Mbumbulu - na indlela esa self-ekubonakaleni

Ngethuba lokusekwa umntu Ndingathanda ukubona umzekelo ukuyilandela. Ngoko kusengqiqweni kakhulu - nabani na ofuna ukuba umfanekiso elihle de abe epheleleyo yaye yabunjwa ngokupheleleyo. Kuthekani ukuba umntwana ukhetha ngumzekelo omhle kuwe? Kufuneka wenze ntoni xa umntu omdala abadinga isithixo onjalo? Umfuziselo Indima okulungileyo nokubi? Oku zonke ezinye imiba kuya kuxoxwa ngazo kule post.

Mbumbulu ebuntwaneni

Ukuba unabantwana, okanye ukubukela amatakane abathandekayo okanye nezihlobo, mhlawumbi waphawula ukuba ngokufuthi itakane ufuna 'kuba njengaye wonke umntu. "

Loo ukulingiswa - kuyinto eqhelekileyo xa ufunyansiwe ukuba ihlabathi abantwana abakhula kwixesha imodeli inkangeleko nokuziphatha ke yobudala efanayo. Akukho mfuneko ukunciphisa umntwana kumnqweno wakhe ukufana nabanye abafana, kwelinye icala, naziphi na izithintelo kuya kubangela ukungaqondani.

Mbumbulu in yokukhula

Lo mbuzo etsolo abayimizekelo oqhubeka ukufikisa. Eli lixesha xa amakhwenkwe kunye namantombazana babesele ezichongiweyo ngokwabo, kodwa njengomntu zisekhona akuqolanga. Okumangalisayo kukuba, ukuba igunya uba abazalwana abadala okanye noodade, abazali. Kodwa kufuneka siqonde ukuba umntwana usoloko kwindawo yezentlalo, yaye uza kuba ezo esikolweni ozijonga aziphathe "cool." Kuba amakhwenkwe yeyona oobhuti bembiza ujonge kootitshala nezifundo, basele utywala kunye umsi. Kumantombazana, umzekelo ukulandela - isoloko intombazana kunye nenkangeleko eliqaqambileyo ngoncedo izithambiso, ngokunxiba izinxibo evulekileyo sexy kwaye bayaphumelela kunye namakhwenkwe. Ukuba intombi yakho ongumzekelo yatshintsha ngesiquphe ngokupheleleyo ngubo yakhe okuziintloni, Ngokoluvo lwakho, kwabonakala entsha, abadala ngaphezu isoka lakhe - musa ukothuka. Kodwa gu bucala kwaye senze ngayo.

Indlela uchaze okulungileyo nokubi

Abantwana avelana amacebiso wobahlabileyo behlonipha. Ukuba wenza ukutshaya okanye ulwimi oluthukayo, kodwa makube lee ukuba benze okufanayo umntwana wakho, awukwazi ukuba ukuthobela olomeleleyo. Ngaphezu koko, qiniseka ukuba uya kukuphulaphula. Ukuba ucinga ukuba abe ngumzekelo omhle umntwana wakhe, ukuze ixesha nexesha ukubamba iintetho eyimfihlo. Kodwa nayiphi na imeko, musa abathethise kwaye musa abo umntwana ifumana grouch edinayo. yokuziphatha wakho kufuneka Ilula ifihliwe. Umzekelo, kunokuba amabali ngamava akhe okanye amava omaziyo.

Into efana nale: "Kwaba kwiklasi intombi yethu, efana kakhulu Tanya eliqaqambileyo bakho, nabantwana abadala ukwenza abahlobo ngoko, kwibakala yeshumi abakhulelweyo uyazi ngaye lo mntwana sele ndizale, kodwa imfundo akuthethi ufumane ukubona kutshanje, esebenza kulo ... market yethu othengisayo ukhangela ezoyikekayo. " Musa ukwenza eminye kwizigqibo, njenge "uyabona, uya kuqhubeka kuyo, kodwa asazi ukuba uza ', kungenjalo umntwana ngesiquphe ubona kulo. Ngokwahlukileyo koko, shiya ibali engagqitywanga, makhe umntwana wakho ngokwalo ushwankathela "report" wakho uze wenze ngokwabo ngoko kulungileyo noko akazange.

Xa sixelisa abadala

Abantu abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba axelise ngabom - Lilungelo leSebe i abantwana okanye elivisayo. Ngokuqinisekileyo akunjalo! Le ngabaxelisa ezinkulu - oku "abadala", oko kukuthi, abo ngaphezu mabini phezulu .. Into yokuba umntwana uziphuculeyo - iqhelekile. Kodwa umntu udlule lokufikisa, ngokuqinisekileyo kufuneka aqonde ukuba ngubani na; Akunjalo elula. Kuphuhliso ngamnye kuthi, kuyo nayiphi na imeko ufuna umzekelo. Ukuba akuzange kuncede, ekugqibeleni uya kuqonda oku, kuba ubomi akayi ziyaphuma imbono yethu, yaye indlela elula ukutshintsha ngayo ukutshintsha ngokwakho. Kwakhona lo mbuzo kuvela umzekelo yokukhangela, kwaye ngoko ke bexelisa kwabanye iba impendulo. Sikhetha engaqondanga umntu kwabazana okubonakala ngempumelelo, enomtsalane, ngokubanzi, kwaye njengokuba engaqondanga sixelise isimbo sakhe sengqondo okanye indlela yobomi, ukusukela imikhwa ezingephi kunye iqinelwa kunye nenkangeleko nokuyifeza ngeninako.

Zonke ezinye iindima zigcwele

Mbumbulu - lithuba lokuba bazive bezithembile kwihlabathi apho kungekho imithetho yobomi. Yintoni samxelela abazali njengomntwana, utitshala, xa ukulahlwa amava yobomi bethu. Simamela icebiso kwabanye, ukwenza ngaphandle, kodwa, ubomi bethu ayifani nabani nenye. Yonke impumelelo yethu, ukusilela, iintsuku bonwabile kunye anzima kubo - oku isiphumo yokuziphatha kwethu, kwaye akukho ngaphezulu. Xa ufuna abanye yaye ufuna umzekelo ukulandela, ebomini bakho, hayi omnye umntu odlulayo. Lilungelo leyo - oko ukuba wena. Kodwa njani oku kuyinyaniso, ngoko ke kunzima.

Eyona ilula noluhlala - ube wena

Kutheni kunzima? Inyaniso kukuba ngoko kufuneka abe noxanduva ngokupheleleyo zonke izenzo zabo. Xa sixelisa abanye, ngenjongo okanye hayi, nina ukutyhalela ezinye luxanduva la magunya. Ukuba kukho into engahambi kakuhle ebomini bakho, uya kusoloko ukwazi ukuba uthi abe intuthuzelo: ". Yindlela zonke ngenxa yokuba ndiye umzekelo umntu engalunganga" Okwangoku, umntu uthathwa njengoko wabumba zingasetyenziswa kuphela xa ngaba niyavuma ukuba noxanduva zonke izenzo zabo. Kubonakala njengoko ukulingiswa abadala - le yindlela yokuphepha uxanduva, kwaye kungekho ngaphezulu.