Ngaba ndiyayiguqula igama umntwana ngaphandle kwemvume bukavise?

Kudala-dala kwakukho isiko, njengako apho omabini amaqabane baqalisa ukunxiba abanegama elifanayo (kwiimeko ezininzi, lowo bobabo nendoda yakhe). Xa umtshato ezelwe umntwana, igama elifanayo anikwe kuye. Kodwa ke kukho iimeko ebomini xa ufuna nje ukutshintsha igama lomntwana. Le nkqubo ilawulwa ngumthetho, kwaye ukwenza inkqubo eziyimfuneko baya kufuna iziseko efanelekileyo kunye imvume nokulindwa. Indlela ukutshintsha igama umntwana ukwenza into elungileyo, esinokuzifunda kweli nqaku.

Ukusuka uthando mtshato

Ubomi yentsapho isibini ngasinye kwenzeka nokuba ukudideka. Abantu ababini baye bakhulela kwiintsapho kunye iziseko ezahlukeneyo kunye nemikhwa, akulula ukuba ukuvana, nokuba akawuvali umlomo. Umntu unako ukuyoyisa le isithintelo, ngoxa iminyaka emininzi "kwaye unembulaleko aze ngenxa yovuyo", yaye umntu enze esinye isenzo esibi yaye kunokuba nzima - mtshato.

Kodwa loo nto zonke ngasemva, amaxwebhu esandleni, igama yatshintsha komshado. Ukongeza, umfazi unako emva kwexesha elithile ukuba aphinde atshate. Kwaye ke kukho umbuzo esebenzayo ngokupheleleyo: indlela ukutshintsha ifani yomntwana ibe ifani unina wakhe?

Ukuba uthathe ingqalelo thina ikhowudi usapho, ngoko kubhaliwe kwathiwa igama usana emiselwe amagama yabazali. Ukuba umama kunye notata wakhe amagama ahlukeneyo, igama umntwana ugqibe imvume kwabo. Abazali kufuneka iifani ezahlukeneyo, banikwe ithuba ukuba zinyule umntwana a ifani kabini, efunyanwa ngokuhlanganisa ezo oomama kunye abazali.

Indlela ukutshintsha igama wosana emva njani lukatata lusekiwe?

Kukho iimeko apho usana yobhaliso, owazalelwa ukuba nabazali wayamene kono, lukatata iye ayasekwa. Ngoko kubhaliwe ngokuzenzekelayo kwi ifani sikanina. Ukuba uyise ufuna ukunika nkwenkwana Chubby igama lakhe, ngexesha lobhaliso, abazali kufuneka angenise ingxelo jikelele.

Kusenokwenzeka kwakhona kwenzeka ukuba umntwana wokuqala ufumana Igama sikanina. Kodwa emva kwexesha elithile, abazali isigqibo ukutshintsha igama unina ukuba utata kuba behlala ligosa likarhulumente. Kulo mzekelo, ekuqaleni kukho inkqubo esesikweni yesatifikethi lokujongana nosapho, kwaye ke ungafaka isicelo sokutshintsha egameni usana xa la maxwebhu.

wenza ifani yomntwana emva kokushiya umama kunye notata njani?

Njengoko umthetho, emva komtshato esemthethweni, umntwana uhlala nomama wakhe, owathi ngenxa ezithile yezizathu zobuqu, okanye nje bengacinganga ngokweemvakalelo ufuna ukutshintsha igama lakhe intombi yakhe (okanye pre-umtshato - ukuba, umzekelo, ngaphambi komtshato, waye watshata waza wathabatha igama nomyeni wakhe, kwaye emva kokuba ngokwahlukana kwabo ndagqiba kwelokuba ulishiye). Kodwa wagqiba ukutshintsha igama lakhe, uqala ukuba sizibuze ukuba kunokwenzeka ukutshintsha igama umntwana emva komtshato?

