Ukuqonda ... Ingcaciso yegama, intsingiselo yalo

Wonke umzali uzama ukwenza kumntwana wakhe indoda efanelekileyo. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba umntwana uhamba ngendlela embi. Kwaye ke oomama nooyise bayazibuza ukuba kutheni waba njalo. Ukuthintela oku, umntwana kufuneka ahlambe ngothando, azincine kwaye anakekele.

Ukubonakaliswa kobubele kuyona nto ibalulekileyo ekukhulisweni komntwana. Yiloo nto esiza kuthetha ngayo kweli nqaku.

Masichaze eli thuba

Ukuqonda ubuchule bomntu ukuziva unomzimba onovakalelo kunye nesimo sengqondo somnye kunye nokukwazi ukumnceda.

Masibuyele ekukhulisweni kwabantwana. Umsebenzi oyintloko wabazali kukuqinisekisa ngokufanelekileyo iimfuno zomntwana kwaye ufumane iindlela zokuzihlangabeza. Oku kufuna ukuqonda.

Liyichaza ntoni?

Makhe sinike imizekelo:

• Ukudumisa, amazwi enkxaso, ukufundisa nokuziphatha kakuhle;
• Iimangalisa eziqhelekileyo;
• Ukubonakalisa imizwelo yeemvakalelo iinyembezi, uvuyo, ukudibana.

Qaphela ukuba iimfuno zomntwana ziqatshelwe ngokulula, ingaba ulambile, unxanelwe, unomnqweno wokulala okanye ukuhamba, ukudlala. Xa ekhulayo, uya kukwazi ukuthetha ngeemfuno zakhe, kodwa akuyi kuba nako njalo ukuthetha malunga namava angaphakathi kunye neemfuno zeengqondo. Kwaye abazali kufuneka babonise ububele ukumnceda. Ngaphezu koko, kuyimfuneko ukufunda ukuphakamisa iimfuno ezintsha, kuba ziguquka kwinkqubo yokuba ngumntwana kunye nophuhliso.

Masinike enye inkcazelo kwizwi lokuzwela

Akuthethi nje ukuvakalelwa komnye umntu, kodwa kunye nokukwazi ukugxila kuphela, kodwa ukutshintshela kumdlali. Ukuqonda ukukwazi ukuqonda iingcingo zokubetha zomntu esimthandayo.

Ngenxa yokungabikho okanye ukunyamalala, akunakwenzeka ukubona isikhalazo okanye isidingo emva kokukhala komntwana wakho, awukwazi ukuqonda izibonakaliso ekuziphatheni kwaye uvula iimfihlo zomphefumlo. Ngokulahlekelwa ngumzwelo, umzali uqala ukutshintshela kwiminqweno kunye neemfuno zakhe, kwaye umntwana unqatshelwe, ehamba emthunzini.

Ukuqonda ubukhulu bokuba nenxalenye yecala elinceda ukugcina ukuthotyelwa kolwazi kunye nolwalamano. Siyabulela kule nto, umntu uyazi oko kufuneke kuthiwe ngexesha elifanelekileyo, oko umchasi ofuna ukukuva, kwaye xa kulunge ukuhlala uthule.

Kusinceda:

• Qaphela ukubuhlungu okanye uvuyo kwiso;
• Ukubamba inqaku lonwabo okanye ukunganeliseki ngelizwi lezwi kunye nendlela yokuthetha;
• Ukuvakalelwa ngumntu omthandayo;
• Ukubona uvuyo namava omdlali;
• Ukuphendula ngokuchanekileyo kwaye ngokungaphenduliyo imibuzo yakhe.

Ukuvakalelwa kunceda ukucacisa iimeko apho kuyimfuneko ukwenza izigqibo ezithile, ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zomnye umntu.

Imfundo ngaphandle kobutyebi

Umntwana okhuliswa kwintsapho enjalo uyazibona enesizungu kwaye elahliwe, nangona ayenayo into ayifunayo. Abantu abadala abakhathalelanga iimfuno zendodana okanye intombi yabo, banciphisa uthando kunye nokunyamekela.

