Indlela yokuvakalisa zam iingxolo

Xa kukho intlungu, inkathazo okanye into embi eyenzekayo kubantu abasondeleyo okanye abaqhelekileyo, sifuna ukubonisa uxolo. Ngokuqhelekileyo asiyazi indlela yokwenza okulungileyo. Indlela yokukhetha amagama afanelekileyo, ukwenzela ukuba intetho ye-condolence ayilimazi iimvakalelo zomntu kwaye ayiyikukhungathekisa nakakhulu ukuthetha kwethu? Ngokukodwa sikhathazeke ngombuzo: ndingayichazela njani induduzo kumntu olahlekelwe ngumntu osondeleyo? Kwenzeka ukuba nguwe onokuzibika ezi ndaba ezibuhlungu. Indlela yokwenza okulungileyo? Unokukunceda njani umntu ukuba asinde le ntlekele?

Ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukuthetha, kufuneka ucamngisise ngamazwi akho, ukwenzela ukuba intetho yesondlo iyakuthanda ngokwenene uhlobo oluthile lwentuthuzelo kunye nokukhuthazwa kumntu obandezelekayo. Oku kuya kuba lula ukwenza ukuba amagama afakwe ephepheni, Ukubhalwa kwencwadi yoxolo. Kwimeko yokuzola, kuyafaneleka ukukhetha amagama omkhuthazo kumntu onomvandalo kwaye anike uncedo oluncedo. Kuya kulungele ukukhankanya kwincwadi yokubonga ezinye izenzo ezidlulileyo okanye iimpawu zomntu oshonile, ukuba uyazi naye.

Ukuba uhlala unyanzelekile ukuba ube kufuphi nomntu onokulahleka okunjalo, kukufanelekani okanye ungathethi ngalo mntu? Ndingayichazela njani induduzo kumntwana malunga nokufa kwabathandekayo bakhe - abazali okanye oomkhulu, oogogo-abo babathandayo kangaka? Oku kuya kuxutyushwa kwinqaku.

Ukuba iindaba ezingathandekiyo zokufa komntu esimthandayo simxelela umntwana indlela yokududuzeka kwimeko? Iingcali zengqondo zithi awukwazi ukumkhohlisa okanye ukufihla inyaniso kuye nayiphi na indlela. Oku akuyi kunceda umntwana. Akunjalo nantoni na ukuba unokuthi umhlobo wakhe ofileyo ulele nje. Ngaphandle koko, umntwana unokwesaba ukulala, kwaye oku kuya kubangela uxinzelelo olongezelelweyo. Awudingi ukubhala ibali malunga nendlela uThixo adinga ngayo iingelosi ezulwini, okanye ukuba intando yakhe-wathatha unina (ugogo) ezulwini. Ukuqiqa okunjalo kunokunciphisa ukholo lomntu, ingakumbi umntwana. Uya kuqwalasela uThixo inkohlakalo kunye nokungalungi. Akuyimfuneko ukuphoqa umntwana ukuba angene ebhokisini kunye nomzimba, ukuba uyamoyika. Kungcono ukumchazela ngokucacileyo imeko yomntu oshonile - akayiva nantoni na, akacingi, akayi kubona, ayiyiva. Akenzi kakubi kwaye akabi. Lo ukufa. Ukuba umntwana akayikwesaba umntu ofileyo, kuyimfuneko ukumxelela ukuba xa umntu efa, akakwazi ukwenza nantoni na, akanako ukuma okanye athethe. Ukuba umntwana sele sele ekhulile ngokwaneleyo kwaye eqonda kakhulu, kuyafaneleka ukumxelela ukuba umntu wenza kwaye ucinga nje ngoxa ingqondo yakhe iphila. Abafileyo abakwazi ukuphazamisa ukuphila kwabo naluphi na uhlobo, ngoko akafanele abe noyika. Akakwazi ukwenza nto.

Umntu ngamnye unokuphendula kwakhe kwinto yonke eyenzekayo. Musa ukugweba umntu osizileyo ngenxa yezinyembezi okanye ngenye indlela ukukhuthaza ukukhala. Nangona umntu ekhala, akukho nto ihlazo ngale nto. Kuvakalelwa! Uloyiko, ukungathembeki, ukudideka kunye nomsindo kumntu ofileyo uyasabela ngokuqhelekileyo. Musa ukukhawuleza iziganeko. Akuyimfuneko ukukhuthaza umntu ukuba "akhohlwe" intlungu yakhe ngokukhawuleza kwaye aphile ubomi "obuqhelekileyo". Unelungelo leemvakalelo zakhe! Akufanele ukhulume kakubi ngomfi. Okanye zithetha amagama anjengoku, umzekelo: "Ewe, ekugqibeleni, uphelelwe amandla (uxutsha)! Ngoku, ubuncinane uya kuphefumula! "Ndikholelwe, la mazwi akakhuthazi nabani na. Nangona umntu eswelekile, wayesondele kwaye uyathandwa, kwaye ukulahleka kwakhe kubangela intlungu, kungeyiyo injabulo.

Ndingayichazela njani iinduduzo zam kwimeko? Ngamanye amaxesha awudingi ukuthetha nantoni na. Kufuneka nje ukuba sisondele. Hlala ulawule, ubambe isandla sakho, ugibe, khala. Yilungele ukunceda ekwenziweni, kungekhona ngamazwi. Musa ukubuza malunga nantoni na, musa ukuthetha ibinzana lomsebenzi njengale: "Biza ukuba kukho into oyifunayo." Kungcono nje ube ngumhlobo! Enyanisweni. Enyanisweni. Ukubonakalisa izikhalazo, amazwi okuvelisa kunye nenduduzo akumele avele kuphela engqondweni, kodwa ngokuyinhloko esuka entliziyweni. Kwaye ke umntu osiziyo uya kuziva ukuba uyanyamekela kwaye unomnqweno wokunciphisa intlungu.