Yintoni abantu abafana nayo, okanye i-Debunking myths

Umbuzo wento abantu abathanda ngayo, kungekudala okanye kamva kuvela engqondweni yantoni na. Ewe, sonke sifuna ukwenza umboniso: kuthi ngokwethu, kwiintombi, kwiintsapho, ngabadlulayo kunye kwaye, ngokungathandabuzekiyo, ngesini esahlukileyo.

Kubonakala ukuba, ngenxa yoko amaxesha amaninzi abafazi bavela ngeengcinga zamadoda. Zeziphi na? Ewe, unokunika imizekelo emininzi! Makhe sihlale kwizinto ezibini eziqhelekileyo. Ngokomzekelo, usenokwenzeka ukuva ingxelo:

• Indoda akufanele ikhale (Strange ... kwaye, enyanisweni, kutheni? Akayindoda, okanye akayi kubuhlungu, uyicasula okanye uyaphoswa?);
• Bonke amadoda ngamadoda angamabhinqa / abaxoki / ama-scoundrels / egoists. (Kwaye kutheni konke? Mhlawumbi akudingeki ukuba uqokelele bonke?)

Kubonakala kum ukuba konke oku akukho ngaphezu kweendlela, kunye neengcamango zesihlwele, kunye nabo banolonwabo kunye nabakhethiweyo babo kwaye bayaqonda ngokwenene abantu abafana nabo, abasayi kuphinda baxoshwe ngxelo.

Wena. Kubonakala ukuba abafazi abonwabileyo kuphela abanokukwazi ukuthetha loo nto, abangazange banenhlanhla ukuhlangabezana neqabane labo? Kuvela ukuba ewe ... Kubuhlungu ...

Ndabiza isihloko sam esithi "Ukukhutshwa kweengoma". Inikezelwa kula ma ntombazana, amantombazana, amabhinqa, abafazi kunye nabafazi abathi, naphezu kwayo yonke inxaxheba, bazama ukusondelana nomntu othembekileyo nonothando.

Ndiyathanda ukuthetha malunga nendlela yokuqonda ukuba uyamthanda umntu ngokwenene, ukuba unqobe yonke iqoqo leenjongo kunye nolucalulo kwintlalo yanamhlanje.

Inkolelo yenombolo 1. Indlela eya entliziyweni kwanoma yimuphi umntu kufuneka ukuba ilele ngesisu.

Ngaphandle koko, kukho, kwaye unako ukudibana nomntu oqhekezayo odinwe ngamadaka, i-sausages kunye nokutya okukhawulezileyo. Kodwa, bafazi abathandekayo, ngaba ufuna ngokwenene umntu oza kukuphatha nje kuphela njengompheki? Umntu wanamhlanje ubaluleke ngaphezu kokunyamekela kunye nomfazi othandekayo kunokutya okuninzi. Kwabaninzi, amaqanda ahlambulukileyo, alungiselelwe ngezandla eziqinileyo, ibaluleke ngakumbi kwaye iyanelisa ngaphezu kwesaladi enesisindo esivela kwinani elikhulu lamayeza angaphandle kwamanye amazwe, ngoko akufuneki ukuba uchithe yonke imini ekhitshini ezama ukummangalisa ngesinye isicatshulwa.

Inkolelo yenombolo 2. Kuyo yonke into kwaye ihlala iqela limele livele kumntu kuphela.

Umbono omkhulu kakhulu wokubambisana. Ngendlela, iingcali ziqinisekile ukuba unobungqina kwaye unobindi umntu angabonakala njani, kwiimeko ezimnandi ngokuqhelekileyo ubonisa ubuthathaka kwaye ulindele isinyathelo sokuqala kwisithandwa sakhe.

Ngokutsho kweengqondo zengqondo, ezo zintlukwano ziye zandula zibe ngabantu abadala ukususela ebuntwaneni. Kwakuyiminyaka yesikolo ukwenzela ukuba babonise imfesane, abafana basikhupha, amantombazana, amabhinqa okanye athambisa amanzi, ezama ukutsala ingqalelo, kodwa ukwesaba ukuvuma. Yintoni ekufuneka yenziwe ngoku? Kuhleli ukuba ube yinto encinci ngokwakho, kodwa into ephambili, njengoko bathi, ayiyikugqithisa intonga, kuba ukuqinisekiswa akusiyo yonke impawu abafana nayo.

Inkolelo yenkolelo 3. Amadoda akakwazi ukuthanda, kwaye bonke abayidingayo ngesondo.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, oku kukukhohlisa, kwaye kuqinisekiswa yiengxelo zengqondo zanamhlanje ezigxininisa ukuba ngabantu, kwaye asiye thina, besifazane, abakwazi ukucinga ngakumbi uthando lwabo.

Ngokomzekelo, uphando oluthile loluntu luqhutyelwe, oluye lwaphumela ekufumaneni ukuba 90% yabameli besilisa kunye nabangama-70% kuphela abafazi bakholelwa ekuthandeni ubomi. Ukufuna impendulo yombuzo, uyithanda njani umyeni wakho? Yiba yedwa, ukuba uhlangene ngoku, ngoko, mhlawumbi, sele udidekile ngawe.

Amava othando abesilisa nabasetyhini ahluke kakhulu, kwaye ukuba ngabafazi abaninzi ababizwa ngokuthi "ubuhlobo-thandana" buyamkelekile, ngoko ke amadoda, uthando-uthando luyinto ephawulekayo. Kubonakala ukuba, lo mva nje uchaza umnqweno onamandla wokuba nomfazi othandekayo.

Akukho nto enokuyenza, silungiselelwe ngokwahlukileyo.

Inkolelo yenkolelo 4. Indoda ebhinqileyo ayiboni nantoni na enye ngaphandle kohlobo.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, indoda ayinakucinga ukuba umhlobo okhangayo unayo, kodwa, ngokweengcamango ezifanayo , indoda iqhubela ubuhle kwindawo yesithathu, ikhetha ukhetho kunye nesondo. Ngoko ke, bafazi abathandekayo, senza isigqibo: asiyikugijima ngokunyaniseka kancinci kwintlonelo, kodwa sizama ukusebenzisa izinto ezifana nabantu, ukungahambi, ukuzithemba, ukungalungi kunye nokuhleka.