Ngaba kufuneka ukuba ukusika usana ngonyaka? Kutheni abantwana kunqunyulwa ngonyaka?

Yonke into ekhathaza umntwana, abazali kufuneka izinziswe kuphela ngokwabo. Yijongise, Noko ke, kunokwenzeka ukuba izinto ezahlukeneyo: iingcebiso badala, ubuchule phambili kunye nemibhiyozo eyahlukeneyo. Kweli nqaku endifuna ukuthetha ngayo kuwe kufuneka ukuba sinciphise umntwana ngonyaka ngamnye. Ngapha koko, abazali abaninzi lo mbuzo namanje.

Yini ugogo?

Xa kuphela abantu belo qela lobudala abadala bayazi ukuba uyakhulelwa, ngoko nangoko ukuqala ukunika iingcebiso ezohlukeneyo kummandla luya. Omnye wabo - kuyo nayiphi na imeko, musa kunqunyulwa yaye musa idayi iinwele zenu, musa uyakwazi ukwenzakalisa usana. Ngolo liviwe umntwana. Umakhulu ngokucacile impendulo engentle kumbuzo ngaba umntwana kufuneka lisikwe ngonyaka. Kwaye ngenxa kid kuyinto banentsomi uthi, uyakwazi kunqumla engqondweni. Ngubani owayeza Niyakholwa yiloo nto? Kodwa ke kuza umsebenzi zokudubula enzima - amabali abamelwane kunye nezihlobo abaye benza impazamo enkulu - tonsured umntwana kunyaka wokuqala wobomi, yaye akukho nto intle kuphuma loo mntwana sele ibisencinane. Kukho sele naliphi unina kufuneka ukucinga.

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akazange Umakhulu abe phi olu lwazi? Eyona nto kukuba olu lwazi - isithethe iinkulungwane. Yonke into ilula kakhulu ukuchaza. Phambi ayisekho igama elithi "iinwele", nokuba kwandisa umntu phezu kwentloko ebizwa ngokuba 'wisps "(kuphela ehlabathini namhlanje, eli gama liye kancinane emdaka, benjenjalo ukumemeza iinwele kakuhle abanembeko). Kungenzeka sele ukulandela uxhulumaniso, nkqu ngokwazo, "Cosma - isithuba". Eyona nto kukuba abantu Ndandisoloko ndikholelwa ukuba umntwana enxulumene kakhulu kakhulu imikhosi ezahlukeneyo babiziweyo izinto ezahlukeneyo, kuquka isithuba. Lonke ulwazi ezintle kuza phezu kusana (kwakunye nawuphi na umntu omdala) ngokusebenzisa iinwele. Ngokuzisika, uyakwazi kuthintela umntwana lukhulu. Kungenxa yoko le nto kukho izinto ezininzi ezahlukeneyo ezinxulumene iinwele ukunika abantu ubuhle kuphela kwilivo nezithethe zethu, kodwa amandla kunye nengqondo.

enye inguqulo

Kukho olunye uhlobo lwe kutheni abantwana kunqunyulwa ngonyaka. Eyona nto kukuba kwanaxa Russia Intshabalalo yaMandulo izinga yokufa phakathi iintsana laliphezulu kakhulu ukuya kunyaka. Ukuba usana bafa phambi ngoko, kwakukholelwa ukuba nje akazange afune ukuhlala entsatsheni, yaye umphefumlo wakhe waya kukhangela ukuba omnye. Ukuba umntwana ipasisa umgca ongabonakaliyo enjalo, ukwamkelwa kwayo kulindeleke izithethe ezithile, wayephakathi apho Novunayo iinwele (ukhakhayi isiko). Oku kuthetha ukuba intsapho ukuziphendulela lwamalungu amatsha yaye uthembisa ukuba ukukhusela nokufundisa.

