Izincomo guys. Kuthetha ukuthini ukuba umntu uncoma

Trouble-free indlela yokufumana ingqalelo ndalithanda mfo - ngobuciko ukuthetha, echaphazela mibuzo ukuba uyakwazi. Ukunikela ingqalelo kakhulu ubuhle bayo, unako lula ukuphumeza ukuqondwa kunye nesimo sengqondo lobuhlobo.

Kwelinye aphorisms ka Dale Carnegie (umbhali wencwadi odumileyo malunga eziphembelela abantu) uchaza ukuba wonke umntu, nokuba isikhundla sakhe ekuhlaleni wobugcisa, ngathi abantu abayithanda naye.

Abameli Kwisiqingatha olomeleleyo lobuntu Akukho ngaphandle. Phantse bonke abantu bangenwe ukunconywa. Umntu, ngasendleleni, ngaphezu amantombazana (abo iyimbalasane kunye nezincomo), nangona oko. Ngoko ke, abaye baxhamla kule ndlela olufikelelekayo lula indlela yokuhlawula yokuncoma ukuya guys, nayiphi na intombi ngokulula ukuwina umfana bayo.

Enye omnye aphorisms Carnegie uthi baqhathe nawuphi na umntu othile - oko kuthetha ukuba umxelele ukuba ucinga ntoni ngaye. Kunzima ukufumana umntu ocinga okubi ngayo bona kunye nesidima sabo, ekusenokwenzeka ukuba okanye hayi.

Kodwa ukunconywa ukunconywa ngokufanayo. Izincomo guys kufuneka bathethe kwi template, mhlawumbi ngaphandle standard ethile xa ngembeko ufuna uqaphele utshintsho ezithile imbonakalo. Umzekelo, ukuba umntu okanye ukucheba elungileyo, yena ubheka kakuhle namhlanje. Nawuphi indumiso umntu kunye nalowo athi, ezifakwe kwimemori. Kakade ke, lo yokuncoma guys kufuneka zingqamelane, original, kwaye hayi ukuba uzibeke kwindawo nzima. Makhe sixubushe ezinye iinkcukacha.

Izincomo guys kakhulu ezahlukene ukusuka okuncoma amantombazana. Ekuqaleni, oko kuya kubonakala, abantu abatsha fixated njalo imbonakalo yabo nesiqingatha entle abantu, kodwa akunjalo. Ukuba umntu ukutshintsha umfanekiso okanye enxibe eyahlukileyo kancinci, nokuba kwinqanaba ienjini, ufuna ukuba kuphunza bamdumisa, anike umninimzi. Qiniseka ukuba umxelele ngayo - yaye uya kubona ukuba uya kwaneliswa nesithembiso lakho liqinisekile ukuba ubonwe.

Xa sithatha kunconywa for a guy, ngoko cinga ubuntu bakhe. amazwi akho kufuneka ayinyaniso, ngenxa yokuba uthethe ubuxoki usoloko ebonakalayo - kwaye isiphumo ezilindelekileyo isenokuba okwahlukileyo. Nge uphawu ukuvelela yokwenene, umzekelo, i-ndimlahlele obalaseleyo engqondweni yakhe, ingqiqo enkulu uburharha, imbonakalo njengendoda, amehlo amahle, njl Kuphela into engundoqo - ungayibaxi.

Nakuba kunjalo kubalulekile ukufunda ukuphulaphula. Kwakhona, kwakhona, vula ku Carnegie. umngane Best okwaziyo ukumamela ngenyameko. Kwaye kakade. Mhlawumbi awunalo ulwazi kakhulu, njengoko iqabane lakho, kodwa ukunikela ingqalelo kwinto ayithethayo, kwaye nokuba angaxeli lizwi, lo gama sizimisele ngakumbi kumkhawulela, ndithethe nawe. Kwaba lelo xesha ke kunokwenzeka ukuba zizibandakanye uyaba female zokudubula - yokuncoma ukuba lo mfo njengoko neqhinga ukukulukuhla uyithandile lo mfana.

Nezincomo guy othandwayo, Kakade ke, isandi olusondeleyo ngakumbi, kodwa kukho ilungelo bubuciko kunye yokubonisa uthando! Musa ukuyeka ukuba bancome owuthandayo - engqondweni, izenzo, engaqhelekanga, umntla zakhe ezimangalisayo kunye nezinye ngaphandle kokufaneleka kwayo. Amaxesha amaninzi zithi yokuncoma guy ozithandayo, yaye oko kuya kukwenza bakhe ukuzithemba - uya kusoloko kufuna ukuya apho kuhle, babe nokuthantamisa, nenkathalo, unothando, ezintle, engenazimpazamo kwaye apho ndimthobele trust. Ukuze intombazana ukwenza kube lula, kuba umntu othandekayo akanguye iintsilelo kunye nokuvuzwa kuphela, yaye saziwe elide owamkelweyo bothando.

Yena onobuganga, enye intombazana entle, kwaye khumbula ukuba usoloko ukhetha, ezichasene ezikhethwe ngabantu.