Indlela uchazele umntwana, ngaba abantwana Uvela phi na? Xa lo mbuzo simele kungekudala kufuneka nazo naziphi nabo bonke abazali. Abantu abaninzi kule meko ezilahlekileyo ke, asazi ukuba baziphathe njani.
Umthetho wokuqala kukuba kufuneka uqonde: kuyo nayiphi na imeko, ningenzi nelebhokhwe elinye, nelebhokhwe elinye. Enoba umdala kangakanani daze lakho lizaliseke ngexesha xa umbuzo imtyibilizi ezinjalo awayenomdla - amathathu, ezintlanu okanye elishumi. Nayiphi inkohliso livela kungekudala emva koko, yaye ukuba isigqibo akhohlise umntwana, ngoko ke akayi kuba nako ukukholosa kuni, baninzi abaya kufuna iimpendulo kwicala. Kwaye sonke siyazi kuthetha ntoni oku. Ngoko ke kungcono ukuba ukuzilungiselela, indlela acacisele umntwana, apho kuza abantwana, kwangaphambili.
Amaninzi aqalile tsala kwi itemplates eqhelekileyo. Kodwa ke kufuneka kuqondwe ukuba sekhaphetshu, iingwamza nkqu evenkileni - hayi neengcaciso elungileyo kakhulu. Nditsho umntwana uyayazi ukuba sihlaziye indlela. Yena ngokukhawuleza kakhulu, uya kucinga ukuba kutheni sasingahlali bam bazalwa kunye sekhaphetshu emarikeni okanye iishelfu ivenkile wakubonayo nabanye abantwana. Kubalulekile ukuthatha ingqalelo ubudala bomntwana - ngexesha ngamaxesha ezahlukahlukeneyo zobomi bakhe wayengenazinto bezibona eyahlukileyo yolwazi. Ngoko ke, impendulo yakho kufuneka ibe ngokunyaniseka ngqo kuye.
minyaka 3-4
Kule minyaka, kuya kuba kuhle ukuba uchaze izinto ezilukhuni ngohlobo iintsomi. Ngoko ke wena ngeishorensi evela imibuzo okuneziqholo extra, kwaye umntwana lowo uya kuba umdla ukufunda yonke into. Ngokomzekelo, singatsho ukuba uMama noTata bethandana ngamandla waza wathi kwisithunywa ohlala ezulwini, ngoko wabanika usana. Wakuva isicelo sabo, wamnika unina imbewu magic. Umama ndayidla ndayigqiba; yaye nembewu yakhe isisu waqalisa ukukhula, uze ujike intombi yam okanye nonyana. Ke umntwana elide ilindelwe ezelwe. Musa ukoyika umbuzo "apho?". Umntwana wakho xa yobudala ithenda abakwazi ukucinga indlela umntu ukufakela omnye umntu wonke, kokukhona ungafumana uphume khona apho. Ngoko ke, sinokutsho nje ukuba abantwana bazalwa ngalo inkaba. Ke ukuba uthe waba uqhaqho, nokuba amaphupho akuyomfuneko: unako nje bathi isisu esibhedlele usike bayidiliza usana ehlabathini. Khumbula ukuba kule ubudala konke umntwana kwi abstract, kwaye licace iya kuba ibali lakho, ngcono.
minyaka 7-10
Indlela uchazele umntwana, baphi abantwana kule minyaka yesikolo yokuqala? Kweli hlabathi ngelo yobudala sentsomi ngeengelosi, bambalwa abakholelwayo. TV, Internet, kunye nabanye abantwana ezitratweni - unokuqiniseka ukuba kukho amathuba okuba 90% umntwana wakho sele waba into ubuncinane ukwazi ngayo esinomdla isihloko kangaka. Xa kungekho tyala musa ukubonisa, uziva ekhululekile ukuba athethe naye - uya kubangela umdla kakhulu ukuza kuthi ga iinkcukacha ezingeyomfuneko. Ezivenkileni uyakwazi ukufumana inani elikhulu iincwadi zabantwana sizinikele kanye oko, otkuda berutsya deti. Wena uyakwazi ukuchaza umahluko ophambili phakathi kwendlela ezakhiwe ngayo namakhwenkwe kunye namantombazana. Qiniseka ukuba ukongeza ukuba amalungu obuni abantu baphile iiseli ezikhethekileyo - somyeni, kunye nabafazi - eqandeni. Xa udibana, a brand ubomi obutsha. Kwaye yiloo nto kanye iinkcukacha mzuzu ukudibana zabo zisalelayo.
iminyaka 11-12
Kule minyaka abantwana, abakuthandi ukuba ukudibana kunye nabazali babo ngezihloko zesini. Noko ke, ukuba incoko ebalulekileyo kwenzeka, zama ukuxelela kuyo ngathi oko kukuthi, ngaphandle zenze, yaye lizama ukufumana kude kwisihloko. Kweli nqanaba, kubalulekile ukuba adlulisele ezingqondweni somntwana, engena lokufikisa, ukuba neentlobano zesini kufuneka kwenzeka kuphela ngenxa yothando. umsebenzi wakho - akakwazi kuphela indlela uchazele umntwana, phi na iintsana ukusuka, kodwa ukuze achaze oko iingozi ukuze ezazimlindele wokungena "abadala" ubomi.