Kuthekani ukuba ibetheke nengxaki yokukhula?

Amadoda amaninzi sigqithe kwixesha eguqula ngokupheleleyo imbono yabo ebomini. Bacinga ukuba kungenzeka ngakumbi. Kwaye ukuba ziya ukutshintsha ngokupheleleyo ubomi babo, ngoko kuyimfuneko ukuba angakwenza oku ngoko nangoko.

iingcamango ezinjalo zivuse nengxaki yokukhula. Ukuba nako ukuyiqonda ngokwayo kwesi sigaba, yaye uze wenze ukhetho okrelekrele, ngoko ngokukhawuleza baphume kuloo ntlekele kwaye uqale ubomi onwabile.

Indlela ukuqaphela ingxaki yee-ubomi

"Le yengxakeko engeneyo, njengoko umthetho, kukho umnqweno ukutshintsha ubomi babo," - uthi UCalvin Kolaruso - Doctor of Medicine kunye unjingalwazi kwengqondo kwiYunivesithi California. Yena sicaphula umzekelo ekusebenzeni bam, xa indoda wabhala inqaku umfazi wakhe, wathabatha imali kwi-akhawunti kuhlala kwesinye isixeko ngaphandle kwesilumkiso.

Olu hlobo lobunzima yoo-ubomi kunqabile. Kwiimeko ezininzi, amadoda ziqala iinguqu ezingephi, kwaye ntlekele kuthatha ixesha elide. Wena, umzekelo, unako ukuxelela umfazi wakho ukuba ufuna ukuyeka umsebenzi wakho, uze ukwenze oko. Okanye ngaba uthi awuyithandi umtshato wenu, kwaye nokuba isigqibo mtshato. Kodwa awukwazi ukutshintsha yonke into kwaye izenzo lithemba. Kunye namadoda amaninzi emva ngokutsha kwezi isigqibo kuhlala ukuba yintoni na.

Eyona engundoqo Iimpawu yeentlekele

Kukho iimpawu ngawo umntu uzakuyiqonda into yintoni ukuya lesigaba lobunzima yoo-ubomi, kwaye zibandakanya oku kulandelayo:

• usanda engama-40 ubudala. Amaninzi, abantu zijongene nengxaki yokukhula kwiminyaka engama-40 okanye engama-50.
• Ukhathazekile malunga ezingundoqo ebomini bakho. Awukwazi kwaneliswa Helm, usapho, ezempilo, kwaye ufune ukwenza into ukulungisa oku.

• Ngaba uvakalelwa kukuba Anibashiyanga ixesha elininzi lokuba utshintsho. Amadoda amaninzi uqale ukuziva imfuno engxamisekileyo ukwenza utshintsho ebomini babo. Oku kwenzeka kakhulu xa umntu ephawula ukuba imbonakalo yakhe batshintsha nomdlandla ayikho ukuba yintoni ngaphambili. Kwakhona kwenzeka xa umntu uba utatomkhulu, okanye xa esifa umhlobo okanye umzali wakhe. Nakuba kunjalo, asinako ukuba kwentlekele yobudala ephakathi - oku engaphephekiyo xa izinto ezifana oku kwenzeka.

• kukuthabatha izigqibo engaqhelekanga thina. Abantu iphumele "elivisayo enemvukelo 'kweli xesha ebomini bakhe. A ngumqondiso oqinisekileyo yeentlekele kuxhomekeke yokuba uziva ebambeke ndawonye, kwaye unalo isilingo enkulu ukuba baziphathe ngendlela ukuwavuthela ubomi bakho. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, amadoda aqalisa kakubi utywala, abazithandayo, ulilahle intsapho, bavakalelwa kukuba ubomi babo lide ayenzi alunakulungela kuzo. Apho azixakekise kakhulu inkangeleko yabo, bayakulangazelela ngenxa yokungcakaza kunye kube mnandi.

Njani na ukusinda le ntlekele

ntlekele Mid-ubomi kukhokelela ekukhuleni, kunye nokuzeyisa kwintshabalalo. Unga khangela izizathu zokuba bazive bengonwabanga, uze ukuza nesisombululo ukuhlangabezana nazo. Oku kukhula.

Kwelinye icala, ukuba uthatha izigqibo ngokungxama, umzekelo, ukutshintsha ubomi babo ngenxa yegama lobudlelwane neqabane oselula, ngubani ngokukhawuleza kufika esiphelweni, okanye ukuthenga imoto ukuba awunayo imali, nto ikhokelela entshabalalweni.

Indlela yokukhusela wena kwiimpazamo

• iimvakalelo zakho akukho iqela kwisenzo. Yintoni uzive ukuba kufuneka ayeke emsebenzini, usapho okanye ikhaya, oko akuthethi ukuba okunene, ukuba wenze oko. Ezi mvakalelo ngenene kubonisa ingxaki ekufuneka iqwalaselwe. Kodwa ke ungalahleka okanye ukutshintsha ngokuhamba kwexesha.
• Yiba nombulelo izinto ezilungileyo. Nikelani ingqalelo ezo nxalenye yobomi okuyo ekwenza wonwabe. Zibuze, ubuya kukuvuyela ukuba uza kuyenza into eyayiza kwenza ulahlekelwe kubo.

• Xoxa oku. Ukuba kufuneka wenze izigqibo ezibalulekileyo, zama ukuxoxa nabo umntu iingcebiso kabani omthembileyo. Sihlobo, isizalwane, okanye njengobuchule entsimini zempilo yengqondo kuya kukunceda nomnye ngesandla ukujonga wenze ukuba okanye hayi ukhetho olufanelekileyo.
• Zibuze ukuba iminqweno yakho yokwenene. Abantu benze izinto ezininzi ngempumelelo engama-40, yaye kamva: ukubuyela ekholejini, behamba ehlabathini jikelele okanye lokuvula ishishini labo. Qinisekisa ukuba iinjongo entsha, Ndiyasukela, esisebenzisekayo, kwaye amandla zokufikelela kuzo.

Kwaye okubaluleke kakhulu ...

Kuphephe ukukha ubudlelwane kunye neentsapho zabo. Qonda ukuba akukho mfuneko ukuba ukupholisa ukutshintsha ubomi babo, ukuze sonwabe. Kodwa ukuba ngokwenene ufuna ukwenza oku, siqonde ukuba ingqondo yakho, ukuba loo iinguqulelo kangako umonakalo ebantwini ngeenxa zonke kuwe.