Kutheni siyilibala into, ngokukhawuleza xa sidlula umnyango?

Kwenzeke kuwo wonke umntu. Ugijima kwizitepsi ukuze uqoke izitshixo, kodwa ukhohlwe ukuba ufuna ukuwathabatha ngokukhawuleza xa ungena kwigumbi lokulala. Vula ifriji kwaye ujonge okuphakathi kwayo ukuze uqonde ukuba awukhumbuli ukuba kutheni kuvulwe konke. Okanye ulinda ade umhlobo wakho agqiba ukumxelela into ebaluleke kakhulu, kodwa ngokukhawuleza ukuba unethuba elinjalo, le nto ibalulekile iphela kwintloko yakho. Kwaye usenokuthi: "Ndiyintoni na ukuba ndifuna ukuyithetha?" Kwaye wonke umntu ucinga nje kuphela: "Sazi njani na?" Kule meko, iingcango azidlali nayiphi na indima - ingqondo nje kuphela.

Imbali yabakhi

Yaye nangona ezi mpazamo zingenza ihlazo, ziqhelekile. Ziyaziwa ngokuba yi "ntembelelo yomnyango", kwaye zityhila ezinye iingongoma ezithandekayo zendlela ubuchopho bomntu obusebenza ngayo. Ukuqonda oku kuya kukunceda ubone ixesha lokulibala kungekuphela nje isizathu sokucaphukisa (nangona baya kuhlala becasula). Ezi mpawu zengqondo yomntu zinokuthi zichazwe kakuhle ngokunceda ibali malunga nomfazi odibene nabakhi abathathu ekudleni. "Wenzani namhlanje?" - wabuza kuqala. "Ndibeka isitena esinye phezu kwesinye, kwaye ke emva kwexesha," yabubula kuqala. "Wenzani namhlanje?" Wabuza wesibini. "Ndiyakha udonga," yayiyimpendulo yakhe elula. Umakhi wesithathu wakhanya ngokuzidla waza waphendula wathi: "Ndiyakha icawa!"

Amanqanaba ahlukeneyo okuqwalaselwa

Mhlawumbi uvile eli bali njengesizathu sokubheka izinto ngokubanzi, kodwa kwi-psychologist ngaphakathi kwakho, ukuziphatha okubaluleka kweli bali kukwafuneka ukuba ucinge ngamanyathelo athile kumanqanaba ahlukeneyo ukuze uyenze ngempumelelo. Umakhi wesithathu unokuba nombono okhuthazayo womsebenzi, kodwa akukho mntu onokwakha icawa ngaphandle kokucinga indlela yokubeka isitena esinye kwenye, njengokuba umakhi wokuqala. Ngosuku ngalunye, ingqalelo yomntu ishintshana phakathi kwala manqanaba, kwiinjongo zethu kunye neenjongo zokucwangcisa kunye nesicwangciso, kwaye ke ukuya kwizinga eliphantsi kakhulu-izenzo eziphathekayo. Xa zonke izinto ziphantsi kolawulo, ngokuqhelekileyo kwiimeko eziqhelekileyo, abantu bayakwazi ukugcina ingqalelo kwizinto abafuna ukuzenza, kwaye inxalenye ebonakalayo eyenzekayo ngokwayo. Ukuba ungumqhubi onamava, ulawula iigesi, ideshibhodi kunye nevili lokuhamba ngokuzenzekelayo, kwaye ingqwalasela yakho igxile kwimisebenzi engaphantsi kwemihla, njengokuhamba ngokuhamba kwemoto okanye ukuthetha nabagibeli. Xa imeko ingaba yinto engaphantsi, qwalasela ingqalelo kwiinkcukacha ezithile zento ekufuneka yenziwe, okwenza umzuzwana uphazamise ingqondo yomntu kwimifanekiso ebanzi. Yingakho encokola nabagibeli kukho ikhefu xa umqhubi efika kwindawo eyingozi okanye injini iyaqala ukwenza izandi ezingaqhelekanga.

"Impembelelo yeDolophu"

Indlela yokunyamekela komntu ishukunyuka kwaye iphantsi kwegunya lokusebenza, ivumela umntu ukuba abonise iinkqubo zakhe eziyinkimbinkimbi zokuziphatha. Ngoko kukuvumela ukuba wenze isicwangciso esifanayo sokwenza inani elikhulu lemisebenzi kumaxesha ahlukeneyo kunye neendawo ezahlukeneyo. "Impembelelo yomnyango" ibonakalisa xa ingqwalasela yakho ihamba phakathi kwamanqanaba, kwaye ibonisa ukuxhomekeka kwememori yabantu (nokuba imemori yento oya kuyenza kwimizuzu emfutshane) kwimeko apho ukhona.

Uhlalutyo lwimeko

Khawucinge ukuba uhamba ezitepilini eziya ekamelweni lokulala ukuze uthathe izihluthulelo, uze ukhohlwe ukuba uye weza izitshixo ngokukhawuleza xa uzifumana kwigumbi lokulala. Ukususela kwinqanaba leengqondo, oku kulandelayo kwenzeke: isicwangciso sakho ("Keki!") Ukhohliwe kakade kwinkqubo yokuqaphela isicwangciso esinikeziwe ("Simele siye egumbini"). Mhlawumbi esi sicwangciso sinxalenye yesicwangciso esikhulu ("Sifuna ukulungiselela ukushiya ekhaya"), leyo leyo iyingxenye yezicwangciso ezinkulu kunye ezinkulu ("Yiya emsebenzini", "Gcina isikhundla", "Yiba nekhono kwaye uhlonipheke Abahlali "njalo njalo). Icandelo ngalinye lifuna ukunakwa ngandlela-thile. Kwaye kwimeko ethile ekuhambeni kokuhamba phakathi kwazo zonke izicwangciso, ukucinga ngokukhawuleza ngezihluthulelo kwafika engqondweni yakho. Ingqondo yakho ijonge phambili ngokukhawuleza, yenze icebo lokuba uthathe ezi zihluthulelo, kwaye uguqule kwezinye iiplani, njengoluhambo oluhambela kwigumbi lokulala, ukucinga malunga nabashiye izinto zakhe kwizitebhisi, ukucwangcisa umhla wokusebenza kunye Izigidi ezinye izinto.

Izizathu 'zengcango yomnyango'

Yaye ukuba ucinga yonke inkqubo, njengamacangci ajikelezayo kwiipali kwiesksi, ngoko uyaqonda ukuba kunzima kangakanani. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ezinye iiplati zokujikeleza ziyawa. Imemori yethu (nokuba imemori yeenjongo zethu) ikhwetywe yintanethi yemibutho. Ingaba ngummandla wakho wendalo, apho udale injongo ethile okanye ufumene imeko. Yingakho ukutyelela kwikhaya lomntwana kungabangela ukukhumbula okukhulu, kwaye ukuba uyayikhohlwa into, uyacetyiswa ukuba ubuyele kwindawo oye wacinga ngayo. Ingaba yinto engqondweni yengqondo, oko kukuthi, yintoni ocinga ngayo xa kucinga ingcinga ethile. Kwaye kwenzeka "umnyango wendlela" ngenxa yokuba uyatshintsha kokubili imeko kunye nemeko yengqondo ngexesha elifanayo.