaleni, Kuyinto eqhelekileyo kunye zendalo le meko, njengomntwana omncinane ezifana nabani umntu odinga unonophelo nokugcinwa. iba yingxaki xa umntwana ekhula, Halo uthando nenkani abakhathalele nguye dissipated.

Izizathu ukuba abazali bezila umntwana wabo

Kungenakwenzeka ukuba umntu ngabom efuna kuwabhuqa umntwana, kwaye endaweni ufumane kid iguquguquka oluthobelayo kanye cute, isidalwa Ityhwatyhwa eneenkani. Ngokwendalo, iimpawu zemfundo kunye Okukodwa zikhona kuzo zonke intsapho. Kodwa kwangaxeshanye kukho izizathu eziliqela ezisisiseko kutheni abantwana iintsapho sazithimbela ngabazali:

• Sicinga ukuba ubudala bomntwana usenalo ixesha ukujamelana neengxaki zobomi, ubunzima kunye neengxaki. Kungekudala emva ihlabathi liza kubonisa umntwana wabo inkohlakalo. Yiyo loo nto usoloko ufuna ukuba alibazise lo mzuzu yokukhula kunye ukuvumela umntwana wakho kunandipha ebuntwaneni uvuyo ayathandeka.
• Ngamanye amaxesha azinazo umonde, unyamezelo kunye nexesha ukulinda de umntwana ukuba enze into kuba wena: ndazisusa izinto zabo, enxibe, ndawonye okanye utye. Abazali lula ukwenza loo nto ngaye, ngaleyo ukonga ixesha yakho luvo. Ke indoda encinane kangaka, ndayihluthwa ithuba lokwenza into ngokwabo aze asebenzise kuye bonke abanye bakwenzayo.
• uthando Blind nenzala yakhe isuke ngumnqweno ukuba zinikelwe phezu kwakhe okuhle. Sifuna ukubona umntwana umntwana kwakukho izinto kakuhle, ukutya kunye zokudlala. minqweno iyaqondakala, kodwa ngoncedo kunye nomnqweno wokukholisa kunye nonqulo yenzondelelo umntwana abe imigca emihle kakhulu.

izipho Ukuhlawulelwa

esinye isizathu kunokubangela iilekese efanayo zadarivaniyu eziliqela, izinto zokudlala kunye nezinto ezixabisekileyo. Umzekelo, ukuba abazali phantse lonke endleleni okanye nje kude nekhaya ngenxa usoloko exakekile emsebenzini. Okanye kwimeko xa abazali bahlukana, kwaye omnye wabo engasahlali kunye nomntwana. Xa kukho into engekhoyo omdala wetyala, uzama ukuba abuyise ezahlukeneyo izipho. Ngoko uyamelana sokungabikho babo, abazali ukukhulisa umntwana mkhwa yokumkani "izipho ethatha."

Esinye isizathu sokuba intsapho ezonakalisa umntwana, abantwana ubuhlungu kunye nezakhiwo nabazali. Ukuba senza nje umntwana umnakekeli ingqalelo, unonophelo, uthando, yaye zokudlala, ngoko, kakade, sizama ukwenza yonke into ukuze umntwana wethu wayengazi aweve ekrakra.

Ibhuqiwe - ingxaki yomntu kwixesha elizayo

Igama elithi "ibhuqiwe" uthetha umntu isetyenziswa ukwenza yonke iminqweno yabo sivumelane. Umntwana ngubani na umntwana oya bakhuselwe naziphi na iingxaki kunye ezikuxhalabisayo, ukhule, uqala ukujamelana nemingeni emininzi. Yena akayi siqheliswe ngakumbi ukuba abadala kunye nobomi elizimeleyo.

Ngenxa lonakala ekubeni abantu ebuntwaneni ukuba zisetyenziselwa ukufezekisa iinjongo zabo ngokwakhe ebomini abadala, ukuze abe engalungiswanga ngenxa yokuba akukho nto ayithethi kusombulula nto. Akaneliseki olufunekayo, umntu onjalo nagaxeleka ezilingweni kwimeko ekruqukile kwaye uthabathe asonge kukungamthembi kwaye kukuba balinde zonke ngandlel 'kusombululeka ngokwalo.

