Lo msitho womtshato - ngowona msitho intle efumaneka kuzo zonke iintlanga zehlabathi. Le nkqubo iquka iintlobo ezahlukeneyo amasiko. Kodwa omnye iingongoma eziphambili kufuneka ingqalelo intsikelelo abaselula. Ngaphandle ayenzi nawuphi na umsitho womtshato. Ngoko ke, kulisiko ukujonga iinkcukacha ezingaphezulu.
abazali Young indlela basikelele umtshakazi nomyeni. Ngemihla yakudala akazange avunyelwe ukuba atshate ukuba amaqabane elizayo anihambanga ekuthiwa-mkhosi zokuhlanjululwa komphefumlo. Kwihlabathi lanamhlanje, Kakade ke, yonke into lula kakhulu. Young uza kuphinda ndiziva ndinetyala kuba oko wakwenzayo abazali, ukuba intsikelelo nangoku zamkelwe. Nangona kukho inyaniso yokuba isiko becala esesikweni, isibini ishiyeka uzama ukufumana intsikelelo abazali babo. Emva koko, lo umoya emthendelekweni kube mnandi ngakumbi, kwaye sibini kuzithemba nangakumbi intshukumo, akha ezininzi ebomini.
Iintsikelelo abazali abatsha namhlanje sahlulwe Orthodox lokukhula kunye mihla. Ngamanye amazwi, ukuba umtshakazi nomyeni bafuna indlela sisikhulu kakhulu ukuba lo mba, le nkqubo iya lula kakhulu. Ngoko ke, xa silandela ngokwesithethe evela ezizukulwaneni elikude, kuyimfuneko ukuba ufumane i icon ukuba umtshakazi nomyeni. imfuneko olugunyazisiweyo: bonke abathathi-nxaxheba kufuneka ndibhaptizwe. Xa kunjalo, ukuba umntu akazange kudlula isiko yobhaptizo, oko kunokwenziwa ngaphambi nje kokuba betshatile. Yintsikelelo kwindawo entsha, kuqala kwikhaya umtshakazi, yaye emva koko, emva kokuba unobhala, endlwini umyeni.
Kumsitho yokuqala amaqabane elizayo kwambatha itawuli, kwaye umfana kufuneka Waziguqisa, ngoko ke abazali lomtshakazi ukucengceleza intetho efunekayo ezabekwa icon abaselula. Intsikelelo abazali abatsha umyeni ngolu hlobo lulandelayo: esi sibini phezu ebizwa ngokuba "kakuhle-ntle kwikhaphethi:" umama kunye notata bathi amazwi okugqibela.
Kodwa ke isiko mihla ingathatha indawo ngaphandle icon, "ikhaphethi" kunye wagaleleka yokupaka. Abazali umtshakazi nomyeni bathi uhlobo ngokwaneleyo kunye namazwi afudumeleyo bakhuthaze abantwana babo. Ukuba olu khetho iinkalo nekwalungele uselula yaye kamva baya kuziva ihlebo, oko Bhala efanelekileyo. Emva yintsikelelo entsha eveliswe, wonke umntu obandakanyekayo emsithweni uqhubeka, bathi amagama Sithi halala kwi sibini, ukuba mnandi nokududa. Kodwa ke isiko iquka omnye isithethe amancinci: abazali umtshakazi nomyeni kufuneka anike ikhaya lakho abaselula. Oku kwenzeka ngolu hlobo lulandelayo: oomama kufuneka amakhandlela ukukhanya ukuba sikhule igumbi, apho sasivela izibane ezintsha. amakhandlela zakutshanje zikhanyiswe phezu umtshakazi etafileni nomyeni. Okanye abazali omabini zikhanyiswe ikhandlela mnye, linyamezeleni umlilo kuyo kwi ikhandlela ezandleni abaselula. Ngenxa yoko, asanda-usapho kufuneka ibe lifudumele nangaphezulu yaye bevuya kakhulu, yaye uthando luya kunyuka izihlandlo eziliqela.
Kakade ke, uninzi imisitho namhlanje, yaye nguwuphi ukuba akhethe, ngamnye uzenzela isigqibo ngokwayo. intsikelelo Young akufuneki ebekwe, kodwa kuza oluphuma entliziyweni ehlambulukileyo, umnqweno onyanisekileyo.