Ukukrexeza: Indlela siyiphephe?

umfana luvutha kwaye intombazana ukulungele yini ngokuba kunye nje. Bona abadlula ezininzi iimvavanyo, balwe benze uxolo, ikhefu abuyele omnye komnye, uze ithunyelwa zincwadi nokudala intsapho eqhelekileyo, owomeleleyo eliyimbumba. Ngokutsho ingqiqo ukuze ukongeza ukuba baya kuhlala kunye ubomi .... Kodwa bonke yahluke kakhulu.

Embi bazohlala igama

Loo Ukunikelwa kungabangela komsipha of kuqine ubuhlobo, ngonaphakade emke kwezinye isibini ngasinye onothando ukwaphula ubomi bentsapho yonke. Kutheni le nto isenzeka? Kutheni umntu ukholelwa ukuba kunokwenzeka ngexesha elinye ukulibala malunga "kwisiqingatha sesibini 'yakhe aye kufuna amava amatsha? Mhlawumbi Ukunikelwa - akukho Kwakunzima, kodwa komeleza kuphela iimvakalelo? Kuthiwa obukhulu kunabo bonke sinako ukohlwaya nje umntu siyabathanda kakhulu. Akukho nto yimbi lokungcatsha omthandayo - ewolo nje ewolo. Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba asihambisani ukukrexeza, kufuneka ukuqonda, ukuba kwenzeka ngenxa yaso nasiphi na isizathu.

Amaninzi, amaqabane baqala ukutshintsha omnye xa zonke iimvakalelo phakathi kwabo liphelelwe. Kulo mzekelo, ukukhohlisa Kungokwemvelo, ekubeni ubudlelwane ayikwazi ukuqhubeka ukuya ku ukuligqiba ngazo ayikwazi ukuba kusonjululwe engenamyeni nomfazi. Ukukrexeza kwenzeka xa Iimpawu zokuqala iingxaki kubudlelwane. Umyeni okanye inkosikazi unakho ukubonisa iimpawu ingqalelo kwabanye abantu, ndithembe ukuba ikhwele "okusemthethweni isiqingatha" ndibuyele uthando lwabo. Mhlawumbi oku kuthathelwa ingqalelo uMbuso kugwetyelwa, ekubeni kukho kakuhle ezintle. Isizathu sesithathu amaqabane engathembekanga bakube kukhonza kakuhle nje Ukuxabana entsatsheni, ubomi babantu bokwabelana ngesondo enerisekanga, kunye nazo naziphi na ezinye iingxaki, ngokutsho ukutshintsha umntu, akanako kuconjululwa ngendlela eyahlukileyo.

Ngaba ukungathembeki?

Licebo naye zinokuthintelwa. Njani? Eyona ilula kwaye kucacile - zonxibelelwano. Indoda nomfazi kufuneka frank -nye, nixoxe iingxaki zeentsapho zabo. Kakade ke, asifanele ukufikelela izithuko macala kunye ingcaciso abangekaphuhli lobuhlobo. Ungquzulwano akakwazi kungakhokelela nantoni na elungileyo - bonke baya kuqala bawuphanga isimo, yaye umphumo ukuphela kuya kuba uyakrexeza.

Ukuba ukukopela isekhona, ngenxa yaso nasiphi na isizathu, sele lwenzekile, kuyafuneka ukuba anyamekele ukuba bahlala bengatshatanga. Ukuze wenze oku, kuqala kwiinto zonke, kufuneka uyeke ukubek 'isiqingatha' yakhe yesibini. Kunzima kakhulu ukwamkela, uxolele yaye uzame ukulibala, kodwa kuyimfuneko, okanye intsapho soze kuba efanayo, ubuhlobo akazange kwaphula deadlock, yaye kungekudala ukuyisonga. Loo okrexezayo aziphindwanga, kubalulekile ukuxoxa neqabane ukuba utyhalelwa nje phambili. zinto azikho mhlawumbi eyoyikisayo kangaka.

Xa kungekho tyala akakwazi ukuya kwelinye ngokugqithileyo - yokugxeka ngokwabo iqabane ongathembekanga. ukuzithemba yethu ukuhlala kwelona nqanaba liphezulu, ngokuba kuphela iqondo kakhulu ewolo womntu omnye ngenxa yokukhubazeka emzimbeni okanye enye ngesondo minor.

Ukuba sizimisele ukulwa ngokwabelana ulonwabo intsapho yakho, zama ukuba ukuxolela nje kwaye ulibale ukukrexeza, kodwa zama ukuba ayibuyise iimvakalelo endala. Sivuselele ubudlelwane bangakwazi romance, nto enyanzela sibini ukuba ukukhumbula ukuba iimvakalelo bafumana ngaphambi komtshato. Kufuneka uye bhanya kunye, apho indoda elizayo kunye nomkakhe bahlangana okanye wachitha iiyure bonwabileyo. Uyakwazi ukuya kubethwa ngumoya, nto leyo icetyelwe ixesha elide. Unakho ukwabelana izicwangciso ezidityanelweyo lobomi elizayo okanye liphupha nje. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo - ukunika omnye wakho omthandayo uvakalelwa kukuba lo gama yokuba naziphi iimposiso mayilungiswe uyibambe.