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Kakade ke, uqhawulo-mtshato - oku kuyintlekele enkulu lonke usapho, hayi nje kuphela ngenxa indoda nomfazi, kodwa ngenxa abantwana babo, abazali kunye nezizalwane. Kodwa idrama inkulu kuqhubeka umntu lowo yedwa, oko hamba, nokuba indoda okanye umfazi (nangona kaninzi ngaphezu abafazi kweyela kwimeko enjalo). Uqhawulo - ayikho kuphela ngelahleko intsapho, ubulolo, kodwa ixesha elininzi ntshikilelo emzimbeni kunye luvo. Emva kokuba zonke izenzakalo okuhlamba ukungcola: kumanyundululu, ukuhlazeka, "debriefing", ukwahlulwa kwepropati, inkqubo esemthethweni - wexesha iinyanga eziliqela, yaye ngamanye amaxesha ixesha elide, yaye ibizwa ngokuba yintoni, kwi "kwiqondo eliphezulu". Ngoko emva konke oku, kufuneka ukuba "bathabathe bona 'kwaye kubomi bemihla ngemihla, kwaye ngengqiqo zengqondo, ukuba usuguit meko, ukuze angaweli ngokudandatheka uze uzame ukuba kancinane baqale ukwakha ubomi babo.

Ingongoma yokuqala: imfuneko ukuba azihlanganisele ngokuthe engqondweni ngokwabo yokuba lo mtshato - ayikho nje yintlekele ukuba kujongwe kwisigaba ezithile zobomi, nto leyo igqithile baphume isihlalo elandelayo. Kulo mzekelo, yenza akukho ingqiqo ukuba buhlungu ngento abuyele, kwaye ayikwazi kutshintshwa, kodwa kufuneka makazibandakanye kwilungiselelo ubomi bakhe obutsha, yaye ukuba lisale.

Xa uqala ukubona i imeko nkqu nabanye ngokwembono ezintle, ithuba livela. Uqhawulo kukufa, ngandlel 'ithile, yaye kwakufanelekile kunjalo, kodwa kuya kwa nshita, ukufelwa ngumntu omthandayo, ukulahlekelwa yonxulumano unalo ithuba, ukuba zonke izinto ziza kuphindwa kwaye kuya kuba ngcono. Umakhulu entsha, abazali abatsha akuyi kuba, kunye nendoda entsha okanye umfazi kusenokwenzeka kubonakale. Kwinkcaso ukuba iziganeko ezinjalo akukho ndlela ebonakalayo - kufuneka kuthathwe nkathazo njengesikhokelo inyathelo, ngenxa yokuba ixesha elide u ukuqhuba ngokwabo ekoneni yamava nokubandezeleka, kokukhona uya kukhula iingxaki zenu; nangokwasengqondweni, yatshintsha zasekhaya kunye nehlabathi.

Njengoko uGqirha Kurpatov: "Ukuba kukho into engahambanga kusapho - oko kujongwe yintlekele aze aqalise uhambo olude yentuthumbo. Yaye ubonakala njenge mngeni - "?! Ndiza ndiyagubha isidalwa okanye unelungelo" Ukuba ubekela ngaphakathi ukuba ufanelwe intsapho elungileyo, emtshatweni, ubudlelwane yinxalenye, ukuba uqalise ukucinga ngendlela yokufumana njani loo nto niyilimileyo; kunokuba wenze isiqhazolo esizithandayo lesizwe - kungcwaba wena uphilile ". ukusebenza Ngoko imo yakho ngokwasengqondweni, Tune kwi ukuya kwixesha elizayo, sichaza iimbono, wabeka usukelo uze uqale ukuthabatha amanyathelo okuqala ngokubhekisele kubomi obutsha. Kunzima kakhulu, kodwa kufuneka uzame nzima ekuqaleni 'ukuthatha kunye ngokwakho ", maxa wambi ngenkani, kwaye ke konke kuya kuphumelela!

Ingongoma yesibini: kufuneka uzame kangangoko kunokwenzeka ukuba athathe ixesha labo ukufumana ingqesho entsha, uze ukhangele, bathi, "yiya ebantwini." Kakade ke, la macebiso ifuna izixhobo eziphathekayo, kodwa ubuncinane omnye okanye izinto ezimbini uyakwazi ukuza kunye nokuzalisekisa. Kufuneka wenze ubomi isantya yakho isebenza ngakumbi ukuba bacinge malunga ubulolo, malunga "ubomi phezu" nje Andinaxesha, kodwa kunokuba waziva, ekuqaleni, ubuncinane ngokungangqalanga, ukuba ubomi obutsha sele iqalile. Kwaye kwakhona, zonke kokwasekuqaleni kwenu ezitsha kukunika amaninzi amathuba ukudibana nabantu abatsha: unobubele, "luncedo" kunye naye, yaye mhlawumbi ibalulekile.