Kwakhona, umntu onjalo akayi ukuqonda isizathu sokuba abantu ezingqongileyo ebomini abadala ukuba sihlale imangaliseke kwaye lokubonisana. Ukususela oko ke akukho namnye ukholelwa kakhulu krelekrele, entle aneziphiwo, umntu unokuba ukwimeko rhoqo yodano. Ngelishwa, nalo ingqondo kunye okuqonda amalungiselelo ubomi bakhe ngempumelelo bekuya kuba nzima kakhulu.

Iimpawu eziphambili ukuba imfundo yabantwana iimpazamo zenziwa

Kuthekani ukuba abahlobo, izalamane okanye abahlobo athi ukuba ukhule umntwana ibhuqiwe kakhulu, kodwa musa ozibona yokuziphatha ingxaki yehlabathi wosana? Wonke wasoloko hlamusela umntwana othandwayo, ekholelwa ukuba ubuncinane ngamanye amaxesha, kodwa umntwana ngamnye unelungelo sivumelane, nokreqo, nkqu fane.

Ukuze uqonde ukuba ingaba ingxaki ukho ngenene, kubalulekile ukuqwalasela ezinye iimpawu engqina ukuba abantwana sibhuqiwe ngabazali babo;

• Ukuze umntwana ukwenza into, oko kusoloko ukweyisela.
• enolaka Small Isenokusiqiqisa kufuna ukuba ngaphantsi rhoqo. Oku kusebenza abazali, izalamane, abanonopheli kunye nabanye abantwana. Itakane akabeva nabani na ufuna bekungasoloko kunjalo, wathi.
• umntwana ibhuqiwe kakhulu phantse lonk uyala ekucoceni emva kwabo, kuquka zokudlala saa. Kulo mzekelo, i qabane usapho ngenkani kwaye likhankanya limi emhlabeni wakhe. Yenza ukumlalela ngaphandle hysterics phantse ibingakholeleki.
• Umntwana akayiqondi intsingiselo yegama elithi "hayi" akayi kwamkela ukuyekwa kwaye ufumana kwayo nayiphi na indlela.
• Akanalo kuba ucingela iimvakalelo zabanye.
• Umntwana usoloko ubeka abazali kwiimeko ungakhululekanga, kuquka abantu. Ukubakho bangaphandle oko akuthethi Esam kwaye andikhathali.
• akunakuba Umntwana omnye wabo nokuba lixeshana nje elifutshane. Kufuna Zilumkele loo mntu amtsale ngayo nayiphi na indlela ekhoyo.
• Qala ukubonisa iimpawu zokuqala nokunyoluka. Yena ngokucacile uyala ukwabelana zokudlala umntu, iilekese kunye nezinye izinto. Child Qiniseka ukuba yonke into kweli hlabathi kuphela kuye.
• eba khona njalo, apho babonisa iimvakalelo ezifana ndlongo abanye, kuquka abantu abaninzi bomthonyama.

Ityhwatyhwa - omkhulu indlela ukuphululwa yabantwana

Lidla iingxaki zemfundo uba sisinyanzelo xa umntwana ibhuqiwe sithi kusetyenziswa kufuna nomsindo wakhe. Le yenye yeendlela ezininzi eziqhelekileyo ukuhanahanisa abadala. Ngamanye amaxesha fane inokwenzeka engaqondanga, njengomntwana omncinane, xa kuthelekiswa nabantu abadala abakwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo. Fane of a ziimfuno elula bahlule lula ngokwaneleyo.

Xa umntwana nabalawulwa eqhelekileyo ukuze babe ndaxakwa, akhubeke okanye ukukhala cwaka. Sisendleleni sikhatshwa uqhushululu, lawuleki bedanduluka, abantwana nga kuwa phantsi, ukumemeza, singqishe iinyawo zabo, kwaye maxa wambi nkqu azibethe abadala.

Indlela ukuba baziphathe kakuhle

iingxaki zemfundo zibonakala, ukuba umntwana wakho sele uqalile ukusebenzisa zazo ezinjalo. Kakade ke, naziphi jonga umzali kule imeko usana buhlungu, kunye nenzala yabo iya kuba buhlungu kakhulu. Kodwa ukuba phezulu kule meko - ngoko ukuze kucace ukuba fane isebenza. Ukuba, emva kokuba ukuziphatha okunjalo kuya ukufikelela umntwana ofunekayo, cinga ukuba ngoku bagwetyelwe nomsindo rhoqo.

