Ukholo lwabesetyhini: izizathu kunye neempawu

Kwihlabathi lanamhlanje, ukungcatsha yinto eqhelekileyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo ukuxhaphaka kwamadoda kunye nabesifazane. Kubonakala ngathi iqhube amadoda nabesifazana ukuba banqwenela ukutshintsha isiqingatha sabo sesibini? Emva kwakho konke, xa le mizuzu emibini idibanisa iimvakalelo kunye nezibophelelo, kodwa, hayi, kwafika ixesha apho omnye wabo egqibe ekubeni athathe isinyathelo esingawujika ubomi bawo bonke.

Ukholo lwabasetyhini lunezizathu ezininzi. Izibalo zibonisa ukuba ziguqula abantu abaselula, amadoda angaphezu kwama-30% amantombazana nabasetyhini. Utshintsho oluqhelekileyo kubasetyhini luba phakathi kweminyaka engama-30 no-40. Izizathu eziphambili zezi:

• Impindezelo yenye yezizathu eziphambili. Umnqweno wokuziphindezela kumyeni wakhe ngenxa yokungathembeki kunye nokunganakwa kwakhe kuqhube isondo esilungileyo ngenxa yokunyanzela;
• Ukunganeliseki - kulo mzekelo kokubili ngokwenyama nangokomoya;
• Ukususela kwixesha elidlulileyo umgaqo wesetyhini uthatha uqobo-ukuthanda isondo esomeleleyo, ukuvusa ukunyamekwa kwabameli bawo;
• Ukukhungatheka kunye nolwalamano olusisiseko, indlela yokuphila kwintsapho, ubomi ngokubanzi;
• Unxano lweemvakalelo ezintsha, umnqweno wokukrazula ubuqhophololo kunye nobomi obuqhelekileyo.

Ukukrexeza kwezilwanyana kunezinye izizathu ezinokuyichukumisa ngokwesini ukuziphatha ngokunganyaniseki. Ukongezelela, kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba akukho ntombazana okanye umfazi onako ukutshintsha. Kwabaninzi, oku kuyinyathelo elibi kakhulu - kunye nezizathu kufuneka zibe kakhulu, zinamandla kakhulu. Abameli abaninzi basetyhini banakho "ukuvumela" isenzo esinjalo kwiingcamango zabo, okuyiyona nto ibonakalisa ukungcatsha kwabasetyhini. Abo bayenzile ngokwenene bahlala beguquka kwaye bahlale bephinda baphinda.

Kwaye, nangona kunjalo, ukungathembeki kwabesifazane kuyinyaniso kwaye ayinqabile, ngoku kutshanje. Kwaye abaninzi abameli bendoda baqhaqhaza ubuchopho babo kwaye babuze imibuzo yokuthembeka kwabasetyhini. Emva kwakho konke, ngokwemvelo, bonke abantu banamalungelo kwaye abanandaba nokuba indawo kwintsapho inenyaniso. Olu ngcamango lunokubathuthuzela ixesha elide, ukunyanzela ukujonga impendulo yombuzo othakazelisayo: ukungcatsha komfazi - njani ukufumana? Kule meko, unokucetyiswa ukuba unake ingqalelo kwinani leempawu ezingabonisa ukuba ukunyaniseka kwintsapho kuyinyaniso:

• Ifowuni njengendlela yokunxibelelana ingaba yinkcazelo ecacileyo. Akukukhathazi ukubeka ingqalelo kule meko kule ilandelayo: umfazi uzama ukushiya ifowuni kwindawo apho ingafikeleleka kwabanye. Ngokuqhelekileyo uzama ukuzityhila kwingxoxo, ingakumbi ukuba ngaphambili kwakungenzeki. Impendulo engalindelekanga ilandele into yokuba umyeni ubonisa umdla kunye nesifiso sokwazi ukuba ngubani obiza umfazi wakhe, ubhala umyalezo.
• Izixhobo ze-intanethi, ngokukodwa i-imeyile-inombolo ye-tip 2. Ngaphambili, akukho nto efihliweyo iqabane lifuna ukuthatha umhlalaphantsi kwaye lingavumelani nabangaphandle kwiibhokisi zabo zeposi, umphumo wokubonakala okungalindelekanga ungammangalela kwaye umkhuthaze ukuba afihle aze adibanise iwindi lemeyile.
• Umfanekiso womlingane usanda kutshintsha ngokukhawuleza. I-hairstyle entsha, ukwakheka, i-perfume entsha, "inzondelelo" yokulungiswa kwengubo yokugcoba, kunye neengubo zangaphantsi ezibonakalayo, kunye nesifiso sokwandisa ukuhlala sikulungele kwaye sibonakale kakuhle - konke oku kunokubonisa ukuba iqabane linento , Ngokuba uzama ukujonga njani.
• Ukungabikho rhoqo ekhaya kunye nokulibaziseka emsebenzini, ezichazwe ngokungafaniyo: bahlala kunye nabahlobo (ngandlela-thile kwakungekho siqwalasela ukuba umfazi unamalungu amaninzi kunye nomdla kunye nabo), basebenze emsebenzini, amaqela kunye nabalingane kunye neentombi ezifanayo kunye Pr.
• Ukubonakalisa ukungafuni ukuzalisekisa "uxanduva lwazo ngokwesini" ngesondo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kwanezinye izinto ezintsha, ezazingamthandanga ngaphambili, umlutha womfazi wokuxhatshazwa, ubudlelwane bezesondo ngokubanzi.

Ezi ziganeko zihlandlo zomntu ukuba acinge kwaye "agcine indlebe", njengesihlandlo sokubheka ubomi bakhe bentsapho kunye nobudlelwane obuvela ngaphandle, ukuze angaphutheli ithuba lokutshintsha nokugcina iimbophe zakhe kunye nesiqingatha.