Isohlwayo lungcikivo

Kutheni ahlawuliswe ngenxa ekugxekeni? Ngapha koko, ezi zityholo - an zokubethwa ngokweemvakalelo ukuba ushiya ukugruzuka umphefumlo yako. Kodwa ke, ngelishwa, lwasenkundleni ungcikivo singàphunyezwa kunye nesiqinisekiso intliziyo ibetha azivumelekanga. -X-reyi musa olubakhanyiselayo nokudinwa ngokweemvakalelo ubuntu. Ingxabano ungaqhubeka sohlwayo kuwabhuqa zimngcikiva umoya, ukuphucula ubuchule babo ityala, ityala, ungcikivo, onecala, ukuhlatywa kwaye shpynyat idini uncomplaining. Ukususela izenzi ezinjalo ezibonisa kakuhle eli zityholo, ufuna sitsiba njengoko blade obulalayo. Akumangalisi ke bathi ilizwi unomphefumlo. Iingcikivo kuvela ezingqondweni ngohlobo ukugqojozwa-ekwehliseni izixhobo. Ngubani ukuphina umntu ngenyatyhowa inkosi yalo, yaye ezinye iisirinji isifo elephant ondingcikivayo ihlabathi lomnye umntu, ezama ukumisela imithetho yabo apho, uze uzise ulawulo ngokupheleleyo. Ingcikivo - yindlela abonakalisa umsindo ukuhlaselwa kakubi-zifihliwe. Ingcikivo - yindlela ukubonisa ukubaluleka kwabo ku kokela nyingiso eka ngokwayo okanye isibakala sokuba kubalulekile ukuba ndim umnqweno ukutshintsha omnye, ngaphandle kokutshintsha ngokwayo.

Le wengqondo wabuza umfazi grumpy: "Xa ungcikivo abahlaze indoda yakhe, ngenene, ngaba ulindele ukuba alungiswe kwaye ziya kuba ngathi ngakumbi na? Ukuba ufuna ukwazi inyaniso ngokuphathelele iintsilelo zabo, ukuba uze kum, nandithiyayo le nyaniso. Yini na kuwe ebangela intiyo umyeni wakhe? "

Izizathu ihlazo. Iingcambu Iingcikivo zethu ezimele njengomntwana. Usola - isifo njengelifa. Ukuba abazali ngaphandle ukungcikiva etafileni akazange ahlale phantsi, iifayile zethu (ienjini) zonke ezindala kwi ncwadi eneenkcukacha "iingcinga ukuziphatha" kwaye ngoku peddled Iingcikivo for "ukuhlaselwa izangoma" phezu komnye umntu. Agxile "yasekhaya" uba yokuziphatha isicwangciso ngokwasengqondweni entsatsheni. Ukuba umama, umakhulu, udade, intombi, boncwadi okanye cinematic sangena ebomini kwizinyuko ungcikivo, ukuba umgca wokuziphatha onjalo intokazi ethandwayo. Xa uthi, "Iingcikivo ukuba ayisebenzi," ondele zatyukali, umyeni ongenamqolo, ngobuso kwaye ucinga: "Isebenza. Kanye njengokuba emsebenzini. "

Izizathu lungcikivo, ukongeza izifundo, yaye netswinayo ngendlela yokuziphatha ebuntwaneni abantu abadala ngezilingo. Okokuqala, akukho - kwizinto abazilindele. "Ndacinga, mna nethemba, kodwa yaba" - Ngawo la amazwi ezilindelekileyo tlhela baphelelwa lithemba. Ndandifuna ukuba uthathe yinkosana, waza wafumana indawo. Ingaba oku akukho sizathu ukuphazamisa umsindo phezu ngezityholo? Xa umsebenzi asiphumelelanga sigxeka ihlabathi kunye nabanye abantu, malunga apho krelekrele wabeka Jon intlama -. "Imifanekiso ngokwalo louts" ukusola kwabo, babandulula eyiva isazela, ngokuba wakhohlisa kulindelekileyo.

