Kutheni mabadanduluke ebuthongweni bakhe?

Ubomi womntu mihla izele xi zonke iintlobo iziganeko. Kakade ke, abantu ngaphambili nabo baye bafumana kwimeko enjalo, kodwa awanyange beziphumlele. Kungenxa yokuba kuqwalaselwa kuphela luphawu lo mntu. Bambalwa abantu baye kugqirha ne umbuzo: "Ukukhala ebuthongweni bakho. Ndimele ndenze ntoni? "

Ngelo xesha, zonke ngengqondo bathi oku yingxaki enobuzaza kufuna amanyathelo enyanzelekileyo. Ingaba unobangela ngqo le ngxaki, "ndikhwaza ebuthongweni bakhe" - ukuba yimvakalelo elibi ukuba umntu ingachazwayo ngexesha uphaphama. Zengqondo ukucebisa ngokukhawuleza kangangoko kunokwenzeka ukusombulula le meko kwaye ukuba uthethe nomntu lowo ufumana sizive sikhathazekile ixesha elide. Ukuba oku akwenzeki, iiholide kuguqulelo ebhaliweyo. Kuba le ncwadi ibhalwe kuthethwa umntu lowo kufuneka uchaze, uze emva koko zitshiswe. Emva izihlandlo ezimbalwa ingcaciso ebhaliweyo ingxaki "wamemeza ephupheni" ibanjwa.

Ngoobani athambekele kule imeko ngobusuku, etyhilwe amehlo? Okokuqala - oku abantu zoqhelwaniso nekhosi nabanye - introverts. Bathi ezithanda, okuchwayitha, kodwa ixhomekeke kakhulu kwindlela izimvo kunye nezenzo zabanye. Kwakhona, musa kulawula abo umsebenzi wakhe ubandakanya eninzi uxanduva kunye nonxibelelwano nabantu abaninzi. Kakade ke, abantwana nekungenakwenzeka ukuba athi: "Mna ndiyabiza ubuthongo bam" ngenxa nje musa ukukhumbula ukuba okanye abaqapheli ubuzaza bengxaki. Nangona Izidandathekiso ebusuku zabantwana - oku sisizathu esinzulu gqitha abazali ukuba sibuyele ngengqondo. Kwaye Isimanga, yabazali, uze abantwana.

Isibakala sokuba umntwana bedanduluka ephupheni kuphela zizothuso eyomeleleyo okanye iimvakalelo owayephila ngexesha ngenyanga yokugqibela (oku ke ixesha apho umntwana ukugcina ingqiqo esikhathazayo ixhala). Hayi Akuvamile ukuba ukwahlukana aphantsi ukusuka kunina, umzekelo, ngo-izigulane unyango okanye ezinye eminqubeni, nto leyo ayifani daze wakho, ushiyeke uphawu yayo psyche kwaye kungakhokelela ekhala ebuthongweni bakhe.

Somnology yaqhuba uthotho-experimenti ezininzi apho wabancina nimanyane engqondweni phakathi kumama nomntwana. Kwaye safumanisa ukuba ngokufuthi ke abazali ukuba ityala ngenxa yokuba umntwana ekhala ebuthongweni bakhe. inkxalabo yabo ngaso nasiphi na isizathu, iimvakalelo ezinamandla, iingxwabangxwaba phakathi indoda encinane usapho imkhathaza mgama, yaye ukuba abazali kwelinye igumbi. Kwakhona kubalulekile ukucinga malunga nokuziphatha kwabo abo avumele abantwana abacinga ezingazinzanga (eyi-12 ubudala) ukubukela iintlobo bhanya kunye neenkqubo kunye ayibonisi bundlobongela, ukudutyulwa, bagutyungelwe kukududuzela, njl Oku ngokuyimfuneko kuchaphazela kwimbono wosana yehlabathi. Kwaye okona kubalulekileyo - akukho omdala imidlalo kwi computer.

Omnye umba obalulekileyo esibangela imikhwazo e ebuthongweni bakhe umntwana - ukuba nexhala sikanina (enze yokwenza usana lwakho ngaphezu lonke usapho), Ithemba ezi ithi trances zasebusuku kunye nolawulo rhoqo ukulala ebusuku. Kungenxa yoko le nto kwengqondo bathi abantwana kufuneka alale ngokwahlukileyo evela kubazali babo, yaye ngokukhethekayo kwelinye igumbi.

Ukuba umama yena ukhulisa umntwana, okanye engqongqo kakhulu kule, amanye amalungu entsapho inkxaso imfundo enjalo, ukukhutshwa okanye ukufumana akukho intuthuzelo evela umntu, ngoko ukumemeza elele uya kuba ihambisana olusisinyanzelo yonke ebusuku. Akukho mfuneko yokuba ube nenzondelelo ubungnqongqo. Yonke kufuneka abe nokumodareyithwa. Ke kaloku umntwana kwindawo yokuqala, kufuneka ukuwufumana sisohlwayo nengqiqo, bamthuthuzela lo mntu mnye ngezenzo ezithile.

Overvoltage ebuntwaneni (umthwalo yesikolo Utyelelo ngaxeshanye kumaqela eziliqela kunye neemfuno ezinzulu, njl) kukhokelela ukuba balale ziphazamiso. Amava kukamama ngexesha lokukhulelwa, nangokoyikeka ebusuku, ngexesha apho umzimba wakhe ukhupha hormone bangangeni nge ngumkhaya, ibangela inkxalabo ndingekazalwa, zingophula psyche phambi kokuzalwa.

Ke okona kubalulekileyo, ukuze kucetyiswa kule meko: ukufumana obhobhozayo ngokwabo accustom kulo mntwana. Ngoko ke ugcine kuphela psyche yakho, kodwa ukuphucula umgangatho wobomi bakho.

Sinqwenela wena kunye nabantwana bakho usempilweni kwaye womelele, ulale esempilweni!