Umfazi yabasetyhini - a ... womelele, nomfazi akangaphandle

Ihlabathi leenkqubela phambili, isantya sobuqhetseba, isingqimba esiphezulu sobomi ngokucacileyo sibhekisela kwizinto ezinqwenela ngamandla, eziqingqiweyo, eziqhakazileyo. Umfazi okhululwe ngumnye ogqithiseleyo ngoku okhoyo, enzima kwaye eguqukayo rhoqo. Uyakwazi ukunqanda le minyaka, uxanduva olunothando, izenzo ezinesibindi, izigqibo ezizimeleyo, ukudala ubonwabileyo nabanye. Le yinkululeko yangempela. Nabani na umntu kufuneka akwazi ukwakha iinjongo zakhe ngokwakhe kwaye akaxhomekeke kwizenzo zomntu, izimvo, iimvakalelo. Kuwo wonke umntu, ixesha lokuba uphinde uphinde uxanduva lwakho, ukuze ufumane inkululeko yakho, ukwenza ubomi bakho buphumelele.

Inkcazo

Kubalulekile ukuqala ukuchaza igama elithi "ukukhululwa". Oku kuthetha ukuthini ngaphambili? ILizwi ngokwenene linokuguqulwa ngokuthi "ukulahla umgcini womntu, ukuqaphela amandla omthetho, ukubonelela amandla okukhusela iimfuno zabo."

Ngoku eli gama livusa ubudlelwane obuphikisanayo nabesifazane - ukuhamba kwamalungelo amabhinqa. Yathola umbala wezopolitiko kwaye yaqala ukuchaza "inkululeko", ukufumana amathuba alinganayo ngokwenene nendoda, xa abafazi beqala ukulwa nokulingana kwabo.

Kancinci malunga nentlungu

Kwiminyaka edlulileyo, umfazi wayeyinkonzo yesongezelo kwindoda. Wayengenakukwazi ukulawula iimali ngokwakhe, nokuba babenayo. Vula, umzekelo, i-akhawunti yebhanki inokuphela kuphela egameni lomzalwana, uyise, indoda. Abalingani bomtshato kwintombazana bakhethwa zizihlobo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abafazi abasasaza badibana nexesha elifutshane ngaphambi komtshato, kwakungekho mfuneko yokuphupha malunga naluphi na uthando. Kwakungenayo imfundo yangempela kubafazi, kunye nemisebenzi eqhelekileyo . Yonke imisebenzi yancitshiswa yabaphathi bezoqoqosho, imilenze yomsebenzi, imfundo yabantwana kunye nokuziphatha kwakunqande kakhulu ukuziphatha okuthe ngqo.

Umfazi wanamhlanje akanakukucinga oku. Ukungenakwenzeka ukuba kwenzeke njengomntu, ukubeletha okungapheliyo, ukuxhalabisa emsebenzini, ukuxhomekeka kwindoda, ukugqoka ingxaki, ukuphazamisa ingubo yangaphakathi-uluhlu olungapheliyo lwezinto ezidakisayo ezazisinda kumahlengikazi atyunjwe ekhaya.

Iinguqu ezintle

Iprojekthi enomdla kakhulu kwimbali yenkcubeko yesimanje yinto yokukhululwa. Yintoni yatshintshile okwangoku? Imitshato ephoqelekileyo ifumaneka ukuba ayikho mthethweni, kwaye abafazi banikwe amalungelo amaninzi. Ngelishwa, abafazi basacingwa ukuba "bathathaka ngokwesini" kunye "nomgcini wecala", ukubonakala kwabo kugxininisekile, kwaye kunye neemfuno ezingamangalisa, ukufaneleka emsebenzini, aziqapheli, ukufikelela kwezinye iindawo ezizodwa zivaliwe. Ubudlelwane bobulili bobulili phakathi kwabesini bobufezekanga, kusekho iindawo ezidlulileyo kwixesha elidlulileyo "lokumnyama," kubalulekile ukuba utshintshe uluntu ngokupheleleyo.

