To iinyembezi: unobumba kayise intombi yakhe Down syndrome ngomhla womtshato wakhe

Pol Dogerti, edume umbhali IsiNgesi kunye part-time uyise, wabhala ileta echukumisayo ngokwenene intombi yakhe Down syndrome ngosuku lomtshato wakhe. Apha kwisicatshulwa yale ncwadi nguqulelo Russian.

Ileta intombi Paul Doherty xa

"Othandekayo Gillian! Namhlanje, iya kuqhutywa wedding yakho. Ukususela namhlanje, wena Ryan uza kungena ebomini kunye. Le mini iya kuba ekuqaleni kwembali yosapho lwakho. Andazi kungenzeka ukuba intombazana kunye Down syndrome bayakwazi ukufumana uthando ubomi bakhe aze atshate umntu, kodwa ndiyazi ukuba wena!

Ngoku ke egumbini lakho. Kunye nomama wakhe kunye zavuka na ukwenza amalungiselelo okugqibela ukuba akhangele kule mini ingakumbi intle. Iinwele zakho sele elibhalwe ngokuqhelekileyo ezinweleni eziphakamileyo, evula intamo obhityileyo. Indlela onxiba nozilungisa inkaba (nawe ngokuqhula ukuzibiza "yabeka izinto zabo") etsala yonke ray kwelanga kwemini emva kwexesha. Wakho make-up (kwaye ingakumbi le into yokuqaba eliqaqambileyo) eligxininisa iimpawu zakho ezithandekayo. Kwaye uncumo liqhuma ebusweni bakho.

Mna ngoku entendelezweni yendlu yethu, ndixhoxha intloko yam ukhangele phezulu kwi window yakho. Ngaloo mathuba xa iintliziyo zethu zizaliswe ithemba ngekamva, siziva ubomi ngakumbi. Yonke into Saphupha, wenza ihlabathi yaye imele ntumbuluko efanelekileyo. Ulonwabo ngokwenene. Ndiziva ngokucacileyo oko, emi phantsi window yakho.

Ndiye ndifuna ukukuxelela, kodwa siyaqonda ukuba akukho mazwi ...

Xa bazalwa kuwe, naxa ekhula, umama wakho mna ngokukodwa ukhathazeke inkqubela yakho ukufunda. Kakade ke, siye senza konke okusemandleni ukukunika imfundo engcono, safumanisa ezona titshala. Siye saphawula impumelelo yakho, ngokuba simbonile wazama njani, kwaye ufanelwe imbeko.

Senza konke na ukuba siyenze. Ekuphela kwento eseleyo ngaphandle lwethu - ubudlelwane bakho noontanga. Sasifuna ukwenza abanye abantwana ukwamkela kwakho, akuncede, malube nani elandelayo. Sasicinga: "Ngaba na ubomi umntwana ngamnye kufuneka kuzaliswa iintlanganiso kunye nabahlobo, wachitha ubusuku kunye nezindlu zomnye? Loluphi uhlobo ebuntwaneni, ukuba akukho yokuzalwa nobuhlobo ococek? Ngaba akandifanele konke oku intombi yethu? "

Mna ndandinexhala ngawe ...

ngobo busuku ndakhala xa wehla kuthi kunye nomama wakhe okubuhlungu wathi: ". Ndiya kuba abahlobo"

sonke sifuna abantwana bethu ukuze bonwabe. Sinqwenela ukuba ezempilo kunye nolonwabo, thina nje sifuna abantwana bethu ukuba babe nabantwana. Ngu ilungelo lokuzalwa komntwana ngamnye umnqweno ukuhlala umntwana. Mna ndandinexhala ngawe, wayengayazi into yokwenza umnqweno wakho ukuba intombazana encinane eqhelekileyo.

Kodwa andizange ukuba naxhala ...

Ube zendalo ezifana xa kufikwa kunxibelelwano. Kwisikolo samabanga aphantsi, wena ngokuqhula ngokuba "usodolophu" kuba lula ndawonye bonke abantwana kunye nento yokuba ndiyazingca ngayo. Kwaye esikolweni eziphakamileyo inxaxheba kumdaniso ekwenzeni eqongeni. Ekuhambeni lonke ixesha ukuba kwikholeji, u nga nombono ehlala umphefumlo zomntu ngamnye eziqhelekileyo kunye nawe.

Ngaba ukukhumbula ezo zinto njengoko kwangaphambili, ungenza neze siyenze? Uthe Anizange nifunde ukuba ukukhwela ibhayisikile, nina imidlalo awukwazi ukudlala. Abantu bathi ukuba akuyi kungena kwikholeji, ukuze kungabikho namnye ubuya eyele eluthandweni kwaye musa ukutshata ... Kwaye ngoku ndijonga kuwe kule ilokhwe yomtshato ezintle!

Nguwe ilungileyo nabani bendikwazi. Wena - indoda, akwazi ukuziphilela ngaphandle inkohliso kunye nenkohliso. Wazi njani ngokwenene ukuba uyavelana, yaye usoloko bazama ukunceda. Mhlawumbi ngamnye kuthi angathanda ukubonana kubomi umntu onjengawe.

Wena Ryan unethamsanqa kakhulu bedibene. Bendiya endikunike igunya umthande yena ngentliziyo yam yonke, kodwa njalo, kwaye ngoko ke kucacile ukuba uzive kuye mvakalelo enyanisekileyo. Ngendanixelelayo ukuba babe nokuthantamisa, ezithambileyo kunye naye. Ke wena ngaphandle icebiso lam enjalo nje. Ndinqwenela ukuba ababini kuni Ulwalamano kunye ukuhloniphana, kodwa ngenxa yokuba ezi mvakalelo phakathi kwakho zicacile nabani na uyazi wena.

kwiminyaka elishumi eyadlulayo, a guy isuti yaye kunye isipha seentyatyambo ebizwa emnyango, wathi, "Ndifuna ukumema intombi yakho ococek, mhlekazi." Kwakunjalo ngaloo mzuzu ndaqonda ukuba ubomi bakho buya kuba ngokupheleleyo, ukuba uya konwaba.

Kwaye ngoku Ryan ngokuthatha inyathelo libe ubomi obutsha. Musa ukoyika oku, ngenxa yokuba banomvuzo ngomsebenzi niya kuphumelela.

Kwaye ngoku, onke amalungiselelo sele zigqityiwe kwaye intombazana yam encinane uya kundikhawulela enxibe ezimhlophe. I umoya kude, kwaye kwento ndingatsho ndithi: "kakuhle kangakanani na khangela!".

Kodwa ke mna ndizithatha esandleni: "Kufuneka uhambe. Eli lixesha lokuba athathe eli nyathelo libalulekileyo. "