Ewe, kusenokwenzeka. Kuthatha uyise ebhaliweyo imvume umntwana kuphela. Ke kaloku umntwana ujika iminyaka 7, kwaye akufunekanga wayengazifuni. Ngamanye amaxesha kuyenzeka ukuba ukutshintsha igama ngaphandle kokucela imvume kayise. Kule meko, kukho omnye "kodwa": Ukuba intshukumo enje akukho sizathu esinzulu, uyise angafaka isicelo enkundleni, nto leyo kusenokwenzeka ukuba sibe kwicala lakhe.

Izizathu igama utshintsho

Ngoko ke sele kusetyenzwa ngendlela itakane unako ukufumana igama lakhe. Ukanti umbuzo, kwaye ingaba kamama ukutshintsha igama umntwana uhlala mlonyeni. Qwalasela uhlobo ubungqina ikhona into ukutshintsha igama lomntwana;

- Ukuba kukho isigqibo enkundleni Adoption (adoption) wosana;

- Ukuba omnye wabazali ukutshintsha igama lakhe;

- Ukuba omnye wabazali eyaziwayo ungakwazi okanye ezilahlekileyo;

- Ukuba kukho yokurhoxiswa isigqibo senkundla ukwenzela ukuqaphela lukatata (ukuba yiloo nto, ukuba wayegwetyelwe utshintsho);

- Ukuba omnye wabazali ufile okanye yena evinjwa amalungelo lwabazali;

- kwimeko ingqalelo ngokuzithandela lukatata yomiselo edityanelweyo ngabazali umntwana;

- ukuba igama yanikwa itakane, hayi kuthathelwa ingqalelo umnqweno wabazali omnye okanye bobabini.

ingqalelo ekhethekileyo kufuneka ihlawulwe yokuba ukuze ukutshintsha igama umntwana, ngubani na sele iminyaka esixhenxe ubudala, kufuneka ufumane imvume yakhe. Nangona kuthathwa umntwana, oko uluvo lwakhe ngalo mba iya akugungqi. Ngoko ke abazali awanalo ilungelo ukutshintsha igama lakhe, njengoko kusengaphazamisana ilungelo komntwana ukuya ubuntu bakhe. Ungalutshintsha njani igama lomntwana, xa kukho imfuneko onjalo? Uzakufun aukugqithisa imibono ungakwazi kuphela senkundla umntwana. Ke ngoko, ukuba oku kuyimfuneko ngokomdla womntwana.

imvume kabani efunekayo?

Ngelize musa ukuba naxhala malunga nokuba umntwana uyakwazi ukutshintsha igama nendlela yokwenza kakuhle, kufuneka uyazi ukuba ngubani ekufuneka siyavumelana ngale nkqubo.

Kwiimeko ezininzi, inguqu ixhomekeke amagama oonyana ubudala. Konke oku kuqondwe inkcazelo ngezantsi.

Ukuba ubudala usana kuluhlu kwiminyaka ukususela ekuzalweni ukuya isixhenxe ezelwe, kuya kufuneka kuphela imvume yabazali.

Ukuba umntwana phakathi kweminyaka esixhenxe elinesine ubudala, imvume kufuneka efunyenwe kuye evela kubazali bakhe.

Ukuba sele elivisayo, kuyimfuneko ukuba afumane imvume omabini amaqela: yona kunye nabazali.

Ukuba umntwana lifikelele kweminyaka elishumi elinesithandathu, imvume kuphela iyafuneka ukuze utshintshe igama layo.

Ingaba Kuyenzeka ukutshintsha igama umntwana, hayi ebamkele imvume kayise?

Ewe, ebomini nantoni na enokwenzeka, ngoko ngamanye amaxesha kukho imfuneko ukutshintsha igama umntwana ngaphandle kwemvume uyise. Kukho iimeko ezahlukeneyo apho imvume ebhalwe nguye;

- uyise wathi akakwazi ngenxa yokuba ukuba unesifo sengqondo;

- kunye nosapho utata akahlali, kodwa indawo yayo akwenzeki ukufaka;

- uyise ngabom, kungekho sizathu sivakalayo, uyala ukuba ahlawule inkxaso umntwana, akabi inxaxheba bekhulisa umntwana, ndayihluthwa kwamalungelo umntwana.