Okwangoku kunika amathuba amakhulu. Ibhinqa elizimeleyo elizimeleyo, kwimeko ekhohlakeleyo yanamhlanje, iyakwazi ukutyhila iitalente zayo ngokupheleleyo kwaye yenze ubomi obonwabileyo. Ukufumana inkululeko kuyisipho esihle kubafazi, abaye bakwazi ukuguqula indawo engalunganga yabasetyhini kwaye bafezekise ukususwa kwenani elikhulu lezibopho.

Uphi utshintsho lwaqala?

Unyaka ka-1791 udumile ngokupapashwa kweSibhengezo samaLungelo aBasetyhini, imigaqo ephambili yokulingana, ukuxhathisa ingcinezelo, inkululeko yokuvakalisa izimvo kunye neengcamango, ukuqwalaselwa komfazi ukuba abe ngumntu ozimeleyo onelungelo lokuthatha inxaxheba kuluntu, ukuthetha ngokucacileyo ngeengxaki zakhe nokufuna isisombululo sabo.

I-Olympia de Guzh, umbhali, walungiselela phambili umyalelo womzabalazo oqhubekayo, owenziwe yimikhosi yabalandeli bokuqala beentshukumo, abameli abanobuqili babantu. Baye bakwazi ukubeka ingqalelo kubo kunye nokuphoqa abanye ukuba baxoxe ngemibuzo ebuzwayo kwaye benze. Inkqubela yandalala eNtshona, kunye nehlabathi lonke.

Iimpawu zokukhululwa eRashiya

Iziganeko ezinjalo ngokuqinisekileyo zamukelwe impendulo eRashiya, eyamkela iingcamango zentlalo kunye nokulingana, kodwa iingcamango zoluntu zazingekho kwiinkcubeko zenkcubeko ezisekelwe kukulawulwa kwindoda kwintsapho kunye nolawulo olunzulu lwesini kuluntu. Ubudlelwane bebekwe ngaphaya kweminqweno yomntu ngamnye, owayeyingxenye encinci yendlu enkulu. Ibhinqa elingu-Emancipated - lo ngumngeni onzima kwi-patriarchal system, engaboneleli ngokuzimelela nokuphuhliswa kwamalungu ayo.

Emva kokuguqulwa kwamalungelo, abemi bobabini besini babenomthetho ngokulinganayo, ngokusemthethweni bonke baba ngabathathi-nxaxheba ngokugcwele kuluntu, kodwa ubomi bebhinqa abuzange buphucule oku. Ngoku abasebenzi kunye nabasetyhini emva kwelo suku olunzima balinde "ukutshintshwa kweyesibini" - yonke inkathalo yabantwana kunye nendlu yayingumsebenzi womfazi. Kwimeko yeposi emva kweSoviet, imeko yaqhubeka, ngoku umama osebenzayo naye walahlekelwa inkxaso yombuso.

Echo kwiintlekele ezikude

Umfanekiso wowesifazane wesimanje uyiqhawe elizikhethela yona, kodwa imbali yaseRashiya yekhulu lokugqibela inempembelelo yayo ekuzileni. Ngokukhawuleza ukufumana inkululeko, ukulamba, ukuxhamla, ukuzulala, ukunyamekela kwiimeko ezinjalo ngabantwana. Kwakunzima kakhulu. Abafazi abazimele baqala ukuphupha uhlobo oluthile lwenkxaso, ukukhuselwa, ukuze basindiswe kulezi zinto. Ukunqongophala kwamadoda emva kwemfazwe kwenza ukuba kunqwenele ukubambelela kunoma yimuphi ummeli wesondo oqinileyo, ukufezekisa zonke izinto zakhe, ukuze angashiyi ngokukhawuleza.