Ngokutsho bengqondo

Kwi ngaba umntwana kufuneka lisikwe ngonyaka, lingakwazi uxelele ngengqondo. Kokuvulwa, Kakade, akukho namnye uya - ukuthanda kubo bonke abazali, kodwa ke ezi iingcali kanye bexelelwa into abafanele ukuyenza angafanele ngayo. Into yokuba umntwana oselula ubona ngokwalo xa iyonke, yena akakuqondi iinwele okanye izikhonkwane, umzekelo, oko ngokukhuselekileyo kunqunyulwa, kodwa ingalo yahlukana ayisekho ekhula umva. Kungenxa yoko le nto, ukuba uyaqonda kwi ethile kwinqanaba osezingqondweni, ukuba kukhona ukuphulukana, kuba wayesoyika, abangenazigqibo, uze wenze yonke into ukuze uphephe nxaniso enjalo. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba ezinye iintlanga, umzekelo, amaYuda ngokubanzi musa ukusika abantwana abangaphantsi kweminyaka emithathu ubudala.

Yintoni bathi bezifo?

Kukho uluvo ukuba ingaba ukunciphisa umntwana ngamnye ngonyaka kuyimfuneko, udokotela. Oogqirha, Kakade ke, musa kubona nantoni na ephosakeleyo okanye embi apha kwinkqubo ngokwayo, kodwa kukho ingongoma eyahlukileyo kancinane. Eyona nto kukuba umntwana omncinane kungenakwenzeka ukuba abe nako ukuhlala kuloo ndawo yaye akabuya intloko yakhe. Kwaye igcwele walimala namanxeba, emva koko kwiimvuthuluka ngokubanzi uyakwazi ukuphuhlisa iintlobo kuloyiko kunye nenkxalabo. Ukuba amandla umntwana ukuba ahlale esihlalweni sakhe, usana inokwenzeka uxinezeleko okanye perevolnuetsya ukuba kakubi kuchaphazela imeko luvo. Ngoko ke, ngokutsho oogqirha babantwana, ukususela loo nkqubo ingcono kunyaka wokuqala wobomi ukunika.

Ntoni abazali namhlanje xa

More on kutheni abantwana kunqunyulwa ngonyaka, kuba izimvo zabo, kunye nabazali mihla. Phakathi kwabo Kusekho intsomi ukuba uchetyiwe kwaneenwele umntwana oneminyaka ubudala, oku kulandelayo sele ikhule ngokupheleleyo esomelela ngokomelela. Ngokubanzi, ngoko ke umntwana neenwele nje kakhulu. Le nto ithetha ukuba, isibakala le ezingaqondakaliyo kwaye andingekhe ndiwugqithe uqikelelo. Ngokumalunga iinwele ngonyaka, oko kusenokuba ngakumbi womlinganiswa kubuhle. Ngapha koko, abanye abantwana iinwele zikhule kakhulu ngamandla kunyaka wokuqala wobomi yaye nje uqale aphazamise. Oku kuyinyaniso ngokukodwa amakhwenkwe abalangazelela iinwele ngokungeyomfuneko ngokupheleleyo. Kwakhona, bonke abazali bafuna ukugcina ezi usana ubuncwane iinwele kuqala. Enjalo nako ukucheba: abazali ukuqokelela izimvi kwaye uwagcine kwimvulophu eyodwa elincinane njenge uhlobo khubalo.

