Abantwana ngenyameko, silwe!

amanyathelo 6 ukukunceda ukumelana nokuhlaselwa komntwana.

"Umntwana wam lunamandla kangangokuba kwaye maxa wambi nkqu krwada ... udanduluka ukuba andizange ndithi kuye, kwezo zihlandlo, ndingalahli nje umonde uthumele umntwana egumbini lakhe. Amaxesha amaninzi, oku kukhokelela iinyembezi ... "

Xa practice yethu (iisayikholojisti expertbaby.ru portal) senze qhu loo mabali. Xa abantwana kudlule ixesha ngokuniguqula wophuhliso okanye naziphi na ezinye izizathu, aphantsi koxinzelelo, iimvakalelo zabo wasuka waya ebantwini nabo bavakalelwa ukuba ekhuselekileyo - kule roditelyay. Kodwa abazali ngabantu nabo, kunye ndlongo nabantwana babo nomsindo, nto leyo indlela yokwemvelo ngokupheleleyo. Angry, senza izimvo, ukuxelela umntwana nto ekufanele siyenze nendlela ukuziphatha, ukohlwaya umntwana , nkqu sithethele kuye.

Kodwa xa kubonakala ngathi abantwana ukuba babe kunye lawuleki, bezama nje ukuba asinike uphawu SOS. Ukuba impendulo, ukonyusa ilizwi lakhe, ukusongela (umzekelo, enesitshanguba into), yiya kwelinye igumbi, "umoya", asimele abasamkeli uphawu ekubandezelekeni umntwana kangaka ethumela, kwaye ushiye umntwana yedwa kunye neengxaki zawo.

Kakade ke, ukuziphatha yomntwana ngakumbi njenge uchul ngaphezu kokuba isicelo uncedo, kodwa wathi ukuba imfundo yabantwana - umsebenzi olula? Ngezantsi apha uya kufumana izinyuko ezithandathu eziya kukunceda uhlangabezane ukubarhabaxa komntwana.

1) Inyathelo elinye: Khumbula ukuba xa usana lwakho ezizibikayo, musa ukuphulaphula, ukuba silwe, liqhuba isignali SOS.

Kakade ke, oku kubangela ubudlova xa umntwana okrwada kuwe. Kodwa ukuba ungakwazi ukuthatha umphefumlo nzulu kunye nokukhupha, hlala uzolile, uthabatha inyathelo ukuya yokulinganisa enye izakhono ezibaluleke kakhulu umntwana wakho - iimvakalelo ukuzeyisa! Abantwana bafunda kakhulu ngempumelelo ngakumbi ukuba senza ntoni na, yintoni na. Ukuba ukumngxolisa umntwana, echaza ukuba kuyimfuneko ukugcina wena ezandleni, akuthandeki ukuba ziqondeka ingqondo yomntwana. Kwelinye icala, ukuba ilizwi lakho yesiqhelo - intlonelo yaye ezolile, kwixesha elizayo, ithoni ngentlonelo kwaye ezolile aya kuba yinto eqhelekileyo yaye umntwana wakho.

2) Inyathelo 2. Icebiso ukuba ilizwi rough - yinto embi.

Musa ukwenza ukuqwalaselwa mntwana, musa amgxeke nto ngokuchasene noko, ukuxhasa oku, sicinge ukuba yinkxalabo, mchazele ukuba baxoxe ngawo. Umzekelo: "Wena Ngokuqinisekileyo into wakhathazeka gqitha, thetha nje kum ngathi. Ndixelele into eyenzekayo ... ". Kodwa ukuba ngenene akuyazi ukuba yintoni unobangela woku yokuziphatha kunye ukubuza imibuzo bekhala okanye umntwana ngumsindo maxa wambi ngamampunge. Zama reformulate lo mbuzo hypothesis: "Ngaba nomsindo kuba usenokwenzakalisa omnye umntu?", "Wena ukumemeza, kuba andazi ukuba mandenze ntoni?". Akuyomfuneko ukuba 'ukuya kwinqanaba ", kanye kuqulunqo ivuselela umntwana ukusabela kuwe, phikisana.

3) Inyathelo 3: Zilungiselele ukuba nedama yozigqabhuza.

Kusenokwenzeka ukuba isimemo sakho hlobo ukuxoxa oko ntoni umntwana ngenene bawaphikise unogumbe iimvakalelo ukuphendula. Wena yonke ukufumana oko okumenza (umntwana) uziphethe eyoyikekayo, ayinabulungisa nkqu nodandatheko. Kwaye mhlawumbi yokuba nguwe sizathu. Kwaye kwangoko kufuneka ubonise ubulumko bokwenyaniso States umqondiso ezosulela ngokuchanekileyo. Eyona nto iphambili musa ukuba yonke into wathi umntu. Zonke wayefuna ukuxelela umntwana - nto indlela ukuba nomsindo.

