Imikhwa emibi ayibonakali nomntu. Zifumaneka kwinkqubo yophuhliso, kunye nezakhono ezincedo. Ngaloo nto, akumangalisi ukuba ngamanye amaxesha umntwana akafundi kakuhle kuphela, kodwa ufumana nemikhwa enjalo njengezikhonkwane ze-nibbling.
Ukuba umntwana uyabamba izipikili zakhe, sinokumxhoma njani?
Ngaphambili, kule mkhuba, abazali bajezisa abantwana. Iincwadi ezininzi zichaza indlela abazali abaye bafumana ngayo iinjongo ezilungileyo kunomntwana okanye iindlela ezisetyenziswayo ezinzima - ezityinwe kwiinodine, i-mustard okanye ezinye izinto ezibuhlungu. Xa umntwana ekhupha izipikili, unyango ngeendlela ezinjalo lucatshulwa njengelungileyo, kuba imiphumo yalo mkhuba ayilungile kakhulu:
- Okokuqala, ngokwalo, akusiyo i-esthétique. Umntwana akakwazi ukulungelelanisa kuluntu ngenxa yokuba, ngenxa yokuba abantwana banobukhohlakali, banokugculela nangona nje into enobunzima;
- Okwesibini, izipikili ngokwazo ezi mpembelelo ziyabhujiswa, ziba zibuhlungu kwaye zinyuka, zikhula ngokuthe gqolo kwaye zibe neendlela ezimbi ze-nail hole. Kungaba buhlungu kakhulu kumntwana omncinci kwintombazana okanye kwinkwenkwana;
- Okwesithathu, phantsi kwezipikili ziqokelela zonke iintlobo zeebhaktheriya, amaqanda ama-worms, amathumbu emathumbu kunye nezinye iindiza ezinobungozi emzimbeni, owathi, xa udibana, ungene emathumbu omntwana.
Zonke ezi ngxabano zisenza sibe ngabazali abaxanduva lokuba lixesha lokuthatha amanyathelo kwaye bacinge ukuba: ukuba umntwana uyabamba izipikili zakhe, njani ukumthoba? Ukuze ufumane impendulo yalo mbuzo, kufuneka uqonde indlela efanayo yalo mkhuba wengane yakho.
Bonke oogqirha beengqondo bayavumelana ngombono ofanayo - ukuba umntwana ubetha izipikili zakhe iminyaka engama-3, kuthetha ukuba usekuxinzeleleni. Ezi zilandelayo zingabangela izizathu zangaphandle nangaphakathi. Ngaphambi kokuba ubuze imibuzo malunga nemiphumo yento yokuba umntwana uyabetha izipikili, njani ukulukhupha, kufuneka uqonde izizathu zalo mkhuba. Mhlawumbi uphendule ngokubukhali umntana ngombuzo, wamgxeka into ethile ngokungqongqo okanye akazange umthobele, kwaye wagqiba ekubeni ngale ndlela ujezisa ngenxa yokungathobeli. Ukuphazamisa kula mava kunye nokunciphisa ukuxhatshazwa, umntwana uyangena emlonyeni wakhe umkhonto aze agxeke kwiikhonkwane. Izizathu zangaphakathi zalo mcimbi nazo zibophelelwe kwisijeziso-mhlawumbi umntwana wakho ngokwakhe uyazijezisa ngenxa yecala elityholwa nguye. Mhlawumbi uneengxaki zokuthetha nabanye abantwana, kwaye uyazigxeka. Emva koko umntwana uyazijezisa - zibophelele kwiikhonkwane zokuzilimaza.
Kuthekani ukuba umntwana wakho ahlambe iisilumko zakhe, njani angamthoba? Akunjalo na ke ungacingi. Musa ukumjezisa ngenxa yomkhuba ombi. Kungcono ukuhlaziya ngokucacileyo isizathu sokuba kungenzeki. Bonisa indlela yokunyamekela kakuhle izandla, ukwenzela ukuba izipikili zihle, kwaye zicebisa ukuba zenze ndawonye. Ukongezelela, mnike, ukuba kukho umnqweno wokuhlafuna izikhonkwane zakhe, susa le ngxabano ngezinye iindlela, umzekelo, ngokucima kunye nokungabikho kwamacams. Unokuzama ukudibanisa izizathu zokuba umntwana ufuna ukugaya izipikili zakhe. Kwaye kwixesha elizayo ukumnikela, ngokukhawuleza ukuba isandla sifinyelele emlonyeni wakhe, ngokukhawuleza udwebe oko uhlangene nalo mzuzu. Ulwaphulo olunjalo lunokunceda abazali baqonde ukwesaba komntwana wabo, kunye nosana - ukususa uxinzelelo kwindlela enobungozi. Kwaye ukuze unqande umkhwa onjalo, ungalokothi unqabe ukunika umntwana unxibelelwano olunobungane kunye nolunaphakade.