U buhlungu? Njani ukunqoba usizi?

Inokuvela malunga phantsi komgangatho. Ukusuka kwimvula, ukukhonkqisa phezu kophahla, ukusuka esibhakabhakeni sombala we-grey-steel okanye kuzo zonke iintlobo zolwazi. Usizi luhlobo oluthile lwengqondo lomntu, oluphindwe ngokuphindwe ngababongi, abalobi kunye nabaculi.

Yintoni edabukisayo?

Ngaphantsi kosizi kuthethwa ngento ephazamisayo eyenzekayo xa ukunganeliseki kuvakalelwa kwiinkalo ezahlukeneyo zobomi. Okokuthi, xa umntu enenkinga emsebenzini okanye uxabana nesinye sezihlobo zakhe, mhlawumbi uya kuziva edabukile. Kubalulekile ukuphawula ukuba ukudabuka kwimeko enokunyanzeliswa ngonyango kungangena ekudakaleni, nangona izichazili zithetha ezi zilandelayo: "Usizi lukarhulumente olunjengexinzelelo okanye ukuphelelwa yintliziyo. Kwakhona kusenokuthiwa sisisigaba apho iimvakalelo ezingekho phantsi - ukucaphukisa, ukuhlambalaza amancinci - akunakufumana indlela yokuphuma. "

Ngokuqhelekileyo ukudakumba kuya kuba sisiseko somsebenzi weengoma okanye zobuciko. Usizi luyingxenye ebalulekileyo yobomi bomntu, kwaye, njengento yonke into, inokuyenza imisebenzi emihle neyiyo.

Kutheni ndifuna ukudabuka?

Akusoloko kunokwenzeka ukuqonda ukuba yintoni eyona nto ebangela imbandezelo. Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba kusihlwa umntu unemvakalelo enkulu, kwaye kusasa uvuka ngengqumbo. Ngobunye ubusuku ebomini bakhe akukho nto yatshintshile, akukho nto engalindelekanga eyenzekayo, engalindelekanga kwaye eyonakalisayo. Kodwa wavuka edabukisayo ...

Ukuba kwimeko yokudabuka akuqhelekanga kumntu. Omnye unokuthetha, bathi: "Ndihlala ndibuhlungu" okanye "Ndiyathanda ukudabuka." Kodwa ukudabuka kukubonakalisa ukuba umgcini-ntloko uthumela, uthabathe isenzo. Kubantu abangenakunqwenela ukuba bahlaselwe yimvakalelo engcolileyo, yinto engafaniyo, engaqhelekanga kunye nobutshaba. Ngako oko, le mvakalelo ofuna ukuyilahla, ngoko kufuneka ukhuphuke ebhedeni, wenze izigqibo, uphendule umnxeba uze utshintshe ubomi bakho. Njengoko uqeqesho lubonisa, izenzo eziphambili, iziphumo ezijoliswe kwiziphumo ziyindlela ephilileyo yokuphilisa.

Amagama afanayo

Ukuthetha ngokudakumba, abantu abaninzi banxulumanisa ngeengcamango ezahlukeneyo, ezifana nentukuthelo, intlungu, intlungu, ukuphazamiseka. Le migqaliselo yinto engacacile, ngoko kunzima ukucacisa imida yabo, kodwa kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba kwezinye iimeko azibandakani nantlungu. Nazi ezinye ezimbalwa eziqhelekileyo eziqhelekileyo zisebenzisa amagama endaweni yoko:

• Ukulumkela. Uvakalelwa unamandla kwaye unzulu, udlalwa ngokugqithiseleyo kunokuba udabuke. Kuvela kumava amanandi. Ngokuqhelekileyo banxulumene nokuhlukana nomntu.
• Ukuphazamiseka. Ukuba ukudakumba okanye ukunyamezela kunganyanzelisa umntu ukuba enze into ethile, ngoko ukuphelelwa lithemba akunalo igunya elinjalo lokukhuthaza. Ukuphelelwa lithemba ukwehla kwesikhundla sokusebenza kunye nesimo sengqondo esibi ixesha elide liyimpawu.
• Usizi. Ibanga elidlulileyo lokudabuka. Sinokuthi intlungu yintlungu echaphazela imeko yesimo (intloko, ukulala, iingxaki zentliziyo). Ivela emva kokulahlekelwa ngumthandayo, ngokomzimba okanye ngokwengqondo.

