Indlela ukuxolela yokungathembeki

Indlela ukuxolela ewolo, ukuba baqhathiwe, wamngcatshayo esuke umntu esimthandayo? Kubonakala kungenakwenzeka - ukuba kwakho ndingcatshiwe, kodwa sisiganeko lilishwa apho akukho nto enokwenziwa. Kodwa ke ngenene - nto?

Kufuneka sizame sokwehlisa ubone zonke iindlela zokuphuma kunokwenzeka.

INdoda, isigqibo ukuxolela indlela ukungcatshwa umfazi wakhe, kufuneka kuqala   Ndiyasiqonda isizathu sokuba ewolo kwenzeke. Ibhinqa othanda yena, kwaye abathanda lokungcatsha soze, nantoni ehendwa yakhe.

Kwaye ukuba uya - okanye akalithandanga, wamcekisa yakhe, okanye wawa luthando. Izizathu ngothando - zingenakubalwa, kodwa engundoqo, njengesiqhelo - emva ngokutshata umfazi evela ngobume intanda safudukela ubume lekhoboka yasekhaya.

Kulo naliphi na ilizwe bomfazi udiniwe nangoku ozijonga esipilini. Kunye nonyaka okanye emibini ibona kukho kuphela ukudalwa kakuhle abanembeko. Kodwa kwakhona Usakhumbula eyahlukileyo kakhulu! Kwenzeka ntoni? Ngoko ngokukhawuleza, kwiminyaka nje embalwa!

Phambi kokuba ugqibe ukuba ukuxolela ukukrexeza, indoda kufuneka siqonde isizathu sokuba umfazi wakhe waqalisa ukufuna ingqalelo kwabanye abantu. Ukuba lokwenza oko kuye, yena wayeza kuba wathi, ngaphandle iingcinga efihlakeleyo, nje ukuba uve ukuncoma, ukuba cwaka entle ebukekayo. Kwaye akazange ukuba aguqulele Ukudlala ibe yinto kakhulu.

Ngothando kwaye kushukunyiswa kufutshane nenye indoda ukuba indoda yakhe iyaqhubeka ukuba aziphathe ngumthandi, kungekhona nje umnini likhoboka. Bazeke, abantu abaselula ngesiquphe balahlekelwe yonke intlonipho oko kangaka kutshanje zibhuqiwe kunye nezincomo kunye nezipho, ngubani wathembisa ukuba iinkwenkwezi zezulu kunye uhambo yonyaka Seychelles ...

Ngoku ke kufuneka ukuba isigqibo, ukuxolela yokungathembeki ezenzeka ngequbuliso ukuba wothukile ngokwenene. Nkqu zinkulu kakhulu kukuba umfazi wakhe, ukuqaphela iqabane unetyala, yaye unetyala akafuni ukususa. Kwaye khumbula onke amaxesha xa asiyonto wangaphezu kwekhoboka, kwimeko engcono - isicaka, akazange uzive.

Ukuze ukuxolela - kufuneka uqonde. Nasekuvezeni ukuqaphela unetyala, yaye ngaphezu koko idweliswe umfazi wakhe. Nangona enkululekweni, umfazi - ube priori ngokuncipha. Kuyimfuneko ukuba ukukhumbula yonke nokuvuma zabo izifungo, ndaqonda ukuba le ityala ephambili esukuba iyilala indoda njengokuba intloko yendlu, kwaye umphathi usoloko onoxanduva lwako nakuphi na ukungaziphathi na abangaphantsi, yaye kufuneka abe noxanduva zachaphazeleka amalungu eentsapho zabo indoda - ukuba benza into engafanelekanga kuphela ngenxa ukuba intloko-ntsapho skimped neembopheleleko zabo.

Phambi kwethu umbuzo ukuxolela njani ukukrexeza? Kuyimfuneko ukuba ukukhumbula yonke ukusithanda affair lwabo, niqonde ukuba umzekelo kokugaxeleka akasifakanga, itshintshe kuphela impendulo. Kunzima kakhulu - ngumhlobo nje, ingakumbi ukuba ukuxolela ewolo enje.

Zombini - lowo watshintsha, yaye lowo etshintshe - ngoko kuqala kwiinto zonke, ukhutyekisiwe kakhulu, yaye, kuxhomekeka amandla kunye nobunzulu imvakalelo ukuba wazibonela abanyulwa, banokuziva nemvo ihlekisa kakhulu zexabiso zexabiso. Ihlabathi eziwayo, kwaye umntu unako ukuba libulale ungumngcatshi.

Ke ukuba indoda leyo nangoku efuna indlela ukuxolela ukungathembeki, ke kufuneka ukuzibeka endaweni ngumfazi wakhe kwaye uzame ukuqonda iintshukumisa isenzo sakhe. Wayefuna ukuba abone ngokwabo ngenxa emehlweni umfazi wakhe, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba akukho wayekhangela isizathu sokuba uMbuso, kunye kakuhle wakhe, uthe wamqubula wamtyhala, ukuba enze njalo. Ukuba uza kwenza konke okusemandleni, ukuba intliziyo yakhe nangoku engamabhodlo imvakalelo yokuba kanye eyabangela ukuba enze isithembiso, uya kuqonda ukuba ukuxolela ukukrexeza - indlela echanekileyo kuphela ngaphandle!

Kufuneka ukunyathela phezu ukweyisa bakhe bahlale ndawonye kwaye uthethe ngokuphandle. Ityala ngenxa yesehlo kufuneka yahlulwe ngokulinganayo, okanye ezingcono - umyeni wakhe ukuba athathe kwi ekhulwini ubuncinane enye ngaphezulu. Akukho mfuneko kwenzekile bethukwa kunye nezityholo baphosa: kuhle ukuzama ukubona zonke izizathu ezabangela ukuba iziganeko lusizi. Ke ukuba usapho ufuna ukugcina, ukuxolelwa - isigqibo esifanelekileyo. Ke ukuba xo kwenzekileyo, elona xesha lifanelekileyo kwaye ukuphelisa zonke izizathu ezikhuthaza abanye ukuba benze izinto ezifanayo.