Ngaba ngcono ukuba akhuphe yokundwendwela ukuba umntwana okanye ukulingana kuyo kuxwebhu lwakho?

Namhlanje, abaninzi kuthi unokuthelekelela ubomi bam ngaphandle abahambahambayo. Ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo, oku yeyona ndlela ilungileyo ukuchitha iholide ngendlela ukuze ufumane ophetheyo vivacity kunye ezininzi okuvelayo wonke unyaka. Ekuqaleni, abantu abaselula baye kuphumla wedwa okanye ngababini, kunye nesiqalo nokufika abantwana musa ukunikezela lwakho indlela oyithandayo ukuchitha iholide. Kakade ke, lo msebenzi ubandakanya nje iingxaki ezimbalwa, kodwa kuluncedo ngayo: hamba iluncedo hayi kuphela amalungu amadala osapho, kodwa omnci: emva zonke, indlela entsha kungafumaneki ndawo ibalingeneyo hambo! Ngokuqhelekileyo, kuba hambo kufuneka ukuba onke amaxwebhu ayimfuneko, kubandakanywa incwadi yokundwendwela ukuba umntwana okanye uphawu ekhethekileyo yokundwendwela lwabazali. Yeyiphi kwezi ndlela ukuba ukhetha: ukuba akhuphe yokundwendwela zayo umntwana, okanye ngenisa nje umntwana kulo yokundwendwela omnye wabazali?

Okokuqala, oko kuxhomekeke ekubeni zehambo langaphandle yinxalenye yobomi bakho, okanye ibe sisiganeko esingaqhelekanga. Ukuba ityala ityala ekwanti uhambo angaphandle, okanye ukhetha naliphi na ilizwe enye, ngoko ke unako ukuza ngokwemigaqo iinzuzo, ngokusekelwe kwimigaqo yokungena lizwe. Kwamanye amazwe, linyanzeleke ukuba lihlawule kuba visa ngokusekelwe kwinani zokundwendwela, yaye emva koko, xa ufaka umntwana kulo ipasipoti umntu evela kubazali, kusenokuba kuhle ukusindisa. Kwelinye icala, ukuba uhamba rhoqo kuphela, umzekelo, kwiimeko kwamanye amazwe kufuneka uhlawule ukuze ungene inani into ebalulwe yakho yokundwendwela, nokuba wena ukuba umntwana okanye hayi. Kukwaxhomekeke nasekubeni ngaba umntwana wakho ohamba yedwa, umzekelo, kwinkampu labantwana kwindawo amazwe. Ukuba uthi ewe, incwadi yokundwendwela neemfuno zomntwana.

A yokundwendwela ukuba umntwana ongaphantsi kweminyaka eli-18 ikhutshwa ngokusekelwe kwinkcazo omnye wabazali. Sokubhalisa zokundwendwela kubantwana abangaphantsi kweminyaka eli-14 ubudala kunye nabantwana abadala kwe-14 zifuna iseti eyahlukileyo yamaxwebhu. Ngoko ke, abo abancinane, i-ofisi yokundwendwela okanye imibutho nomlomo kufuneka ukunika ingxelo evela kubazali zayizalisa kubo ifomu, ikopi yesiqinisekiso sokuzalwa komntwana, iifoto ezintathu umntwana ifoto umzali lowo ukwenza amaxwebhu yokubhalisa, ngendlela ekhethekileyo zokundwendwela, leyo kufuneka abamnyama nabamhlophe, kodwa unako umbala, kodwa buthuntu. Ukongeza, kufuneka ukuba ushiye idilesi yokuhlala lakho kunye contact yefowuni. Ukuze umntwana ngaphezu kweminyaka elishumi elinesine iseti yamaxwebhu uza kuba banzi: imifanekiso ezine mntwana, kwaye ezimbini - umzali ehambelana mfuno zilapha ngasentla, ikopi zokundwendwela eziqhelekileyo umzali nomntwana, yaye ukuba ayekade incwadana yokundwendwela, umhla wokuphelelwa ethe lixesha - ukuba bakhe yokuqala ikopi umsebenzi iincwadi lomzali, kwaye, kakade, ifom yesicelo. Isicelo sepaspoti ngomntwana kunye nenkcazo ezaliswe umzali ukuba umntwana asikabikho-18 leminyaka ubudala. Ukongeza kwidilesi yokuhlala kuya kufuneka ukubonelela ngoqeqesho kunye nomsebenzi needilesi bonke abo bathatha inxaxheba amalungu entsapho uxwebhu kuyilo.

Liliphi ixesha liya kuxabisa yokundwendwela ukuba umntwana kuxhomekeke ixesha imveliso yayo: yendalo, kunokuba kufuneka uxwebhu, kokukhona oko kuyingozi, ngoko ukuthatha unonophelo ngalo kwangaphambili, kungakuhle. Kwakhona, iindleko yokundwendwela kuxhomekeke kummandla: ekwiphondo eMoscow eMoscow eyilwe ibiza ngaphantsi kwimimandla. Kwakhona, ukongeza yokundwendwela, kukho enye uxwebhu, ngaphandle apho awukwazi ukuya kwelinye - isigunyaziso kubameli ukuhamba kubazali elinye okanye zombini ezo meko apho umntwana sihamba kunye neqela nezalamane bengahambi okanye emke omnye wabazali.