Indlela yokukhetha ibhokhwe yabafana kunye nokuziqhelisela kuye

Xa umntwana ekhula, abazali bajwayele ukuqhelana nomntwana kumbindi ngokukhawuleza. Okubaluleke kakhulu kulo mbandela kukukhethwa kwithuba apho umntwana esezulwini kunye nangokwengqondo "avuthwa" kule nto. Bonke abantwana bahluke, yingakho baqala ukuhamba ebhodweni kwiminyaka eyahlukileyo - abanye bakwenza kakade ngonyaka kunye nesiqingatha, nabanye - emva kancinane. Omnye kufuneka ahlale ekhumbula ukuba ekuqaleni kweziko lebhodi, akukho mqondo, kuba kuya kuthatha ixesha kunye namandla abo bazali, kodwa eqinisweni, kunokwenzeka ukuba kuya kuba kukuqaphela ukufumana umzuzu ophumeleleyo kunokuba uqeqesho lwangempela. Abazali bafanele bavumele umntwana ukuba afunde ukuphulaphula iminqweno yabo aze azicelele. Amakhwenkwe, njengomthetho, kule nkalo encinane emva kwamantombazana.

Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthengwa kwebhotile. Umsana womntwana kufuneka ukhululeke, uhlale ulungele ukukhula, kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, uyamkholisa iliso lomnini wakhe omncinci. Emva kwakho konke, le nto iyintsimi yomntu, into yokuba umntwana ubona njengepropati yakhe.

Igumbi labafana linezinye. Ubungakanani bendawo yokuvula akumele kube yinto encinci, indawo ethile iyadingeka, ukwenzela ukuba umntwana angakwazi ukusingatha ukunyuka ukuya ebhodweni (oku kuya kuba yincwadana elungiselelwe ukubhala ukubhala). Umbala webhodi kubafana ubhetele ukukhetha ngokwenene "indoda" - eluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka, unokuluhlaza okanye uluhlaza, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo awunayo i-pink.

Ukukhethwa kwamaphunga namhlanje kunzima kakhulu-iindidi ezahlukeneyo, ngendlela yoomatshini kunye namaqhawe omdlalo womculo , umculo (udlale umculo xa ufumana umbane). Imbiza yabafana ibhetele ukukhetha emveli yemveli, kodwa akuyiyona into yokudlala, kwaye isimo sengqondo kuso kufanele sibe sisisiseko.

Okokuqala, unokuzama ukulahla umntwana ebhodweni kwiingubo, kwaye kuphela xa umntwana, ehleli, eqinisekile, kufuneka umnikezele ukuba asuse ama-panties akhe kwaye ahlale phantsi. Ukuba umntwana uyabhikisha, akukho mfuneko yokukholisa, njengoko oku kuphela kukhokelela ekuchaseni ngakumbi kwaye kungenza ixesha elide "lishiye" umntwana ebhodweni.

Inkwenkwe emele imele ifumaneke ukuba ibhale kuphela emva kokuba ifunde ukwenza loo nto ihleli. Ngaphandle komzekelo kulo mzekelo akakwazi ukwenza, umzekelo onjalo unokuba ngubaba okanye umzalwana omdala. Kodwa akuyimfuneko ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza kwizenzo ezinjalo, ukuba kulungile ukuba umntwana abhale ngelixa ehleli, oku kuqhelekileyo. Xa umntwana efuna ukuya kwidinga kwisitalato, ngoko unokucetyiswa ukuba ajolise kwientyatyambo okanye ngepatye. Imbiza yabafana, abafunde ukuhlangabezana neemfuno "ngendlela endala," kuya kufuneka kuphela "ngezinto ezinkulu".

Kukho uluvo lokuba umntwana uya kuchitha ixesha angenazo i-diaper, ngokukhawuleza uza kuqala ukucela ibhodwe. Oku akunjalo. Kodwa inyaniso kukuba i-enuresis yabantwana abakhulileyo ayinxulumene nokugqoka i-diapers, nokuba nantonikazi-abachasene neentlanzi zanamhlanje. Ngako oko, umzali ngamnye makangakhokelwa ngumnqweno wokubeka umntwana ebhodini kwangangoko kunokwenzeka, kodwa nangokuthuthuzelwa komntwana, kunye nokulungelelana kwawo.

Kule mpu melelo, unyana kufuneka adunyiswe, kodwa kumyinge, ukusuka kuwo wonke umkhankaso ukuya epeni, umcimbi awukho mfuneko. Abantwana banokuba neentloni ngenxa yengqalelo engadingekanga. Ungaze ufune ukusola umntwana ngenxa yokungaphumeleli, mane ube nesineke, ngexesha eliya kuthi zonke izinto ziqheleke. Kodwa unako ukuzisa umzuzu wokuphromotha - umzekelo, emva komnye uphumelelo, vumela umntwana alindele ukutshatyalaliswa okuncinane. Kukulungele ukuthatha umfanekiso ngenkumbulo yebhokhwe ekumba imbiza. Iifoto zeso sicwangciso zikhangeleka kakhulu, ngakumbi emva kweminyaka emininzi.