Xa umkhosi wedding zonke, ungabona ezininzi mathuba ezichukumisayo ezizodwa. Umzekelo, kwanaleyo kwananwe abaselula amakhonkco yomtshato kunye isifungo esihle sokunyaniseka. Kwaqengqeleka iinyanga eziliqela, amalungiselelo elukhuni umtshato ukuba ngabazali amaqabane eziyimfuneko elizayo kunye nenkxaso lokwenene. Kwanaxa phakathi kwezihlobo kwenzeka mahluko, kulula bandilibele. Kwaye ixesha sivele pre-lomtshato yasemzini luvo, oko umbhiyozo lomtshato, njengoko umgaqo, phantsi ngamandla alo. Ekugqibeleni sisondela umzuzu echukumisayo kakhulu xa umtshakazi nomyeni linqwenela ukuvakalisa umbulelo kubazali entliziyweni ngenxa yento yonke abayenzileyo ukuze nabo ebomini babo. Abaninzi balahleke ngeli xesha kwaye unexhala. Abanye abantu nje abazi ukuba yintoni nombulelo abazali. Kuyaqondakala ukuba eyona nto ibalulekileyo - bokulithetha ilizwi entliziyweni yakho. Amazwi ombulelo abazali kufuneka sibonise uthando lwakho ngabo, ukuqonda ukuba owanceda kuwe, wanikela icebiso. Kufuneka ubabulele kuba yintoni na ukuba abazali bakho, yaye ngoko ke ezona zilungileyo kwaye obathandayo ehlabathini lonke.
Enkosi kubazali, Kakade ke, unako ulungiselele kwangaphambili, kodwa bathembele nje bubuciko yakho zentetho kunye uchaze. ugcine nje engqondweni ukuba lo mzuzu umdla akakwazi ngenene ukumelana neemvakalelo zabo neemvakalelo. Kusenjalo, uya kuba nzima kakhulu ukubonakalisa amandla kunye nobunzulu nombulelo uthando lwabo? Yiyo loo nto enqwenelekayo ukulungisa. Ngaphandle imincili kuya kubakho kuyo nayiphi na imeko ngentetho yakho. Kuphela oko akuthethi ukuba amagama uzilungiselele kufuneka ufunde nephetshana. umbhalo ezishicilelweyo unako ukuzihlutha intetho yakho yonke ngokunyaniseka umthondo. Intetho, elungisiweyo kwangaphambili kuyimfuneko ukucengceleza na. Musa ukuxhala, ukuba zizale okubhaliweyo kakuhle kumava emangalisayo njengoko bekucetyiwe. Ngapha koko, imincili yendalo, njengoko umthetho, baya kwenza uhlengahlengiso zabo ezinqwenelekayo, yaye intetho yakho iya kukhokelela nokuba eqotho ngakumbi.
Kakade ke, bebulela abazali kufuneka athathe ingqalelo izindululo ezithile. Mayithethe, umyeni nomtshakazi, ngenxa yokuba omnye imini, ngoko ke ukukhawulelana nemfuno bobabini. Musa ukulibala ukuba kufuneka ukuvakalisa umbulelo wethu abazali, hayi kuphela okukokwakhe, kodwa abazali bakhe kunye kwisiqingatha sesibini. Kubalulekile ukuba basenokulibala eli xesha, yonke ingqumbo nokungaqondi, ukuba nayiphi na phakathi kwenu. lomtshato wakho - ithuba elikhulu ukuqala ubudlelwane ezintsha, intlonelo-gingxi kunye nabazali umfazi lowo.
Ukukhetha ukubulela abazali, zama ukuphepha amabinzana bamakhazikhazi kakhulu amagama, sebenzisa elula engcono kunye namagama novakalelo. Nice ukubandakanya kwintetho yakho iinkumbulo elifutshane ebuntwaneni, amabali amnandi ezinxulumene abazali babo. Musa ukoyika ukuba ngokugqithiseleyo ngokuphandle, kuba oku kanye mzuzu xa kufanelekile ngokwenene. Mhlawumbi intetho yakho ndachukumisa oomama bakho abazali ukuba ziyakwazi ukuba ukugcina iinyembezi zabo, kwaye akukho ngokupheleleyo nto yakuzixhalisa malunga nayo.