Ukubuyela kwinkolelo ethile yenkolelo "yobunene bobufazi" ephawula namhlanje ivela apho. Iziganeko ezimbi zadlulayo emva kwexesha elide, kodwa umkhwa wagcinwa, wadluliselwa kubakhulu kunye neentombi. Yiloo nto abaxhasi be "intombi yabasetyhini" abazama ukuyenza, bebanyanzele ukuba bakhethe esikhundleni sokuzondla ngokwabo kuphela ukukhuliswa kwabantwana, inkonzo yomyeni kunye nekhaya.

Amathuba amatsha amathuba

Ixesha lamathuba amakhulu linika wonke umntu ithuba elingenamkhawulo lokudala ubomi bakhe. Ibhinqa elizimeleyo elizimeleyo lingenza ubuntu boqobo, zibe yedwa. Unomthwalo okwaneleyo wokwenza ubomi bakhe njengoko wayehlala ephupha. Kufuneka kuphela ukuphuhlisa izakhono zakho kwaye ufumane izakhono eziyimfuneko.

Ngelishwa, ukufundisa intombazana, ufundiswa kuphela ukudlala idodoli, ngamanye amaxesha umtya okanye umculo, ngaphandle kokuzama ukubonakalisa amandla akhe okwenyaniso. Ubungakanani bentsebenziswano yabasetyhini okanye ubuchule beemathematika kubhetele ukuba bafumane ebusheni, ukuze babe nexesha elaneleyo lophuhliso lwabo. Ubume obunqongophele bemfundo buvimbela amantombazana ukuba afune ukufumana indawo ebomini. Ngoko kufuneka babale kuphela umtshato onenzuzo.

Ulwaphulo oluntu

Ngelishwa, "sibonga" ngolu hlobo olusasazekayo malunga ne "intliziyo yangempela", amantombazana kunye namakhulu amabhinqa adinyanzeliswa ukuba bayeke imfuno ebalulekileyo yokuziqonda. Kwakukholelwa ukuba uvuyo lokuba ngumama, isaliti kunye nomsebenzi wesikolo ayenelisekile, kwaye inzala kwimisebenzi "yindoda" yayicatshulwa njengesiqhelo kwaye "isono." Ukukhetha izinto zokuzilibazisa kunye nobugcisa bafumana ithuba lomfazi okhululwe. Oku kwaphakamisa ubomi bakhe kumgangatho ohlukeneyo, ophezulu ophuculweyo, uphuhliso luyeka xa umntu engenzi oko athambekele kuye.

Nangona ngoku kudingeke ukuba uqaphele, injongo, amandla omlinganiso acingelwa nje kuphela. Ibhinqa lorhwebo lisoloko lingakwazi ukufumana ukuqwalaselwa kunye nokuthembela kwamalingani ngenxa yezinto ezinokuthi zenzeke kuluntu, oludla ngokubangela ukuba wenqabe ukubandakanyeka kwishishini ngaphambi kokuqala komsebenzi. Ukufezekisa ukuzithembela kuphela kunokuthatha isenzo sinyani, kubalulekile ukuqhubeka nokuqhubela phambili, ungayithobeli ingqalelo yabanye.

Iingoma kunye neengcamango ezingalunganga

Umfanekiso wesikhulu somlingo kwihashe elimhlophe yiphupha eliyingozi kakhulu, elibekelwe amantombazana ukususela ebuntwaneni. Emva koko, abafazi abangabhinqileyo ukuya kubudala bayakuxabisa le ngqungquthela. Baxelelwe ukuba banokufumana ubomi obonwabileyo kuphela ngomtshato ophumelelayo, kwaye akufuneki ukuba bafunde kwaye bafezekise nantoni na. Iqhawe lomdlalo wefestile liza kubonakala lingenakuvakalayo, ngubani, onqwenela ubuhle, uya kulungisa zonke iingxaki, anqobe iintshaba aze amvuse ngomsindo womlingo.

