Indlela ukunciphisa ebuntombini bakhe sokunene?

Ekwaluphaleni phambili, xa yonke into ngesondo yaziwa phantse kusukela ezalwa, ebuntombini abaninzi kubonakala ngandlel iphelelwe lixesha kwaye engeyomfuneko. Ke intombi elivisayo kugqalwa zithandwa kakhulu, ingakumbi kwimvelaphi ekhululekile xa kuqwalaselwa kunye nabahlobo besini esahlukileyo. Kodwa ukuba ubuza amantombazana malunga "Yidilizeni kuqala" zabo, phantse bonke bathi ukuba buhlungu, mnandi, akulungile ukuze kulindeleke. Kufuneka wenze ntoni kule meko? Indlela ukunciphisa ebuntombini bakhe yaye akazange namava ukungaphatheki?

Masiqalise nesibakala sokuba kweli nqaku siza Musa ukuthetha malunga kwizithuba ezichanekileyo ngesondo, kungekhona malunga nendlela yokutsala a guy uze umxelele ukuba ukulungele ukumnika benyulu. Imalunga ukuxelela njani ukuba sele ukulungele yena lo nyathelo libalulekileyo, nendlela lako ngokuchanekileyo ebuntombini bakhe, emva koko akazange abe excruciatingly buhlungu emzimbeni nasengqondweni.

Ngoko ke ndagqiba ekubeni ndibe umntu omdala ze uqale ukuba baphile ubomi ngokwesondo. Cinga ngocoselelo ukulungele na. Umntu ngamnye yakhe yobudala kuwo. Ukuze ndonwabe, kuyimfuneko ukuba enze ngokungqinelana nale yobudala. Ngoko ke, ngaphambi kokuba ulahlekelwe unyulu, cinga ukulungele kuba nokuba ngaphakathi. Musa ukuba wenze impazamo, ukuba uye kwi malunga owayeyintombi ngophuhliso ngakumbi? Enoba awukwenzi oko nje ukuba njengaye wonke umntu? Ukuba ubani yezi zizathu fly entlokweni yakho kungcono ukuba elinye eli nyathelo: uvuyo besini yokuqala kunqabile ukuba uphumelele, kodwa kubonakale konakalisa ngonaphakade.

Phambi kokuba ulahlekelwe unyulu, kufuneka ukhethe iqabane ekunene. Khumbula ukuba ukuthanda isini ixhomekeke kubudlelwane bakho ngokweemvakalelo emntwini. Loo nto a guy othandwayo, le nkqubo iya kuba mnandi ngakumbi xa lo mgaqo "nje ukuzama". Alithandabuzeki elokuba, ukuba umnike ubumsulwa bakhe, ngoko ke umntu apho wena uya kuba 100% qiniseka ukuba lingenakumbi, uye wena ukuziva efudumeleyo, akayi siphaphazela ubuso phambi kwabanye abeza kuni nolwalamano olusondeleyo.

Ngoko ke inkqubo ye yokulahlekelwa zobuntombi kwakhona ifanelwe ethile uqeqesho. Best zonke, ukuba zenzeke umoya yothando cwaka kwigumbi lakho okanye umntu umele azive ekhululekile kwaye mnandi, ngokuba sengqondo ekunene - sele isiqingatha edabini. Kwakhona, qiniseka ukuba iqabane lakho siyazi ukuba intombi, uze umcele ukuba alumke yaye ingqalelo kuwe, kuba intlungu eyaphukileyo nenwebu ebonisa ubuntombi nto badla kwenzeka ngenxa yeentshukumo ngequbuliso. Kulungile kuyanceda bakhululeke kwaye ihambelane ngaphakathi kwindlela kwindlela efanelekileyo yesigqibo joint ngaphambi kokuba ibhafu yamanzi ashushu. Kakade ke, khumbula malunga nothintelo. Phambi kokuba ulahlekelwe unyulu, qiniseka ukuba bachukumise kulo mba kunye nesithandwa sakhe. Nditsho ixesha lokuqala kunokwenzeka ukuba ukhulelwe okanye abambise nasiphi na isifo, ngeentlobano zesini. Akuthandeki ukuba nifuna ukuba wenze njalo.

Ngaba uyazi ukuba ungaphulukana unyulu kodwa? Xa edume kakhulu okanye xa kuhanjwa. Ngokwesiqhelo, kulula ukulwenza ngokwaneleyo ukusuka kwindawo yezonyango lwembono, kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu ngokwalo bengqondo. Ngoko ke musa ukukhawuleza kunye ungeno nokuphila kwabantu abadala, kodwa ke ukuba ngenene bafuna oko, yenze umntu omthandayo ukugcina esi siganeko kuphela ezimnandi.