Ukuba ubuncinane enye yezi meko, kukho ngoko ke umbuzo ukutshintsha indlela ifani yomntwana ngaphandle kuyise, kuba ngathi akukho ukuba. Konke oku kungenzeka ukuba isigqibo egameni kamama nomntwana.

Ukutshintsha amagama usana emva kokushiya abazali

Kukho iindlela ezintathu ukusombulula le ngxaki.

Uhlobo yokuqala kungenzeka ukuba uphendule umbuzo othi, ngaba kunokwenzeka ukutshintsha igama umntwana ngaphandle uyise. Ungakwenza oku ngaphandle phambi kwelinye iqabane, ukuba wafa okanye owaziwa ngolo hlobo, yena zibonakaliswa engekhoyo okanye bengento yanto.

ongaya kuyo ukuba umzali uyavumelana isigqibo ukutshintsha igama le ndlela yesibini. Ukuba ukutshintsha igama wosana umama notata, ukutshintsha igama komntwana, lowo ungekabikho ufikelele kwiminyaka yobudala esixhenxe. Ukuba sele kubhiyozelwa yayo wokuzalwa wesixhenxe, into yatshintsha ifani yakhe kunokwenzeka kuphela kunye kwemvume yakhe. Oku kubonisa intlonelo umntwana.

Ukuze wenze yonke into, kufuneka uqhagamshelane zincwadi endaweni yomfaki-sicelo, kunye abahlali ukuba lingenise uxhwebhu jikelele; iya kubonisa njani yaye oko kuya ukutshintsha igama wosana.

Kodwa umthetho, omnye umzali kunqabile kakhulu uyavumelana kunye notshintsho lwegama nosana. Kulo mzekelo, ngobuwena efanelekileyo wesithathu.

Lwalo wesithathu ubalisa Kwimeko apho omnye wabazali akavumelani ukutshintsha ifani yomntwana. Kulo mzekelo, imbambano phakathi unina noyise baya enokusonjululwa ukugada yolawulo lwamazwe ngamanye. Iya kuthathela ingqalelo indlela ukufeza kwabazali iimbopheleleko zabo ngokunxulumene umntwana, kunye nezinye iimeko ezininzi eziyimfuneko eziya uqinisekise ukuba itshintshi aza bahambelana nalaa mabinzana amagama nomdla womntwana.

Kodwa ungenza isicelo enkundleni:-sicelo bafaka ingxelo sebango ummangalelwa. Izizathu ezinokwenzeka kwaye yokuziphatha kufuneka anikwe, ekufuneka ukutshintsha igama umntwana. Xa ufumene isigqibo senkundla kwicala lommangali, unobhala wenkundla izilungiso irekhodi kwendibano akhuphe isatifiketi esitsha sokuzalwa kunye lonke utshintsho oluyimfuneko.

Ekubeni ukwenza kweembambano enjalo phantse engekho, kwicala lommangali abazidubi buhlungu ukuba ubonane nommeli nentsapho abaqeqeshiweyo.

Njani ilungelo ukutshintsha igama lomntwana?

, Kufuneka ukulungiselela amaxwebhu enjalo ukwenza oku:

- ingxelo evela umama kunye notata, kwaye xa umntwana sele wajika iminyaka elishumi, yaye isigqibo kwalo;

- yoqobo kunye nekopi yesatifiketi sokuzalwa;

- Isiqinisekiso yokuqala mtshato lwabazali.

Kuyenzeka ukuba kamama aphinde atshate kwaye ufuna ukunika umntwana igama le ndoda iyiyimbi. Ndingazi tshintsha njani igama umntwana emva komtshato? Oku kungenziwa kuphela xa uyise womntwana akanandaba. Ukuba ayithanga akuvumi ukuba ukufuduka kunokwenzeka kuphela xa uyise uya kuhluthwa amalungelo akhe ngutata. Kwaye oku, ke, bekuya kuba nzima xa umntu obandakanyekayo ebomini usana yaye byi n'wi isondlo.