Uhlobo lwabahlobo oluchaphazela njani ubomi bakho impumelelo

Kubomi bomntu ngamnye, ubuhlobo budlala indima ebaluleke ngaphezu kokuzimelela okanye ukuphumelela komsebenzi. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukwazi ukuba kwindawo ethile kukho abantu abakuxabayo nabanithandayo, inkxaso kwiimeko na kunceda. Kodwa asimele sikhohlwe ukuba ukuze sithole abazalwana abayinyaniso nabanyanisekileyo, kubalulekile ukuvela kuqala koku zonke ngale ndlela.

Ngaba sikwazi ukwenza abahlobo?

Uhlala ubabone njani abahlobo bakho? Cinga ukuba ngoMgqibelo ebusuku ubamenywa ukuba uza kutyelela abantu abaphambili kakhulu kuwe. Abantu abaninzi bajamelana neengxaki zokuzikhethela: kukho iimeko ezininzi ezifunekayo ukuba zigqitywe ngosuku, kwaye kukho abahlobo ongazibonanga kunye ixesha elide kwaye ufuna ukuthetha nabo. Kutheni sisoloko sikhanyela, singanaki abantu? Ngaba sikulungele ukuza kusindiswa ngokuphindaphindiweyo xa sibuza abanye malunga nayo?

Ndixelele ukuba ngubani umhlobo wakho ...

Mhlawumbi umbuzo obani esenza isigqibo sokwenza abahlobo. Kukho abo siqhelana nabo kubantwana kunye nenkxaso yonxibelelwano, kuba lo lubuhlobo obunomlilo, yamanzi kunye nobhebhe bombhobho, okwenze ukuba ube sisondele kakhulu kwaye kubalulekile komnye nomnye. Nina nithemba omnye nomnye kwaye nisazi indlela yokuvelela nokuxhasa. Kubalulekile ukukhusela nokulahlekelwa ngabahlobo abanjalo. Emva koko, akukho msebenzi unokusizalisa isidingo soqhagamshelwano kunye nentembelo yokuba asiye sisodwa.

Olunye udidi lwabahlobo yilabo esibaziyo nabantu abadala, ngokusekelwe ekuncedeni kwethu okanye kwiindawo ezithandayo. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba aba bantu akufanele 'bakhuphe.' Unokwenza ubungane nabo ngokuqinileyo kuphela xa abahlobo abanjalo bengathembeki kwiindawo ezihlala kuzo ebomini babo, ukuba bahlakulela kwaye basebenze, banomdla kwinto ethile. Oku mhlawumbi enye yeyona ndlela ibaluleke kakhulu kubani abaziyo. Zama ukujikeleza kunye nabahlobo abakhuthaza ukuba ulwele ukuphakama kweentshukumo ezintsha kunye nokutsha, ufunde ngakumbi, ngubani oya kujoyina kwi-gym kwaye uya kunqoba uEverest. Ukuphuhlisa kunye, ukuncedana.

Kubalulekile ngezinye iinkhathi ukucinga malunga nokuba ngubani osondeleyo kuwe. Tshekisisa ngakumbi: unelisekile yonke into ebudlelwaneni bakho? Mhlawumbi lixesha lokushiya into engabalulekanga kuwe, nakwabo bachitha ixesha lakho?