Ukungaxanduva lwabazali kukhokelela kwiilwimi zokuthintela, i-quibbles, ukuphathwa kakubi. Kwaye kunye nokuthotywa, ukunyanzelwa rhoqo, ukuthetha. Konke oku kunqanda umntwana njengomntu, kuthintela uphuhliso oluqhelekileyo.

Iindlela zokubonisa ububele:

• Ukuhlonipha iimfuno zabantwana kufuneka kubonakaliswe ngokudumisa, kubulela, ukusola, ukusola.
• Ukuqwalasela ngokucophelela umntwana, ukukwazi ukuva.

Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ukwazi ukuphulaphula unyana okanye intombi. Kuthetha ukuzinikela ngokupheleleyo kule nkqubo, ukutshintsha ngokupheleleyo ingqalelo kumntwana, ukuba ube neengqondo, ukuqonda iingxakini zangaphakathi zentsana. Ukuba uthetha ngento ethile, ke oku kubaluleke kakhulu kuye kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu. Kwaye abazali kufuneka babonise ububele. Kubalulekile ukunceda umntwana asebenze ngeemvakalelo zangaphakathi.

Ukubona ubuchule kukukwazi ukuqonda iitalente zomntwana wakho kwaye umqondise endleleni efanelekileyo yokuba kunye nophuhliso. Kuya kunceda ukuqonda iphupha lomntwana, ukuba ngokuchanekileyo ukuchonga ukuthambekela kunye nekhono lomntwana. Abazali abanesilumko bazama ukuqonda ukuphela komntwana, isipho sakhe esingokwemvelo kunye nokuthembela kuyo, kukhokelela kwimfundo eqhubekayo.

Abantwana, abakhuliswa ngothando, kuba ngabantu abadala, baya kuhlawulwa imali enye, baya kukuphulaphula, baya kufunda uvelwano, ukuphendula.

Enye inkcazo yobunene

Lo mgangatho wokuziphatha ochaza isimo sengqondo somntu kwabanye.

Njengomthetho, aba bantu banentliziyo entle kunye namava amaninzi ebomi, abaye banamava amaninzi, ubunzima kunye nokuhlupheka. Emva kokuphela kokungaqondi kakuhle, iinyembezi, inzondo, ubunzima, umntu uqala ukuziva engcono kwaye aqonde abanye. Oku kuthetha intsingiselo.

Iimpawu ezihambelana nekota

Imizekelo ingaqwalaselwa njengengcamango enjalo, inesihe, inesihawu, ifihlakeleyo, ilumkele, inesihawu, iyalungisa. Ziyityhila ngokupheleleyo intsingiselo yezwi lokuzwela.

Indima ebomini bentsapho

Ubuzwe bubaluleke kakhulu. Masithi umyeni okhulelwe wabuya ekhaya evela emsebenzini. Intetho iqala ngokuhlwa. Kulo mzuzwana nje, kufuneka ube nengxaki. Sifanele siqonde imeko yakhe kwaye siyiqonde yintoni ulwazi olingene nalo mlingane, kwaye yintoni ekuthethwa kamva, ukuze ungabikho nto.

Ubuninzi bobubonakaliso bokuguquguquka komntu. Ukuba nomgangatho, unokuqala ngokulula ukuthetha nomntu, qaphela isimo sakhe sengqondo, ulungele kuye kwaye ngexesha elifanayo uncedo.

Umgangatho oyingqalileyo unceda ngokukhawuleza kwaye uthathe impendulo impendulo yommangalelwa entetho oyithethileyo, kunye nezenzo okanye izenzo ezigqibeleleyo, ngaphandle kwehlazo ukucela uxolo ngenxa yephutha. Oku akuyi kunciphisa isidima sakho, kodwa ngokuchaseneyo, kuya kuyanzela umchasi wakho ukuba aqonde enye into ebalulekileyo yokuziphatha - ukuthozama.

Isiphetho yile: uvelwano luyisipho esilungileyo kumntu. Unako ukuqinisa ubudlelwane beentsapho, kukuvumela ukuba ube ngumhlobo kumntwana. Yenza ubomi bethu bubhetele kwaye bubhetele. Kumele kuphuhliswe ngokwakho.