Kunzima kakhulu ukufumana ukuzimela kwezezimali kunye nokudala ngokubheka umhlaba, nokuba kunjalo, akunakwenzeka. Ukongezelela, ngokuhlala ubala kumntu uncedo ekutshintsheni iimpawu zakhe zangaphandle kunye nothando, intombazana iyancipha kwinqanaba lempahla kwaye iyanqandwa inkululeko yokuzikhethela. Ngoku le ndoda iya kuthatha isigqibo malunga nento yonke, uluvo lwakhe luya kuba luleke. Umfazi onolonwabo ngumntu ovisisana nendalo kunye naye, kuyafaneleka ukuba ufunde indlela yokuba yiqhawe eliphambili ebomini bakho.

Ubuthathaka obunene bokwenene

Sifanele sichaze iimbali eziphathelele "intembelelo yangempela" kunye "nobuthathaka" bebhinqa, ezizaliswe ngamanveveli ezithethiweyo, amaphephancwadi acwecwekileyo, amaziko athandwayo. Ziye zadalwa ukusabalalisa ngokucacileyo indima yezesini kuluntu oludlulileyo kwaye ziye zahlala kwihlabathi lanamhlanje njengezinto eziyingozi. Iingcamango zithintela amantombazana okuzithemba nokukhusela ngokwenene ukuba zenzeke ebomini, ukubonakalisa ubuchule bokwenene, ngokukhawuleza ekunciphiseni indlela yokuphila.

Le ngcamango yoluntu inikeza ubuninzi bokusetyenziswa kwintsapho, yakha umfanekiso ongcolileyo kwiqela. Ibhinqa elizimeleyo namhlanje alihambelani kakhulu kwiinkcazelo ezinjalo. Kukho amantombazana amaninzi, asemandleni, ngokomoya, ebomini, angaphezu kwamadoda athile.

Ukuhambelana nobomi

Wonke umntu unikwe inkululeko yokuzilungiselela iinjongo zabo ngokwezigqibo zabo. Umfazi onwabileyo usoloko ehamba phambili ngokuzithemba, engalaleli amabali "abafuna kakuhle" malunga "neyona nto". Ubudlelwane, umsebenzi, izinto ezithandwayo, ukuqonda kakuhle kulula ukudibanisa. Akuyimfuneko ukunikela omnye ngenxa yomnye, kuya kubakho ubukho obukhohlakeleyo.

Ubomi benkwenkwezi yezoshishino, exhalabele kuphela yoshishino lakhe kwaye akukho nto enye, yiphutha elifanayo kunye neentlobo "zomfazi onomzekelo" phakathi kwesitofu, isitilo somntwana kunye nococeko lokucoca. Nabani na umfazi weshishini uyazi ukuba ukukhathala nokunyaniseka akuyi kunceda ekufezeni injongo kwaye akusayi kubangezela ulonwabo. Ukuze ufumane uvuyo lokuba sekusasa lakho, kufuneka ugcine igolide ishothi kwaye ungaziniki ixesha lonke kwisifundo esisodwa. Ukuhamba phakathi kweemithi, ukudibana nabahlobo, izinto ezithandwayo, kuya kunceda ukuphumla kwimihla ngemihla, kunye nokucwangciswa ngobuchule ngosuku - ukufumana ixesha lezinto ezintle.

Imfuno ephakamileyo

Iingcali zezengqondo eziziwayo ziye zaphawula ngokukhawuleza phakathi kweempawu zomntu uhlobo oluthile lwesimo somoya olukhuthaza ukuzondla. Umnqweno wokuba ngumntu wokwenene, ukubonakalisa ukuthanda, ukuzichaza ngokwakho, ukwenza into ebalulekileyo kwihlabathi ohlala kuyo, ukuguqula oko, kungokwenyama nje isidingo njengokutya, ukhuseleko, ngesondo. Ukungabikho kwimeko yokuzihlaziya ngokwabo kubangelwa yizinto ezidityanisayo, i-neuroses, i-complexes.

