Abantwana benza "le" - indlela aziphathe ngayo umntu omdala?

Abantwana ubudala kokuya esikolweni emihle kakhulu eqhelekileyo eziqhelekileyo zophendlo lwezifo ezifana zokudlala na usana lwakhe, iminwe, izikhonkwane imvubu, masturbation (ngokuphulula). A imeko isenokuvela xa umzali ufumana umntwana edlala kunye ubuntu babo. Indlela yokuqala - shoka, ngamanye amaxesha umnqweno lokohlwaya kakuhle. Kodwa emva kokuba antsi iza kudlula, musa ukuthethisa kwaye ngempama izandla umntwana ifanele ibe lula ukujongana nalo mba kwaye baqonde ukuba baziphathe kwaye nomawukwenze xa abantwana benza njani "loo nto."

Ngamalungu umntwana oselula. Yintoni ukwenza ntoni?

Ukhule itakane emangalisayo, kwaye xa efika kukho ixesha xa uphawula ukuba umntwana ochukumisa okanye udlala ubuntu bakhe. Umbuzo ngulo: ntoni na? ukwazi abantwana, nto leyo Kungokwemvelo kuphuhliso umntwana, okanye umkhwa zophendlo lwezifo - masturbation (masturbation)? Kwaye ingaba abantwana efunekayo "lo"?

Ingxelo le ngxaki

Amaxesha amaninzi, ngexesha uphuhliso umntwana ivela onomdla isifundo komzimba inkunzi nemazi. Abantwana babona oontanga babo abadala nomzimba ze, kwangaxeshanye akukho umdla ngaphantsi ngabo kukuba ukufunda iminqweno yakho umzimba wakhe. Abasafunda ukuhamba ukuhlola ubuntu babo ngokusebenzisa imidlalo, ukunwaya, ndimyeke okanye angawachukumisi. Kule meko, akukho nto iphosakeleyo, kukho inkqubo kwengqondo. Kodwa xa lo mntwana luhlangabezana iimvakalelo ezintle, leyo baba ezibalaseleyo, nokukhuthaza esini uba rhoqo kuye.

Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba bajongane "ukuba" abantwana?

Kunjalo ekuqaleni kweminyaka 2-3 ukuthetha umntwana malunga amaphambili, ekubeni kaloku into oyithethayo engayazi into ukuphulula akazi ukuba bachukumise bona kunye nabanye kwiindawo olusondeleyo ingqalelo olungafanelekanga. Ngokuphulula - indlela ngokugqithiseleyo, apho kwenzeka obhobhozayo ngokweemvakalelo. Kudla "ukuba" uza kulala kwindawo ekhuselekileyo. Ukuba masturbation kwenzeka rhoqo, ngoko ibe ngumkhwa yezifo.
Ukuba umntwana abuze imibuzo malunga nesakhiwo open umzimba, umahluko phakathi kwendoda nomfazi okanye intombazana ze umfazi, kuyimfuneko ukuba siziphathe ngokuphucukileyo kwaye aphendule imibuzo abantwana, kwaye angenazintloni ngabo. Le umdla yendalo kunye inyathelo elitsha kwi kuphuhliso lwengqondo nolwazi yehlabathi. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kuphakama umdla phakathi kweminyaka emi-3 ukuya ku-6, ngoko obebuza kude, kwada lokufikisa.

Predictors amaphambili abantwana

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  Bokuphila - ngenxa yokuba i senhliziyo obhobhozayo efunekayo esebenzayo kumaxhala engqondweni.
• Ngokwasengqondweni - in umntwana imvakalelo engelutho, uziva elilolo, ndithiyiwe, kukho ukunqongophala uthando lwabazali kunye nengqalelo.
• Lwezonyango - ubuthongo amahlwempu silale ukuba okhokelayo elide imfuneko yokukhululwa ngokweemvakalelo.

Kuzakubangela imbonakalo amalungu esini ingaba ezinye iziphumo:

• Ukuqhela bodwa abantwana;
• excitability eliphezulu neemvakalelo umntwana;
• ukubanda kamama okanye impulsiveness likayise;
• ukubetha;
• ukuba ukwabelana ngesondo umntwana akayenzanga loo iminqweno yabazali.

Yintoni ukwenza ntoni?

