Le ntombazana okhulelweyo - isipho okanye isohlwayo?

Ukukhulelwa. abaselula abaninzi lwezibini uthando wothuka kakhulu xa befunda malunga livela, kwaye abanye bakholelwa koko, esi sipho karhulumente esivela ezulwini, uThixo. Ukoyika ukukhulelwa ngokwemvelo, ingakumbi ukuba aseke bengekafiki yobudala emntaneni. Vumelanani, ukuba intombazana umithi eneminyaka engama-13-15 - oko kuchasene zombini nemilinganiselo yokuziphatha apho ubomi uluntu lwale mihla kunye nokuvuthwa zendalo komzimba kumzimba. Ke inkazana leyo ithe emithe njenge minor - kukho zamacala amabini. Okanye isisu, emva koko kunokukhokelela uxanduva solwaphulo nobuqhophololo abantwana, okanye ubomi bentsapho kunye ukuzalwa komntwana.

Amaxesha amaninzi, elwandle olukhulu lamaphepha web uyakwazi kukhubeka phezu mbuzo: "zithwele intombi yam, ukuba benze ntoni, njani ukwenza into elungileyo." Impendulo engagungqiyo lo mbuzo akukho; kuba yonke into ixhomekeke kwiimeko, ukuchuma eziphathekayo zentsapho, impilo oomama abatsha kunye nabanye. Kuqala kufuneka uzazi wena, yaye ukulungele ukuba abazali nokuba? Uya kuba nako ukuthwala lonke uxanduva uxanduva eya kuwa emagxeni akho yayisathe bezingekavuthwa emva kokuba umntwana azalwe? Kuyo nayiphi na imeko, wena nentombi yakho okhulelweyo, ukuba benze ntoni, kufuneka ukufumanisa kunye.

Xa uza kukwazi ukuza uluvo eqhelekileyo (okanye ngokuzalwa umtshato okanye ukuqhomfa), kufuneka intetho esinzulu gqitha nabazali bakho ukuba intombi yakho ekhulelwe, bagudile ngaxeshanye malunga izicwangciso zexesha elizayo. Kakade ke, uninzi lwabazali inkxaso oonyana babo kulo, njengoko abantwana, nangona ukuba ezingakhange zicwangciswe, - iintyatyambo yobomi. Ngaphezu koko, isibindi, bathenga umsesane kunye isipha seentyatyambo ezintle, hamba kunye nabazali (utata kufuneka sibe khona) ukuya kwikhaya lomfazi wakhe elizayo. Cacisela usapho yonke imeko intombazana abakhulelweyo ucele isandla sakhe oyintanda intliziyo, kwimeko impendulo entle inxalenye yayo, kwaye imvume yabazali - baleka ukulungiselela lomtshato, kwakunye ukuba adibane ugqirha, oya kubamba ultrasound yokuqala.

Ngelishwa, uphando lubonisa ukuba izibini abaninzi abaselula, esoyika ingqumbo umsindo abazali babhenele isisu, zingazi iziphumo uphazamiseko nequmrhu ibhinqa eliselula. Emva kokuba isibini ifumanisa ukuba uyakhulelwa, bafuna iindlela ukuba balahle nje isiqhamo isuka.

Kuyinyani ukuba umntwana ukuba isisu ngaphandle kwemvume yabazali kuyathintelwa. Ngoko ke, izibini bangenamava okanye unoloyiko bagxalathelane ukuya kwiphepha le web ekhangela i "mthethweni 'isisu, ngelishwa, na. Abakhohlisi ebesizenza oogqirha banamava nabakulungeleyo, kunokuba ngokuphanga ngeemali ezinkulu imali abafikisayo zinika iinkonzo zabo. Kuba isisu njenge iimeko eziyimfuneko yococeko, kunye nezakhono ezithile, ngenxa phambi kwezi meko zichaphazela elizayo umfazi omithiyo, impilo kunye nobomi.

sincoma We ngamandla wena ukuba intombi yakho ukwimo 'umdla "- Ndicinga nokuhlalutya yini kube neziphumo isisu ezingcolileyo, umntu angenayo nkqu ulwazi unyango olusisiseko eziya kuchaphazela ngokungalunganga impilo othandiweyo wakho. Zama ukuthetha nabazali bakho, ngenxa yokuba "umtyholi ayikho ezimbi njengoko ipeyintiweyo." Kakhulu ukuba angenza ntoni - ukumthethisa kuwe, badanduluka, esisongela ukuhlukana intombazana, kodwa ekugqibeleni, xa ipholiswa baze baqalise lokuvavanya siganeko nangengqwalasela enkulu, uluvo lwabo zinokutshintsha kakhulu kwaye baya kusikeleleka nomkhulu wakhe ehlabathini.