Ngamanye amagama, naluphi na umntu ongeyanele ngokwaneleyo ngezinto zokuzonwabisa kunye nolonwabo, umntu kufuneka azifumene ebomini. Ubunzima bekululeko kunye nobuchule buyimvelo ngokwalo, kwaye ukungabikho kwabo kubangela ukutshatyalaliswa, kwaye oku kwahlula umntu kwizilwanyana okanye kumatshini. Zizinikezele kwiinjongo ezikude, kodwa zifikeleleke kwaye zifunyenwe, ngokwenza umhlaba ujikeleze ngakumbi, uze ufumane ikamva. Ukuhlala kuphela namhlanje, ngaphandle kokucinga ngentsingiselo yobukho kukuzilahleka.

Isidingo sokwenza uphando

Umnqweno wokufumana indlela yinto ebalulekileyo yobuntu. Ukuzibonakalisa ngokuzimela akusikho konke ukucinga ngokucokisekileyo ngobomi bomntu. Uphuhliso lwangempela lunokufezekiswa kuphela ngomnqweno onqwenelayo wokudala. Ubukho, ngokusekelwe kwizinto ezithandekayo, akunakubizwa ngokuba yi-full-fledged. Wonke umntu ovela ekuzalweni unikezwa ngamakhono akhethekileyo ajika kwisipho esiya kwisihlwayo, ukuba angasetyenziswa. Iitalente ezingabonakali zingathintela kakhulu impilo - ziqala ukutshabalalisa ingqondo kunye nomzimba ngaphakathi, kubangela izifo.

Ukufuna, ukunyamezela, ukuzimisela kuya kunceda ekukhetheni imisebenzi efunekayo. Ibhinqa elizimeleyo liza kumfumana ukubiza okwenene. Ikhadi layo lamacilongo yilawo magunya angaphakathi, okwenkqisayo ukwesaba uluntu ngokusekelwe kwimimiselo kunye nezithintelo.

Inkululeko yemali

Amandla emali akwazi ukufihla intombazana emva kwe "udonga lwamatye" lomtshato onzima, ukumphoqa ukuba alahleke ubuntu bakhe, ubuchule kunye nolwazi. Ibhinqa eluntwini yanamhlanje liphumelela, lifumana ukuzimela, ukuzinza kwemali, ukuba ingafumana ishishini layo lobomi. Kubalulekile ukuba ngumntu oqolileyo ngokwenene, uthathe uxanduva, uthathe inxaxheba kwisingoma yobomi.

Kuphela akufanelekanga ngenxa yemali ukuba ihlale yonke ixesha elikhululekile kunye nomsebenzi onzima, kungabikho ubuchule. Loo msebenzi awunxibe ubukho, kodwa ukhuthaza ukulahlekelwa ngumntu, uvelisa izakhiwo, ulahla intando. Kungcono ukuqonda into enokuyenza ngokwenene, kwaye ufunde lo msebenzi, fumana imfundo efanelekileyo, uthathe izifundo.

Kwakhona kubalulekile ukuba ukwazi ukulawula iimali zakho. Ukuba uceba kakuhle iindleko zakho, unokugcina imali eninzi, imali iya kumisa "ukuphazamiseka" kwi-budget yakho.

Imfuneko yemfundo

Ukuphuhliswa kwezakhono kunye nokuqokelelwa kolwazi kuya kunceda ekuphumeni kwimeko yokuphila. Inendima enkulu apha idlalwa yimfundo. Ibhinqa elingu-Emancipated liyazi kakuhle oku kwaye ayiqwalasele ingcebiso yabanqwenela kakuhle malunga nokufunda okungadingekile kwindoda ezayo yomyeni ocebileyo. Izakhono ezongezelelweyo kunye nolwazi oluncedo luya kuhlala luncedo ekuphuhliseni kwakho, kwakunye nokukhula kobugcisa obuphezulu.