1. New: Uqeqesho, uqeqesho, uqeqesho. Olu hlobo exercises kuya kunceda ukuphucula ukuzithemba, ukuze bazive amandla abo, ubuchule, va ukubaluleka kwalo. Uya kuba amathuba amatsha omsebenzi kunye namathemba kule misebenzi. Baphazanyiswa iingcinga, amaxhala kunye noxanduva kwezi seshoni, uya kuba kakhulu kuyanqaba ukuya ucinga ngeengxaki zabo.

2. wabukhanyisa ubomi minor okanye iphupha elide-bandilibele. Zama ukuqonda inkanuko, waba ingcinga elide, kodwa waqhubeka uyifake off. Umzekelo, kunokuba: umzobo, ukufota okanye nayiphi na enye umsebenzi, skydiving, iihambo umdla, ukuqokelela izinto, ukuloba, njl Qala akazange afune ukuba, musa ukuba amandla kunye nomoya, kodwa athathe amanyathelo okuqala "ngenxa musa ukuba," uze sayo, yaye uya nomdla ukuphuhlisa ngokwalo.

3. Inkangeleko: care ubuhle, a ngubo entsha. Ukuqonda imbonakalo yakho: ukuzithemba ukhanga - ngundoqo kwimpumelelo endleleni eya kubomi obutsha. Ukongeza, ukubonakala kakuhle abanembeko uhlasela kwandisa amathuba ingqalelo besini esahlukileyo. Hi ndlela leyi, amadoda le ngongoma nayo - kutheni xhalanga aliyi kuzinyothula na ukumila kwayo, akuthethi ennoble iinwele, kungekhona ukuze uhlaziye ngubo yakho.

4. Sports, ukufaneleka, umzimba kunye nangaphezulu. Ukuphucula ukubonakala yaye zomeleze ithoni emzimbeni. Kwaye emva kokuba umsebenzi wenziwe amabi, umthwalo uxinezeleko reset. Ukuba akukho abahlobo ezifanele oko, ndagqobhoza nje wenze umthambo ku ejimini, uze ukhethe ngokwabo okanye iiklabhu kukuqamba abaqalayo yevoli, yomnyazi, ibhola. Kumnandi, ngok bashiye zonke iimvakalelo ezimbi.

5. Leisure, Uhambo, ukuhamba - indlela enkulu ukutshintsha imeko, ukuze bazuze amava amatsha, ukucinga ubomi obutsha kwaye wenze nabazana umdla.

6. Chitha ixesha elininzi nabahlobo, usapho, zama ukutyelela iinkampani, iindawo zokutyela, amaziko ukuzonwabisa, ukunxibelelana. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo - musa ukuba wedwa kunye neengcinga enzima.

7 Yaye okona kubalulekileyo - musani ukuboyika abahlobo abatsha kunye besini esahlukileyo. Wena ngoku - indoda simahla, kwaye banelungelo ngokupheleleyo kunye ngothando, nothakazelelo zethutyana, yaye ukuthandana.

Plus, amadoda iza kuvalwa ukuba ixesha elithile intloko yakhe, ukuba baye emsebenzini, yaye uya aphum iingcinga ezingakhiyo, kunye neziqhamo yentando zabo - imeko yezentlalo mali iza kuphucula. Le yindlela elungileyo ukuphuma kuba amaxabiso madoda njenge "umsebenzi, umsebenzi" bakhuphisane ngamandla kunye eziphambili 'izihlobo ", ngoko ke kuya kuba lula ukuba' ukufumana bona" umsebenzi ngeli xesha kwexesha. Kodwa abafazi musa ngoko ayikhuthazwa - kubaluleke ngakumbi "unxibelelwano, inkxaso, umsa", ngoko ukuze baye ngokwabo kwaye akukho mfuneko kangangoko kunokwenzeka ukunxibelelana ukuqhuba le ngxaki kunye ntshikilelo kwikona ezifana nabantu esibathandayo, inkxaso ukufumana nokuqonda, ukuze kunye nabahlobo, iqela, abahlobo abatsha.