Wangaphandle - it ... ziphandwa kunye nengqiqo

Kaninzi siye usiva igama elithi "elikheswa." Oku akumangalisi, kuba siphila uluntu kwaziwa ukuba ungcono. Yeyona ndawo kunye neenkokheli, kunye nomntu avareji, yaye, ke, abagxothiweyo.

Mhlawumbi ukuba bebesoloko, kwaye kuya kubakho, ngenxa yezizathu okanye omnye musa angena kulo qela. Aba bantu ezichongiweyo nokuba ngokwenzululwazi. Ngenxa yoko, i ulikheswa - na umntu ukuba ezahlukeneyo iimeko, kuvela, njengoko anyanzelwa ngaphandle eluntwini apho ikhona.

Kutheni kukho abantu abanjalo? Khumbula, xa iklasi yakho ukuba phantse ngokuqinisekileyo omnye wabo gadalala okanye ngokwasengqondweni, okanye oko kuyothusa ngokukodwa, ngokwenyama. Ngoko ke yintoni na isizathu sokuba le sengqondo na umntu? Inyaniso yokuba umaleko nganye yahlulwe eluntwini kusekho maleko abangcono (okanye niche), nto leyo unikwa inani elithile iindawo abantu be ezahlukeneyo. Umzekelo, kukho kusoloko kubakho iqela loluntu ezifana "elite". Esi sikolo, njengoko umthetho, amakhwenkwe kunye namantombazana abaphuma kumakhaya afumileyo. Kukho kwakhona kuthiwa-njalo "avareji" - abantwana, akunjalo kuphawuleka, owakhiwa nolwalamano oluhle eklasini kunye nootitshala. Kwaye, kakade, indawo ekhethekileyo inikwa bangaphandle. Okubangel 'umdla kukuba asikuko ukuba ngeke. Nangona kunjalo, inani ezingaphezu kwesithathu, kakhulu, unelungelo lokuphila, njengoko uluntu kudlula ilungelo ukuba "iqela uyalahlekelwa."

Ukuba ngenxa yezizathu okanye omnye ulikheswa laba iqela, indawo yayo nangoko iza kuthatha omnye umntu. Kutheni? Abantwana (kunye nabantu abadala) amaxabiso kunqabile kwahluka uluntu. Wangaphandle - oku ngeendleko bonke abantu uzive ngcono, "ngaphezulu." Bayaqonda ukuba iqela ethile (hayi abakrelekrele kakhulu, cute uphuhliso, ngokwasemzimbeni, njalo njalo. D.), Kodwa ngenxa yokuba kufuneka nje ukwazi ukuba kukho umntu ngakumbi kunaso.

Ingaba unayo elinamandla naziphi na iimpawu ezifanayo? Indlela ukufumanisa i kusenokwenzeka kakhulu ukuba umntu (umntwana okanye omdala) - a elikheswa eqhelekileyo? Impendulo engagungqiyo kule mibuzo. Noko ke, njengokuba umthetho, abantu abakhubazekileyo, zivaliwe, musa ukuba izakhono enamandla oko konke. Oko kukuthi, ukuba ekuqaleni - ixhoba. Kwelinye icala, kukho iimeko xa isizathu zengqondo ezingalunganga, phezu koko, ubuchule ebalaseleyo. Kungenxa yoko le nto inani esibulalayo ivame honors.

Ngokutsho manani, igumbi labahambi osetyenziswe zengqondo esikolweni - i elikheswa. Ukubaluleka wayenelizwi umntwana ugqirha ngeke babebiza imali. Kwinkqubo loqeqesho ixesha elininzi kufuneka inikwe ekuchongeni amandla ayo, ubuthathaka ezichanekileyo, kwakunye nokusetyenziswa iintlobo ezahlukeneyo beemvavanyo ukwenzela ukuba bakhululeke engqondweni.

Nangona elikheswa - isikakhulu ingxaki yaso, nto leyo wenziwa abantu abakubudala bokuhamba isikolo kumaziko emfundo ephakamileyo, kwaye emsebenzini, lo mkhuba uyabonakala kakhulu kwandile.

Abo baxhalatyiswa okanye nomdla nje ingxaki, esiye phina kuphela kumphezulu ajongwayo kule nqaku, ndifuna ukucebisa ukufunda incwadi. Ibizwa ngokuba "buchopho kunye bangaphandle" (umbhali - M. Gladwell). Sinethemba lokuba iya kukunceda uqonde imiba emininzi kwaye babe namandla.