Engangcikivi kufuneka ukubuyisela ubulungisa kunye ukwanelisa iimvakalelo self-ngokubaluleka. Ukumangalela - sisixhobo esiphumelelayo yokomelezwa ezinyalasayo. imfuneko Uprekantu wopha ukugcina ukufaneleka kwayo. Imali eninzi izinto yedwa, iidayimani, iimoto, Villas, elwandle kunye nothando kuphela kufuneka ukwandisa ukubaluleka kwayo emehlweni akhe kwaye emehlweni abanye. Kwaye ngoko bummer - indoda (lover) andifuni okanye awukwazi kugoba kwiimfuno ezingcolileyo mfazi "lilishwa". Xa course nangezohlwayo ehlabayo. Yena na okha akhutyekiswe, unexhala, ukuziva entluphe- enerisekanga. Kodwa ke isizathu lokwenene sisingcikivo kwinzame zalo 'engenanto bonisa-off "ukubonisa" steepness "ukubaluleka kwabo.

Thatha ujongo kwi uprekanta ihlukane. Ziziphi iimvakalelo neemvakalelo zako? Okokuqala, uxolo, nentiyo nomsindo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, loo nto bangonwabi, indoda ungonwabi, waguqa phantsi ubunzima iingxaki okanye ubomi kunye ndingento yanto. Kuyenzeka ukuba phambi kwethu ibuthathaka, abantu lithemba, esebenzisa amandla ukuxhasa izityholo zabo Ya Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha unobangela recriminations ezilula - ngeempawu, ukusebenza ixesha okanye ukunganeliseki ngokwesondo. Ukuba umfazi ukuncwina noncwino ebusuku, yena grumbles imini. Ngokufuthi ezibangela ungcikivo obufihlwe uprekanta indalo. Abanye sex kwaye akufuneki ukuba ungafumana uyolo ukusuka usizi nokubandezeleka lomnye umntu. Ke Makar, unako uphakamise ukuzithemba, yokuzilungiselela ngeendleko abanye. Kwaye kwakhona ukufumana amandla imvakalelo ukuba iphalale kwi ungquzulwano ngokusekelwe izityholo. izityholo Victim "utya amazinyo 'idla evela iimvakalelo zakhe ezimbi, ukuziva ezingenanto kunye yalahleka, kwaye itshajwe uprekant le abanikelayo amandla ngokweemvakalelo kunokuba bazokwenza izandla. Ixesha elizayo ufuna ukuba 'adle ", yena ungcikiva kwakhona ivule yexhoba letyala, ingqiqo yokuba umsebenzi okanye yokoyika ukuba wedwa.

Forms ihlazo. Oku izixhobo ezilumayo esetyenziswa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo iimilo engaqhelekanga. Ukuthethisa ngqo kakhulu ethandwa xa uprekant ngqo emehlweni otyholwa into bayandingcikiva ixhoba, bevakalisa nje ngokubanzi esibukhali okulinganisa elibi sikhundla. Nature wenze yabulibala umfazi amandla, ngoko yena yoncutshe ngokugqibeleleyo ubugcisa ubundlobongela engqondweni. Kudla ukumangalelwa ngqo ibonisa isimo sengqondo walihesha, nokweya kunye elithukayo ukuya nexhoba. Umzekelo: "Wena akukho okulungileyo nto", "bemthandele, kungekhona umntu", "Izandla zakho musa ukukhula ngaphandle", "Yonke into musani abantu bayathanda." ngezityholo ngqo kukugubungela ukungahambisalani eziphathekayo, inattention kumfazi yena kunye nabantwana ebazalini bakhe, engafuni ukujongana iingxaki zasekhaya, umsebenzi ibhuqiwe okanye ubomi jikelele: "Mna zonakaliswa lo rhamncwa kule minyaka yobomi bam", "Umama wathi kum, kuqhuba ukususela kulo isiphukuphuku. " Ukuba ufuna Ulwamvila ngakumbi, switsha ngezityholo ngqo, thob 'isidima ngokwesondo womntu, "Wena - mntu," "Ewe! Kwaye unayo umvuzo omncinci, nathi. " Ukusuka Iingcikivo ezinjalo umntu ufumana eninzi ntshikilelo, ukukhathazeka nokuthandabuza uqalisa ukusebenzisa ukungazithembi, ukuze awe, ukuzithemba, hayi kuphela. kumangalelwa kubangele babantu kwakhona ingqondo ityala kwaye akuyekanga ukutyhala kwi "leftist". Philisa amanxeba ikratshi lomntu nokuba ukubonisa ukubaluleka kwabo sobudoda iwela ecaleni.