Indlela ukupholisa usana

imfundo Culture abantwana kufuneka abe khona esemncinane. Yenza kucace ukuba umntwana ukuba le ndlela yokuziphatha weza ilothe nto. Ukuba hysterics baqala ekhaya, ushiye nje umntwana yedwa kwigumbi uze uchaze ukuba uza kuqhuba incoko naye kuphela emva kokuba yehlise phantsi.

Sisendleleni phandle - into omele uyenze?

Le meko inzima kakhulu ngakumbi xa nodlame iqala kwindawo yoluntu. Abazali abaninzi balahlekile, ke baqale babe neentloni abanye. Kweli nqanaba bayavumelana ukunikezela Ityhwatyhwa kancinci, kodwa ngokukhawuleza yathotha. ukuziphatha okunjalo akwamkelekanga kwaye yeyona ndlela ngqo ukuqinisekisa ukuba liyanda inani umntwana ibhuqiwe.

Ukuba loo ngxaki kwenzeka evenkileni, a cafe okanye esitalatweni, nje inyathelo ezimbalwa ukusuka umntwana ukuqonda ukuba akukho mntu ufuna nomsindo wakhe. Kakade ke, lo mgama kufuneka libe kwinqanaba elenza ukuba umzali ukubukela umntwana wakhe, kodwa umntwana kufuneka ngaxeshanye ukuqonda ukuba ikonsathi ngaphandle kwabaphulaphuli. Uya kumangaliswa yindlela ngokukhawuleza nguzwilakhe oluncinane yamzekela ngesandla.

Iingcebiso kubazali

Olufanelekileyo imfundo umntwana ekuqaleni kuya kusinceda ukuba siphephe iingxaki ezininzi kwixesha elizayo. Ukunceda ukuphuhlisa maqhinga abanobuchule, ingakumbi ukuba intsapho iye ikhula omnye umntwana, uyakwazi ukuphulaphula icebiso kootitshala kwengqondo:

• Indlu kufuneka bathobele imithetho ethile, kwaye umntwana kufuneka bazi ukuba ukuphunyezwa yabo kusisinyanzelo (umzekelo, iikhathuni musa ukukhangela ngaphezu seyure ngosuku, emva kokudlala zokudlala cleaner ifuneka).
• Abadala kufuneka baqine isigqibo. Ngokuqinisekileyo ayikwazi ithintele into umntwana, uze emva koko kanye mvume.
• Musa ukukholisa sivumelane kunye neminqweno yabantwana, ukuba ngaba ngokwenene ugwetyelwe. Bavumele ukuba azi ukuba kukho umda. Kwiimeko apho umntwana Isenokusiqiqisa ucela into ethile, buza ukuba yintoni na. Ukuba umntwana uza kuba nako ukuze nazi ukuba kuyimfuneko, kulo mzekelo, makhe okanye uthenga. Ukuba nje eziyifunayo, uchaze ukuba umntwana wakho ukuba into ayifunayo, akukho mfuneko engxamisekileyo.
• Umntwana kufuneka abe abaninzi imisebenzi yabo esisiseko kunye nobu- nendlu, ezifana ukuvala ebhedini okanye uthuli acocekileyo egumbini lam. Musa ukuvumela abanye abadala ngoko ke kuye.
• Ungaze bezila ukudla kwabantwana wayevele.

Umanyano ekhaya - isitshixo imfundo efanelekileyo

Bobabini abazali kufuneka zilandele imigaqo efanayo amaqhinga zemfundo. Ukuba kukho nootatomkhulu kunye nezinye izalamane, kufuneka inkxaso ngokupheleleyo abazali. Ukuba elinye ilungu lentsapho othintela elinye kuyo nayiphi na imeko kufuneka avumele oku. Onke amalungu entsapho kufuneka iqondwe ngokucacileyo ukuba uthando kunye nosizi itakane, kakade, kuyimfuneko. Kodwa ukuba abazonwabisa naye ebuntwaneni bakhe, ngoko olu qeqesho akayi kumnceda kwixesha elizayo. Kubomi abadala, loo mntwana kufuneka ukujamelana nemingeni emininzi leyo ayiyi kuba lilungile.