Ngoko, abantwana abancinane niyakwenza oko kaninzi. Ukuba ubanjwe umntwana wakho ukuba amaphambili, kuqala kwiinto zonke, musani kweyela nabasemabeleni, engxolisa umntwana wabo okanye azibandakanye gadalala ngokwasemzimbeni. Kuyimfuneko ukuba sizibambe kunye ubuninzi buchule.

Ukuba umntwana omncinci, zama ukutyhalela cwaka ingqalelo kwinto enye ukuyenza. Ukuba umntwana abafikelele kubudala bokuhamba isikolo, ukuziphatha ezolileyo nayo iyafuneka. Xa uya kuba nakho ukumamela kuwe, kufuneka baxoxe meko, kodwa kunjalo akunakwenzeka ukuba kakubi abanye. Ukuziphatha hlobo abazali zingangunobangela kuphela meko. uthi nje ukuba ilungile ukuba abantwana benza "loo nto." Isikolo kufuneka nabo baya kubamba iintetho isayikholojisti, kodwa ekhaya ukunxibelelana kunye nomntwana, hayi "bahlohlwa" kuye.

Yintoni ekufuneka uyenze ukuze amalungu esini kwakungekho mkhwa zophendlo lwezifo?

Inyathelo lokuqala elibalulekileyo kukufumanisa unobangela amalungu esini. Kufuneka inganikwa ukubaluleka kakhulu kwaye boyikise itakane nemiphumo eyingozi nemikhwa emibi. Amaninzi, izisongelo Theron kwenzakale ingqondo yomntwana, bawaphule elizayo.

Akunako ukuxoxa isifundo mnandi, ukutshintsha nje iindlela zemfundo. abantwana badla inxaxheba kule evela ukunqongophala ingqalelo xa abazali ushiye kuye ngokwakhe. Amaxesha amaninzi ukumdumisa umntwana, ukukhuthaza amazwi iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo, umnika imali eyaneleyo umzimba. Nika umntwana wakho inkululeko yokuzikhethela ukunxibelelana ngayo rhoqo kunye naye imisonto evakalala, kuphephe zokufundisela kunye moralizing, bafunde indlela ukuphendula ngokufanelekileyo inkangeleko neemvakalelo ezingakhiyo. izifo iphathe ezinxulumene nomchamo kunye ne.

Kuyimfuneko ukuba esweni imeko eengubo yi umntwana. Izinto kufuneka zicoceke, ukhululekile. Musa kuyithoba mntwana, kokuxoxa isihloko amalungu esini phambi abasemzini, musa amalungiselelo udliwano-ndlebe kunye neemviwo. Nceda umntwana wakho afumane ikuba, Ezolonwabo omtsha ukuba ahlale yedwa, akaba amgcine ezinabantu.

Asimele silibale ukuba masturbation - le yindlela ndahlukane neemvakalelo ezingakhiyo. Xa ususa i umthombo wamandla ombane, kunye nemfuneko izakulahleka chaphaza iimvakalelo. Ukuba nomkhwa zophendlo lwezifo kuqhubeka de kwiminyaka eli-10, kufuneka udibane oyingcaphephe, ngenxa yokuba unobangela amaphambili kule ubudala ezinokubangelwa kwimpembelelo yabantu abagula ngengqondo.

Ukwanda umntwana ehleliyo okanye uphuhliso ekuqaleni psychosexual kunokukhokelela amalungu esini. Abantwana abaninzi abenza oku, kuba abakwazi ukumelana kubonakaliswa zophuhliso yokuqala. Ukuxhaphaza kule meko nto ngamampunge. Abantwana badinga uncedo lwakho nokuqonda. Kufuneka wazi ukuba uphuhliso ekuqaleni psychosexual inakho ukusebenza yaye kufuneka ziphathwe, kungenjalo esini kamva lwazinziswa ezinokubangela ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo kakhulu ebantwaneni.

Ekuphetheni

Abazali silwele ukususa kwimigibe ingxaki akayi ukusombulula unobangela imikhwa zophendlo lwezifo. Kuba zothintelo kufuneka ibe bunjani ubuhlobo entsatsheni, yokusebenzisana umntwana, wammisa ubudlelwane ethambileyo bokuthembana kunye naye. Ukuhlangabezana neemfuno nangokweemvakalelo umntwana kwi ukukhathalelwa kunye nothando, ulungise rhoqo imisebenzi zolonwabo emzimbeni, kwakunye negalelo kuphuhliso bobuchule abantwana. Kwaye ngoko ke ingxaki oko abantwana bakwenzayo "nto" izakulahleka ngokwalo!