Impawu ezintle

Usizi, ukudabuka, ukunyamezela - ezi zinto zidlalwa ngabanye ngokungafanelekanga. Kodwa, kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi bethu, banokufumana into entle:

• Myalelo. Ukudabuka okulula kuncedo, njengoko umntu eqala ukucinga ngobomi bakhe, ezama ukufumana umthombo wale meko. Endleleni, uhlaziya iimpawu zakhe, imigaqo kunye nokuziphatha. Oku kunceda ukubuyisela umyalelo kwiingcamango zam.
• Umgqugquzeli. Njengoko sele kukhankanywe, imeko enjalo ayiyinto engokwemvelo kumntu, ngokunjalo ukudabuka kunokuba sisixhobo esinokubakhuthaza kakhulu endleleni eya kufunwa.
• Uvelwano. Umntu oye wahlala embi kakhulu ixesha elide, ulungiswa kuphela kuye ngokwakhe. Kodwa umntu osandul 'uva nje ukugabana ngokugqithiseleyo, uyaqonda ukuba kukho abantu abanokuba nzima nakakhulu. Usizi luvelisa uvelwano, novelwano - "Mntu."
• Uncedo. Ngamanye amaxesha ukudabuka kukubangela iinyembezi, kwaye le nto ifanelekile. Iinyembezi zinceda ukunciphisa nokufumana uxolo lwengqondo.

Njani ukunqoba usizi?

A. URosenbaumann wayenamazwi: "Usizi luhlala luza ngokukhawuleza. Hamba ukuhamba, kuba akukho bani ukwabelana nabo. " Kakade ke, ngamanye amaxesha ukudabuka kuthathwa njengobonakaliso beempawu ezithile zabantu. Inceda ukuphucula nokuziqonda kangcono. Kodwa xa isimo sengqondo esibi silibaziseka kwiinyanga ngaphandle kokuphawula, sele isifo. Ngako oko, kufuneka ukwazi ukuthatha okulungileyo kukudabukisayo, uze ulahlwe ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka kwesazela:

• E mnandi. Umthwalo we-glucose kunye necokolethi umzimba umzimba ngamandla, kwaye oko kuvuselela imvakalelo.
• Ubomi obungakumbi. Enye ingomso wesantya? Yenza isidlo sakusasa kwi-cafe esondele okanye uye kwindawo ofuna ukuyivakashela ixesha elide. Ukubonakala okutsha kuza kukukhumbuza ngesimo esibi.
• Ukuphuthuma okukhawulezileyo - uvuyo olungakumbi. Ukuhlala kwindawo ephosakeleyo, kungcono ukuyeka zonke izinto ezibalulekileyo kunye eziphuthumayo. Ukuba kunokwenzeka, nqakraza umsebenzi wefowuni uze wenze into evuyisayo: qalisa iibhola, ugibele ibhayisikili, ubukele ama-comedies.
• Sebenza. Ukudabuka akusoloko kufuna ukuxoshwa. Ngamanye amaxesha kunokusetyenziswa kwisakhiwo. Zama ukubhala inkondlo, ukubunjwa okanye ukudlala ingoma.

Abanye bathi ntoni?

Ngokuqhelekileyo unokuva ezininzi iinkcazo malunga nokudakumba, ezingcono kunokuba ziphi na iinkcazo ziza kuthetha ukuba yintoni intsingiselo, ubuncedo nobungozi:

• Ukudabuka kwakho bubungqina bokuba umphefumlo awunzima.
• Abantu abaqinileyo bayadabuka, ababuthathaka bayaxinezeleka.
• Usizi nosizi bunjengabantwana - ukuba uyabanyamekela, baya kukhula ngokukhawuleza.
• Ikomityi yeti kunye nomsila - ezi zinto ziza kubelana nayiphi na inkanuko.
• Kukho ininzi intlungu ehlabathini, kodwa akukho mntu owenza ukhange amehlo akhe.
• Usizi alukwazi ukuphathwa ngewayini, ngaphandle koko kuya kuba kukudangala.

Singaxela nokuba ukudabuka kukuyinto yesikhashana, inobuthathaka kwaye ingacacanga. Amava amancinci kumntu, ngoko ke kulo mhlaba, unokwenza izinto ezintle kakhulu. Uvakalelo lokudabuka kancinci luhlala ngokukhawuleza. Kwaye ke ufuna ukufihla kwihlabathi lonke uze uphumule ngokuthula. Ewe, ukudabuka kuyimvakalelo embi, kodwa ngeempawu ezininzi ezintle.