Le yomkhaya - ubukumkani olawulwa Uthando!

Ngoko ke, ehlabathini kulindeleke ukuba usapho eqhelekileyo - ukuba uqinisekise ukuba abazali abangatshatanga abaye babe nabantwana. Iintsapho apho omnye umzali, ngokuzenzekelayo uya kuwela kudidi "siphene", "ezingaphelelanga" okanye iintsapho "kakuhle." I nangoko ukubeka phambili ngokubona esahlukileyo.

Inani lamalungu osapho akuthethi ubulunga bayo. Strong, ukonwaba, lwentsapho - yinto iqela elincinane apho wonke bekhululekile. Kwaye ke phambi abazali bobabini nabafazi asinto sisalathisi umgangatho wobudlelwane phakathi kwayo.

Kakade ke, kukho utata eyodwa okanye umama, ukukhulisa umntwana ngokwabo, kunzima kakhulu ukuba ukunika abantwana imfundo ngeendlela ezahlukahlukeneyo. Kodwa kakhulu efikelelekayo! A lot of omama onikhuphileyo oonyana lokuzincama emangalisayo, ukhaliphe,. Kwaye ke Pope kukho abo banceda iintombi zabo akhule uhlobo kunye nokuthantamisa, kukho iindwendwe emangalisayo kunye noomama nenkathalo. Omnye umbuzo, yintoni na sancedakala phofu ... Kodwa sithetha ngoku malunga naloo nto.

Abaninzi phambili ithisisi ukuba ngesiqhelo, usapho "yokwenene" - intsapho apho kukho abantwana. isiphakamiso kwakhona impikiswano.

Ukuze abazali abaninzi, ukuba abantwana kuyimfuneko ngokwenene ukuze bazive ngathi kwintsapho yinxalenye. Kodwa kukho abo abantwana ngokupheleleyo akukho mfuneko; abanalo omnye ingqiqo enzulu ubomi babo azele ubuchule, umsebenzi, ukuzeyisa ukuphucuka. Kude kuse ebudaleni ikwandim, le ezimbini uthando omnye komnye, inkxaso, uvelwano.

Ngaphandle kokuba umntu unelungelo ukuzilahla yona? Ikakhulu ngenxa yokuba asingabo bonke iintsapho kunye nabantwana, liyi ukuqonda kunye nobuhlobo uzolile xa iqela elincinane.

Kukho omnye 'intsomi' abantu ithamsanqa usapho, endiya angathanda ukonakalisa. Abazali abaninzi babeke phambili postulate ukuba intsapho eyonwabileyo - nto enye apho abantwana basempilweni ngokupheleleyo kuphela.

Kakade ke, ukuze ujonge ukubandezeleka ngumntu omthandayo - vavanyo hayi imiphefumlo ibuthathaka. Noko ke, iintsapho ezifana ukubhalisa kwisigaba of "iingozi", "kakuhle" - impazamo enkulu. ucinga kubaluleke ngaphezu ubukho omnye wamalungu osapho yokukhubazeka emzimbeni, yaye isimo sengqondo sabo bonke abanye umntu njengomntu I.

Umzekelo engqina impikiswano sam, ukuba abe intsapho eyonwabileyo apho kukho abantu abakhubazekileyo, kwakunye nenyaniso yokuba ekuthiwa-usapho "ezingaphelelanga" unelungelo ukonwaba, nokuba ofanelekileyo, kuya kusebenza ibali malunga umama kunye nonyana.

Wayeneminyaka eli-8 kuphela ubudala xa umama wakhe elele elukhukweni enedumbe. Wayeka ukuhamba, ukuthetha, udle ubuzibhinqisa. I Pope wayesele ndaweni ngokukhuselekileyo wahlala, ndizilibala ngokupheleleyo malunga yakhe ex-umfazi kunye nonyana.

Ngaba ngokuba ukunxaxha amashwa entsatsheni? Kunoko, amashwa ukuba ngokunduluka kwakhe kwenzeka kakhulu emva kwexesha ... Ngoko ukusuka 'ngokupheleleyo' usapho kunye nabazali ezimbini nonina kunye nonyana wafudukela kudidi "iintsapho umzali ongenaqabane", "kakuhle." Noko ke, ngentetho evakalayo ngokwahlukileyo, kodwa ngoku baye bahlala ulonwabo kunye novuyo, noxolo nothando!

Kodwa ubunzima bangcamla ubomi abatshatileyo, ezifana: ukukhala, ndingalali ebusuku, ukusebenza nzima ukuze idenariyo, obehamba umyeni ukucula-ezinxilisayo - sikhumbule ngokwabo. Ndingenwe zayisithelisa ukukhanya. UMama wagula. Boy wayefuna ukuze kwelikhaya, Woyahlulela ukusuka nentsapho kuphela.

Ummelwane angenelele. Yena ekhutshwe kwi eluvalelweni umntwana. Ke inkwenkwe zonke Care of Mothers zabe emagxeni abo. Xa eli-9 ubudala ohlamba yena uyazondla unina evela ngecephe, phezu isandla ibe ukuhamba, ohleli kwisitulo sezigulana esinamavili, ukwenza yokuthanjiswa, ukuthetha aliyeki ukuba avume uthando lwakhe kuye, wamanga ngesandla sakhe.

Family - le ubukumkani, nto leyo ilawulwa luthando! Umama wafunda ukuba eme, uthe kwesivakalisi sokuqala emva kosuku yoyikekayo KuloMgabuli yobomi "phambi" yaye "emva." La la mazwi: "Mna ... uthando ... wena ..."

Enye intatheli wafunda ngazo, bayilungisa ingxelo. Umabonakude negalelo yokuba inkwenkwe - oku awuqinisekanga, umntu omkhulu, ubuntu nesibindi ongenakoyiswa nangentliziyo inkulu, nangamandla amakhulu engqondweni - wafunda lonke ilizwe. Namhlanje, babeye banikele ingqalelo abantu abanempembelelo, umama elungiselela msebenzi, apho, ngokutsho oogqirha, kuya zingasinceda, njengoko inkqubela eyenziwayo.

Leyo - abazalwana, usapho ekunene, intsapho wokwenene. Kungakhathaliseki indlela abantwana bakhe ukuba bonke abazali bekwi kwimfundo wenzala, nokuba kukho ubutyebi bonke zisempilweni - oku usapho, kungekhona "iseli" notorious, abhaliswe ephepheni.

Kwaye ke intsomi sokugqibela malunga kufanele kuqwalaselwe abaselula intsapho. Namhlanje wasungula iikhrayitheriya ubudala ngokuzuzwayo ekufumaneni izindlu "iintsapho abaselula." Ukuqala jiko kunokwenzeka kuphela ukufikelela omnye wabalingane iminyaka engama-36. Ndikholelwa ukuba kuphosakele.

usapho Young - intsapho abembumbile akukho kwiminyaka engaphambili kwama-8 eyadlulayo, ngaphandle amaqabane ubudala. Kutheni 8 hayi-5 okanye 6?

Iingcali zengqondo neengcali bathi ukuba izibini ekuqa- iminyaka 7 rhoqo kuyaphula. Ngoko ke, kweli xesha kufuneka inkxaso ekhethekileyo, ngokubini obo buphathekayo kunye nasengqondweni.

Zonke evezwa ngam - IMHO. Kodwa ke unelungelo lokuba khona, ukufunda kunye neengxoxo.