Akukho buhlungu omncane othelekiso okanye nesigqubuthelo izityholo. Xa intliziyo ububi babo kunye nobuqili. Ngamanye amaxesha bekhalisa kubi kakhulu kunokuba izityholo ngqo. Umfazi uthi: "Uyazi, ummelwane wathenga umfazi wakhe imoto", "Ngokungafaniyo ezinye umqeshi wam ngokwenene umntu," "Ewe, ukuba ivanova uqubha yaye ukudada," "Ke indoda lomhlobo wakho ..." ungcikivo zothelekiso idibanisa amaqela wesithathu wafundisa kwakunzima nexhoba. kuyinto ukuze kwaye lisetyenziswa ixhoba kakuhle ubuze yentuthumbo.

Iingcikivo ezisetyenzisiweyo kunye ngeendlela nangezenzo: izijekulo iimbono kunye cwaka efile. Akunguye amandla ifuthe Wakumthethisa ezingezizo ezomlomo hayi ngaphantsi oogxa babo ngamazwi, yaye ngokufuthi onokubanika ezilikhulu amanqaku abayimilwelwe. Khumbula i "Umsi" Turgenev, "Irina nokuba nebunzi akufunekanga emphakamisele kwaye ihlala engashukumi, kunye encumile ububi ebusweni bakhe udakumbile; kunye nabazali bakhe, lowo Ulibengezelele Iingcikivo na kukrakra kakhulu, kwaye ndiziva ndinetyala, unetyala ngaphandle letyala phambi le nto. "

Ityala angakwazi na yena. Emva koko sijamelene self-sisingcikivo, njengoko umzekelo 'Umsi "Turgenev kaThixo," othandekayo yam! Mna yonke ubusuku ukucinga malunga nesiphakamiso yakho ... andiyi dissemble nawe .... andinako ningabaleki kunye nawe, mna andikwazi ukuyenza loo nto. Ndiziva ngathi ngenene ndinetyala phambi kwakho; lowesibini yindaba yam yokuqala - ndiyazicekisa, ligwala bam, mna ndihlanjwe Iingcikivo ngokwakhe, kodwa mna andikwazi ukutshintsha ngokwam ". A okufana self-Iingcikivo ezi Iingcikivo yesazela.

    Yintoni abantu ntoni anyeliswe? Abaninzi ukwenza nto, kuba recriminations - yinto ukhululekile eqhelekileyo kubo ukusuka kumgca ebuntwaneni yokuziphatha. Kwisithuba Iingcikivo kubo kahle njengoko intlanzi emanzini. izibini ezininzi zihlala, ngenxa yabo, akandifanele yaye onwabile, akhombe omunye amakhulu kathathu ngemini. Kufuneka kukhunjulwe ukuba ungcikivo amandla atshabalalisayo yathamba kwithoni yelizwi. Kuyimfuneko ukuba lo imvakalozwi bevuthela amanqaku "kwenzeke ingozi". kukho amanye amagama ngoma Vaenga "Ewe", "Ewe, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni na besithi, akukho nto nto, nendlela." Kule "njani" ixhomekeke kakhulu. Indida, kodwa kukwakho ingcikivo nesisa. Umzekelo, kwi Turgenev kaThixo "Ace": "Gagin ndibulisa ngendlela lobuhlobo, ndihlanjwe kum ingcikivo nokuthantamisa."