Ukuba yingxenye yenkqubo entsha yobomi, ukufumana ulwazi olutsha kungomeleza ukuzimisela komfazi kwiiplani zakhe zesikhathi esizayo, kunceda ubone iinkalo ezintsha zeendlela ezikhethiweyo, ukuphepha iimpazamo ezininzi. Imfundo efanelekileyo iya kukuvumela ukuba uqale ukunyuka kwinqanaba lomsebenzi kwizinga eliphezulu kakhulu. Ukongezelela, kuyimfuneko ukuqhubela phambili ukufundisisa i-science eziyimfuneko kwimeko ekhethiweyo.

Iingxaki ezikhoyo

Ngelishwa, isimo sengqondo sabantu abasondeleyo sinokuba ngumqobo wokufumana ubomi obutsha. Uluntu lwentandokazi luya kuhlala luphazamisa ukuzimela komfazi. Abo baye babe yingxenye yendawo, izalamane, zifuna ngobuqotho, zizama ukuzinyanzela ukuba zibuyele kwindlela yangaphambili yokuphila ngoncedo lokukholisa, ukusongela, ukugxeka. Olu vavanyo luya kuba ngumqobo onzima kakhulu kuwe, kuba kuya kufuneka umelele kubantu abathandekayo entliziyweni.

Abahlobo kunye nosapho ngabantu abazi zonke iindlela zokuphatha abantu abangcono kunabanye. Ibhinqa elizimeleyo-mhlawumbi into engaqhelekanga yindoda okanye abazali. Bafuna ukubona ubuso obuqhelekileyo bomama, umfazi, umhlobo kwaye akafuni ukuyeka kuye. Kufanelekile ukuchazela kwiintsapho indlela ebalulekileyo ngayo utshintsho olwenzelwe uphuhliso lwabantu kunye nempumelelo yonke yentsapho. Abantu abathandekayo kwiimeko ezinzima baya kuhlala bexhasa, kwaye impumelelo yentombi yabo, umfazi, intombi, iya kubangela uvuyo lwabo.

Khetha ukhetho

Enyanisweni, ngenxa yokuziphucula ngokwabo, uya kubeka umngcipheko, unikele ngemikhwa yakho emidala kwaye ungene kwizinto ezingaziwa, ehlala eyikayo, kodwa umvuzo uya kuba uvuyo nokwaneliseka ukuzifumana. Ubomi obutsha bomfazi ozimeleyo luhlala luyisiphumo sokhetho olunzima kunokuba lube ngumntu onyanisekileyo, phakathi kokutya okutyayo kunye nesidingo sokwesibini okwesibini kwinqanaba elidlulileyo.

Ukuze siqonde ngcono oko kufuneka itshintshwe, koko kufuneka kuba sisishiywa, nokuba Nongeniselo angamelwa imbonakalo yayo baphumelele kwiminyaka embalwa. Yintoni unxulumano kunye "ulonwabo" igama "ngokuvumelana", "luck"? umfanekiso okungqongqo ngumfazi yeshishini, ukuma ladies ngokwasengqondweni okanye rollicking umhambi isithunzi phezu kwentlabathi entlango ... iinketho ezininzi. Khetha kakhulu, ngubani na oya kuba mna omtsha - ukuziva engakholelekiyo. ubuchule Real - kukudala yobomi bakhe.

isiphelo

Umfazi yanamhlanje ngaba ngokwenene ukuzimela, nangona iintsalela zangaphambili namhlanje. Kuza kufuneka ukuzimisela, ukuzibophelela, ukuzimisela ukufunda kunye nokuzimisela ukutshintsha kwisiza. ukwazi Public namhlanje igcina iingcamango ezininzi malunga izakhono kunye nendima yabafazi eluntwini. Le ntombazana aninakuliphulaphula izimvo zabanye abantu ngokwabo, kuyimfuneko ukuba zikwazi ukuxhathisa nokuqhathwa kwaye uzama ukuthintela imeko yayo yophuhliso. Inkululeko yokuvakalisa yimfuneko eliphezulu nawuphi na umntu. Nesibindi ukuze athathe uxanduva ngokupheleleyo ukuba ikusasa lethu kufuna ubuchule yobomi bakhe.