Indlela ukuziphatha, xa unyana wakho okwishumi elivisayo wavuma ukuba ubufanasini

kid wakho oneminyaka elishumi elinesithandathu ubudala kuza kuwe uncedo ngokupheleleyo yonke imiba ukusukela ulwimi lwasemzini esikolweni kunye nabahlobo nesiphelo. Uyakwazi ukusebenzisa iiyure ethetha malunga nezopolitiko, ezemidlalo kunye thotho TV yakutshanje. Ungacinga ukuba kukho nantoni na ukuba nako ukuthetha naye. Kwaye oku kuyinyaniso, kude kufike ixesha apho umntwana wakho evuma ukuba yena gay. Indlela abasabela ngayo abazali ukuqaphela ezo inokuba nomahluko: umntu unako ngokupheleleyo lula ukuba niwuhluthe, kwaye abanye aphakuzele, nomsindo, ukuba gxwa ukudandatheka njalo njalo. Nantsi into ekufuneka uyenze ukuba kuya kuza usapho lwakho imini efana.

zavunyelwa

Funda iincwadi, ukukhangela Internet, ukunxibelelana kunye abacebisi zesikolo. Ngendlela efanayo njengoko ubuya kunye nawuphi na umntwana wakho, thetha unyana okanye intombi ngokuphandle malunga ngesondo okukhuselekileyo, ingakumbi nge-HIV, AIDS kunye nezinye izifo, izifo ezidluliselwa ngeentlobano zesini. Wena nomntwana wakho awukho wedwa, uncedo uhlale apho. Ungayitshintsha nanini atyelela amaziko afanelekileyo kwi-Internet ukuze ufumane inkcazelo engakumbi.

luzakuhlala luvulekile

Eli lixesha elibalulekileyo umntwana wakho. Nangona ezi ndaba kusenokuba nzima ukuba umbono wakho, kuba mzuzu ngokweemvakalelo kakhulu. Zama ukuba ukubonisa umnqweno ngokugqithiseleyo ukunceda. Vumela umntwana wakho ukuba wena uhlala apho, kodwa musa ukuthatha iinkokheli ngesisombululo kuzo zonke iingxaki zakhe.

Yiba zivule

Musa ukuxelela abanye ngayo. Khathalela ubomi bakhe kunye nelungelo lokuba wedwa. Isigqibo malunga kubo ukuxelela yaye nini, ukuba awenze; ngokuphelele ephethwe umntwana wakho, hayi wena. Yiba eyingcathu ngayo emphefumlweni, engqondweni nasemzimbeni impilo yakhe, kwakunye sinikele ingqalelo iimpawu zokudakumba okanye gadalala ngokwasemzimbeni. Ukuba kuyimfuneko, funa uncedo lobungcali.

Yiba nomonde

Ngoxa ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuqonda ukuba umzali usoloko ekulungele inkxaso umntwana wakho, iimvakalelo zakho ibe eyahlukileyo kule. Abazali abaninzi bazive ingathi sele wenze into engalunganga, kodwa ke kwiimeko ezininzi yinto urhulumente emphefumlweni ngokukhawuleza.

Yiba ubuhlobo ummeli engaqhelekanga

Xa sele ukulungele, nina bathi elikhulu. Joyina umbutho wasekuhlaleni abazali zobufanasini abantwana abathatha inxaxheba Gay Ukuzingca (izabelo ukuba umboniso ubukho abantu LGBT eluntwini). Qala ukuthetha ngokuchasene abathandana nezini. Bhala oonobumba kumaziko asekuhlaleni, zikamasipala kunye karhulumente, befuna amalungelo oluntu ukuba wonke. Ukuba kuza ekuhlaleni gay yaye bathathe inxaxheba kwimisebenzi yalo, nina inkxaso umntwana wakho yena, ambonise indlela kuthetha kuni.