Izihlobo kutshanje: isiqingatha-udade kunye nesiqingatha umzalwana

Kweli hlabathi siphila kulo akukho ezahlukeneyo ezininzi izidanga phakathi kweentsapho, njengoko igazi okanye ithengwe. Kodwa ukuqonda indlela yonke le nto? Yaye ngubani na isiqingatha-abazalwana noodade?

iingxaki

Ngelishwa, ezininzi iintsapho ephula namhlanje. Kodwa abantu emva kwezi ziganeko nzima musani ungalahli ithemba kunye bangene kumanyano ezintsha, ukuba atshate. Konke kubonakala kulungile, kodwa akukho bani uyazi ukuba yonke le ngcamango abantwana bahlala kunye ngumzali omnye, baziva yaye oko bafuna. Ngaphandle kwento yokuba usapho umntu omtsha - umntu utata okanye kaVan, anokukwazi babe zombini abantwana babo. Musa ukuvala abantwana igazi bazifumanela izalamane ezintsha ngokunxulumene ukuyilwa ntsapho entsha, yaye kuthiwa pivot. Kwakhona uhlanganiswa abazalwana noodade ingqalelo, ukuba wabelana umama okanye utata kuphela.

ubudlelwane

Zengqondo musa ukwenza umahluko omkhulu phakathi amakhwenkwe kunye namantombazana abaye esidityanisiweyo - bonke abantwana abafumana kudla ngokuba nzima ukuqonda ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kunye nentiyo. Kodwa ke kaninzi esiphikisanayo Vuka, ukuba kukho na ilungu losapho, njengoko enesiqingatha-udade. Kutheni oku kwenzeka - akukho bani uwaziyo, umntu kucinga ukuba amantombazana ingqiqo eziphuhlileyo ngakumbi Nekhwele kuphela abazali babo yaye abafuni ukuba abo babathandayo ukwabelana nabani.

utshintsho

Indlela baziphathe abazali ukuba abantwana babo bafumana isiqingatha-umzalwana okanye isiqingatha-udade? Apha kufuneka abe novelwano kakhulu ukushenxa ngokupheleleyo umntwana wakhe, befuna ukuseka ubudlelwane kunye namalungu entsapho amatsha. Kwakhona, musa agxeke kwaye ohlwaye itakane ukuba qhankqalazo, kuba lusizi okanye nje akafuni yokunxibelelana nabantwana. Kungathatha ixesha elithile, abantwana kufuneka bakuqhele kotshintsho omnye komnye. Kubalulekile ukuphawula ukuba abaselula iinkqubo ngakumbi abantwana ukwakha ubuhlobo kunye nentsapho amatsha kakhulu kwaye kulula ngokukhawuleza, yithini, elivisayo - kuyimfuneko ukuze bakuthathele ingqalelo.

angi

Ukuba umntwana ubonakala isiqingatha-udade okanye umzalwana, ingakumbi ukuba abantwana bahlala kwindawo enye, umntu bagcine umbango rhoqo phakathi kwabo. Baya kuzama ukufumana phambili enye kwenye into: ibe ngcono esikolweni, ukunceda ngakumbi ekhaya, nje ukulwela imfutshane bonke abazali. Abadala ukuba njengento umdlalo ukuthatha, kuyimfuneko ukuba achaze ukuba abantwana ukuba ulingana oomama nootata, akukho umahluko phakathi "yeyam-eyakho", apho abantwana iyabathanda bobabini ngokulinganayo. Ukuba yonke tsala "kwi iziqhoboshi", unako ke ngoko ukufumana iingxaki ezininzi.

Malunga elizayo

Ndakuqonda ukuba kuthetha ntoni na kwisiqingatha-udade kunye nesiqingatha umzalwana, kufuneka siqonde ukuba phantse usapho olunye, njengoko nabazalwana, noodade, inokuba umahluko encinane kuphela egazini. Kwixesha elizayo, xa abantwana bekhula, bonke bajonge ngokwahlukileyo kwaye baqale ukuqonda yonke ubudlelwane. Loo nto njenge "uhlanganiswa" inyamalala. umzalwana okanye udade - Kukho igama elinye kuphela. Ngoko ke, abantwana kufuneka kucaciswe ngakumbi xa nisaqala ukuthandana, loo nto isiqingatha-umzalwana okanye nesiqingatha-udade - usapho ebalulekileyo, apho kuya kufuneka ukuba sibe ngabahlobo ubomi kunye nabantu. Ke ukuba uthe wenza into eyiyo kwinqanaba yokuqala, kuya kuba lula ukuba siphephe ezininzi iingxaki zabantwana unxibelelwano kwixesha elizayo.