4) Inyathelo 4 emanyathelweni.

Ewe, siyaqonda ukuba ucinga: "Yena ememeza kum, yaye kufuneka sibe novelwano?!". Kodwa ke uphilisa yakho imfesane. Amagama afana "Owu, oyintanda, ngoku ndiyabona ... akumangalisi ukuba nomsindo." Musa ukuthetha kuye ezingqondweni, okanye ukunciphisa kubo, esithi: "ndizole." Kakade ke, umntwana neemvakalelo kakhulu kwi ngamaxesha ndlongo. Ngapha koko, ngokuba ixesha elide wazenza zonke intlungu ukuba wehla phezu kwakhe eli hlabathi ngenkohlakalo. Nokuba novelwano lwakho kanye oko kudala ingqiqo yokhuseleko umntwana, lets say nantoni okukhathaza kuye, agunyazise uhambe.

5) Inyathelo 5: Mamela kakuhle ukuba bamqumbise umntwana ukuba acinge isigqibo.

Xa umntwana luthoba phantsi, yena uyakwazi ukucinga ngezisombululo ezinokwenziwa. "Kwaye thina ungaya ukuhamba kwangoko, uMakazi Natasha kunye Mxim?" Impendulo yakho? "Umbono Great! Yintoni enye esinokuyenza? "

Kakade ke, ingcamango ukuze kube lula ukuphumeza, ezifana "Andifuni ukuba aye kwiklasi yokuqala, ndingathanda bahlale ekhaya" na impendulo yakho? "Hmm. Ungathi kengoku bahlale ekhaya ukuya esikolweni, isikolo mhlawumbi elothusayo wena ngoku, kodwa makhe sicinge ngayo, mhlawumbi kukho into eya kusinceda, yintoni enye esinokuyenza? "

Ngoko ke umntwana efunda ukunika izimvo kunye nezisombululo, yaye ngaloo ndlela ukulawula ukukhathazeka, kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, akubikho nemfuneko kulwa umntwana, ezama ukumbopha. Olo indlela zokusombulula iingxaki umntwana kudala ukuzithemba kunye nobuchule.

6) Inyathelo 6: Nceda umntwana wakho ukwenza intsingiselo oko kwenzekayo.

Xa uxoxa kunye nomntwana wakho ukuba kwenzeka ntoni, nto iphuhlisa ubukrelekrele ngokweemvakalelo, kwaye inegalelo kuphuhliso unxibelelwano zemithambo esengqondweni vumela umntwana ukuba ukulawula ngcono iimvakalelo zabo (izandi okulungileyo, akunjalo?). Qokelela wena, fakela uvelwano, into evakalayo ahlekisayo uthethe nomntwana wakho malunga nento eyenzekileyo. "Akuzange lula ukuhlala uzolile xa ubukhe wacaphuka gqitha namhlanje, kuqala Mna ndazalelwa buhlungu, kodwa emva koko ndabona indlela uphatheke kuwe ... Ndiyavuya ke wathi kum."

Xa ukugxeka abantwana okanye acele uxolo, zingamelana. Ukuba kwelinye icala, ukwabelana ngamava akho uze uncede umntwana ukuphonononga iimvakalelo zakhe, yena uya kuba ithuba ukuqonda ukuba kwenzeka njani kwabanye. Kwaye mhlawumbi uya kumangaliswa ukuva isiphumo uxolo somntwana okanye Makubulelwe okanye "Ndiyakuthanda."

Ewe, la manyathelo ezichazwe ngasentla kufuna ixesha nomgudu ngakumbi kuwe ngaphezu nje uthumele umntwana egumbini lakhe 'ukuba bacinge malunga nokuziphatha kwabo. " Kodwa xa usebenzisa le ndlela kwinkqubo zokukhulisa umntwana, ube ubukrelekrele bakhe ngokweemvakalelo, emfundisa uvelwano kunye nokusombulula ingxaki. Ngaphezu koko, uya nzulu ulwalamano lwakho nomntwana wakho. Ngenxa yoko, ufumanisa ukuba akukho mfuneko yokuba akhwaze ukuze aviwe, njengawe J amanqaku Okuninzi luncedo uya kufumana kwi expertbaby.ru portal