Amacebiso ngendlela ukususa ungcikivo ubomi bakhe.

        Inkoliso yale ukumangalela aziyonyani. Intombi nonina ubiza kwaye uthi: "Mama, le indoda kwabangabuleliyo kwakhona akafuni kudla buckwheat" - "Ntombi yam, uze umxelele ukuba wazama njani, xa epheka!" - "Op-Panko, ngoko kuyimfuneko ukuba ukupheka ??! .. "le ungcikivo - ukungenelela ebomini bethu, nomnqweno wokwenza ukuba enze ngokungqinelana abakulindele kwabanye. Sabeka umyolelo angaphandle kunye omnye benqwenela ukuba babuyele ukuba uprekanta umda wolawulo. Kodwa aningabo abaphila ukuya abakulindele kwabanye, kwaye unalo ilungelo lokuba babe ngabo, kunye nabanye. Uprekant ngokuqhelekileyo "ukwenza abahlobo" nomntu akukho ilungile kunye nokubaluleka yabo nemvo letyala. Maxa wambi kanye kanye kwanele ukuba bathi uprekantu ukuba akayi kuyinyamezela naziphi na izityholo ayeke oxoxa ngolo hlobo, ukuba kuyaqhubeka.

Ngokuqinisekileyo ayikwazi ugwetyelwe. Kuyinto saziwe. Ziba namagxeke ayisoloko sisilumko - kungabangela ndlongo ngakumbi. Uyakwazi ukuguqulela zonke iziqhulo, kodwa kufanelekile. Izaba - ubungqina unetyala. Inenekazi ukuthwala imvakalelo angaqala basenokuthetha into engaphezulu. Ukuzithethelela ngebhaqo ukuqinisekisa ukunyaniseka izityholo zakhe. Andilungile lela niliphulaphule izizathu esola, kwaye ukuba zinzima, cinga ngendlela yokuziphatha kwabo ukuthintela ukuba kwixesha elizayo. Uyakwazi ukuphendula ungcikivo indida. Ngoko ke athi: "Nina lonke ixesha bayaphoswa trash" siya ngokukhuselekileyo ukuphendula: "Eyona nto iphambili ukuba bendisoloko wazifumana kwenye indawo."

Yintoni isichukumisa uprekant? Ngomhla ingqiqo ityala, engaziva enyanzelekile kunye nokoyika elilolo. Ingaba ufuna ukushiya ndakukhupha ebantwini uhlala bengcikivile, ubonise bonke abalandeli izityholo ukuba musa ndiyiqonde ke iimvakalelo ityala, ingqiqo ngokugqithiseleyo umsebenzi kunye noloyiko lokuba yedwa. Ngoko idima yakho isiseko uprekanta ekhaya ofumana ikhwiniba.

Ingcikivo - le indumiso uphawu thabatha. Ukuba umntu exakwe kukuphathwa kakubi, ngoko ndaliqoba indumiso. Ngoko ke, kufuneka ukutsala ukusuka yamatye indumiso. Xa ophindwe emagxeni akhe, izityholo nokomelela lokuphathana kwempahla okanye abaleke iindwendwe nje engamenywanga. A Qiniseka indlela yokugcina umntu - simdumise ubomi othandekayo. Ukuba ufuna indoda yakho iphumelele into - bamdumise ubomi othandekayo. Ukuba ufuna umntu wakho ube ebukekayo kakhulu nomtsalane - Mdumiseni ubomi othandekayo. Khumbula ukuba izityholo ziyasebenza kuwe. Man - eli nyathelo kunye njongo. Umfazi - iwonga ulwalamano umnqweno. Iingcikivo zinokonakalisa ulwalamano, nokwakha indumiso. Relationship Builder - umfazi.

Nika uthando kunye ingqalelo beloveds zabo. Emva koko uya kukulibala malunga anyeliswe kanye.