Izicwangciso zothando lomfana. Yintoni ebangela oku

Awu, uthando ... zingaphi izizukulwana ziye zagubha phantsi kweNyanga, zifumana iimvakalelo ezingenanto. Omnye uyakhala kunye nexhala, ngelixa abanye bazama ngazo zonke iindlela ukulwa nomntu wabo othandekayo. Ngexesha elidlulileyo, icebo lenzelwe uthando lomntu (kwaye kungekhona enye kuphela), elalifanele imkhombe kwaye imshiye ngonaphakade ngaphandle komntu ophupha ngaye. Ngezantsi ndiya kunika umzekelo wecebo kwaye ndikuxelele indlela yokuziphatha kakuhle. Nangona kunjalo, okokuqala ndifuna ukuthetha malunga nokuba yiyiphi into - inceba yothando lomntu, kunokuba bangasongela.

Ubulungisa - oku kukuthi, ngokubanzi, ubugcisa bendoda, obani umsebenzi wabo ukufezekisa nayiphi na injongo. Isiqulatho, okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, iphethini yokumemeza kwindlela yokuthetha, izazinzulu zanamuhla zikholelwa, zinceda ingqondo idibanise kwisigqi esifanelekileyo, iququzelele amandla omoya ukuba afinyelele injongo. Intsimi ekhethekileyo yamandla yenziwa ngokukhawuleza kwindalo yokudala, leyo, isasazeka, inokuchaphazela abanye. Yingakho isicwangciso sokuthanda umntu okanye intombazana, ukuthengiswa ngempumelelo, njl. Unokusebenza.

Nangona kunjalo, umbuzo ochazwe apha apha. Umntu owe phantsi kweqhinga lokuthandana unokulahlekelwa ngumnqweno wakhe, ube ngumdoli ongenakukhathazeka ezandleni zakhe. Kukho nawuphi na, akayi kuba yinto ayengaphambi kwayo. Ngamanye amaxesha oku kwahluka kwabonakala kakhulu ukuba intombazana ecebile uthando lomfana yedwa okanye ngoncedo lwenkosazana ayiyivuyo nemiphumo. Kwaye indlela ephindaphindiweyo ayikho: i-lapel inzima kakhulu ukwenza ngaphezu kokupasa. Kwaye lowo mntu akayidonki, ukuze yena, ngokuthanda kwakhe kunye neyakhe, unyanzelekile ukuba enze.

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuba iqhinga lothando lomfana liphela ngempumelelo, enye imeko ingavela: intombazana eqhuba umkhosi iya kumyeka ukumthanda. Kuya kuba ngumthwalo ongafunekiyo, onzima kakhulu ukuwukrazula.

Yintoni enokuyenza?

Ngaba kulungele ukwenza icebo lokuthanda umfana okanye ukufumana ezinye iindlela zokubamba umdla? Ndiya kukhetha indlela yokugqibela. Unokudibana nomfana, fumana into enomdla kuyo, zama ukuthabatha kwaye kuyimfuneko kuye. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba usenokugqiba ukuba ubambe iqhinga lokuthandana nomntu, kwaye ungayisebenzisi inzuzo yokuzikhethela, isithethe sidinga ukulungiswa kakuhle.

Okokuqala, kufuneka ucinge ngokucacileyo nangokucokisekileyo, unikezele zonke ezi ngasentla, ngaba ulungele ukuthatha uxanduva lokuzikhethela.

Ukuba uthe wagqiba ekubeni iziphumo zilungele, qhubeka.

Sifumana umfanekiso womntu, siphucula amanzi angabonakaliyo. Oku kunokuba ngamanzi avela entwasahlobo okanye itompom, kodwa kufuneka uyifowule ekuseni. Siqala ukwenza iqhinga. Unako ukufumana isicatshulwa esifanelekileyo kwiincwadi ezikhethekileyo okanye kwi-intanethi, kodwa umkhuba wam ubonisa ukuba kungcono ukuyibeka ngokwakho. Qulunqa iphepha elikufunayo ukufikelela: uthando, isondo, uthando. Zama ukwakha umbhalo ofutshane kodwa onyanisekileyo, unike isigqi esiphezulu. Ulungele?

Silindele inyanga ekhulayo, kwaye ngekota ukuya kweyeshumi elinesibini siqala iRite. Sikulungele ukuhlala phantsi kwisihlalo seentonga, etafuleni phambi kwethu sibeke isithombe somfana, sibeka phezu kwayo iglasi kunye namanzi kwaye simboza ngesandla sokhohlo.

Izihlandlo ezisi-9 sifunda icebo, emele umfanekiso womntu othandekayo. Emva koko sifafeza isithombe kunye namanzi ukusuka kwiglasi, uthumele isithombe kunye neglasi kwi window evulekile, phantsi kokukhanya kweNyanga. Kwangathi ingahlawulwa ngokunyanzela ubusuku bonke. Emva koko umxholo wesiphelo kufuneka uphuze le manzi. Iyakongezwa kwiitayi, inxiliswe ngeqhwa okanye ijusi.

Ngaba izenzeliso zisebenza ngothando lomfana? Basebenza, kodwa kuphela xa ukholelwa ngokunyanisekileyo kubo, musa ukuzibandakanya kwizithethe kuphela. Jonga ukubonakala kwakho, khangela isangqa semithwalo yomthandi wakho, zama ukuthabatha kuye. Kwaye ke, ngokungathandabuzeki, inhlanhla iya kubuyela kuwe, imimoya emnyama iya kuba kwicala lakho.

Ngaphandle koko, amagama aya kuhlala ngamazwi nje, ukuhamba komoya okulula.