malunga ukucheba

Ukwazi isizathu sokuba ngonyaka kunqunyulwa abantwana babo, yaye ngoku ufuna ukuxelela nokuba njani ukwandisa le nkqubo. Apha, kukho iindlela ezininzi. Okokuqala, bonke kwenziwa ekhaya ngoncedo koomatshini (ukuba ngoku phantse yonke intsapho). Nobubi esinjalo: UMama noTata sihlala siyazi into ezinokuphazamisa umntwana ukuze kube kwaphela. Ukongeza kusapho usana ukuzithemba kakhulu ngaphezu kwabanye abantu. Bawo: UMama noTata - iinwele hayi ngobuchule kwaye wenze into ephosakeleyo, ingakumbi xa umntwana bangenzi mpandla entlokweni yabo, uchebe nje. Njengoko enye - uhambo ukuya iinwele. Yilaa apho umsebenzi uya kwenza yonke ngobuhle, kwaye ngokomthetho. Noko ke, kusenokuba kukho iingxaki nesibakala sokuba umntwana asisiqalelo ungayithandi indawo okanye inkosi ngokwakhe, yaye nje uyala ukuba ahlale. umntwana nayo kuba imeko entsha nje ebangel 'umdla, yaye athule, ngaphandle kokucima entloko, inkwenkwe yakhe Chubby encinane iya kuba nzima kunene. Ngoko ke, indlela bachebe iinwele kunyaka umntwana - abazali bekhetha ngayo. Noko ke, kukho kungcono ukuthatha ezininzi bokuqonda ingqalelo, kuquka uhlobo umntwana.

ngayo isiko

Enye khetho ukuqhuba njani isiko ukhakhayi, emva izithethe endala. Ngoko ke, into yokuqala ethi, bonke zazo kufuneka ukuqhuba abantu abasondeleyo: umama, utata, kamakhulu okanye uTatomkhulu ungakwenza oko njengoko godparents. Ngapha koko, kukholelwa ukuba akuyi kuyinqamla umyinge umntwana, kodwa uze ungambuyiseli eninzi yonke into entle ebomini baby. Ukuze enze isiko ukhakhayi, inkwenkwe kufuneka zityalwe kwi ukwesona okanye ngezambatho zeegusha, intombazana - le komqamelo enze amanyathelo ayimfuneko. Enye indlela izibhambathiso: kuqala, ukuxhaphaza ethwele notata owayemele, ngoko Ummeli. Kokuba uvule i shear ezine umqadi iinwele lukangxabalaza intloko bonke ziyimfumba eye eqhiyeni. Inkqubo ngokwawo ngenxa yabanye, kwaye umntwana kufuneka ikhatshwe prigovorkami ezahlukeneyo nezicengcelezo (kwi wamtshicela - ubuhle wentombazana ke neenwele-Kucherik boy). Emva koko, itakane ngokuqinisekileyo ukunika isipho ekhumbulekayo. Kuphela emva zazo ezo ucheba usana zigugulwe ngokupheleleyo. Loo nto kanye ngokwe izithethe zamandulo, kuyimfuneko ukusika usana ngonyaka. Hi ndlela leyi, isenzo esinjalo nazo iguqulwe ibe umbhiyozo encinane. Ha yini?

bokuqonda

Ngoko ke kubaluleke ezinye bokuqonda. Ngokutsho amabali, ixesha lokuqala ukusika umntwana kufuneka ibe kuphela ngemini elungileyo emini enkulu, kwi-12 emini. Kufuneka kwakhona ukuba ucinge into yokwenza iinwele cut. Phosa kulo doti nje eza. Apha kukho iinguqulelo ezininzi iziganeko. Ngoko ke, unako nokubasindisa emvulophini kwi ubomi obude kunye ebalaseleyo impilo yosana. Unako kwakhona aqhumisele, ukuphindaphinda amagama athile ukuba yokukhusela umntwana. Kungenzeka kwakhona ukuba kungcwaba bafakwa emanzini. Konke oku kuyimfuneko ukuqinisekisa ukuba abantu ababi nje akwazi ukuya iinwele umntwana kwaye uzenze into embi.

iziphumo

Usike umntwana ukuya nyaka, unyaka emva - kuxhomekeke ukuba abazali ngokwabo. Akukho namnye unako ukunika impendulo ngqo - ukwenza nto okanye hayi. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuba bathi enye into: ukwenza njani umama kunye notata - kube njalo. Kungenxa kuphela uyazi oko kulungele umntwana nendlela usana kuhle ukuyenza.