Indlela yokusinda xa amaqabane mtshato?

Uqhawulo - kusoloko business ezibi kufuna eninzi tape ebomvu kunye namaxwebhu, iimvakalelo, iinyembezi lithemba ngokunyanisekileyo. abantu siyakhuthazeka yezizathu ezininzi, kunokuba ziphikisana banal, kwaye kwiingxwabangxwaba rhoqo kunye enyundululu, kunye nokungabikho ukuvumelana neentlobano zesini, kunye nezinye izinto ezininzi. Kakade ke, lo mtshato kufuneka asebenzise kuphela kwiimeko kakhulu apho umfazi okanye ngengqondo usapho nga kunceda ekulondolozweni entsapho. Imibuzo - indlela yokusinda umtshato nokuba kunokwenzeka ukuba ayiphephe; kukho ezininzi i iimpendulo, enyanisweni, ngabantu abaninzi kangakanani - iimbono ezininzi sinjalo nathi kweli hlabathi. Kwabanye abantu, uqhawulo-mtshato - oku Kuyinto eqhelekileyo, edlula ngokukhawuleza nangokulula, kodwa indlela yokusinda xa mtshato kokupha abo kulungiselwe bona le ngcamango uba uxinezeleko kabi? Okokuqala, kuyimfuneko kwakhona ukuzama ukuba 'ukuqala ukusuka ekuqaleni ", yaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni unobangela kwihlazo - le usenza intw' ubomi, ewolo, ubuqhophololo okanye yasekhaya ngokwesiqhelo. Amaqabane kufuneka uqonde le sizathu, thetha baze bafikelele kwisigqibo sokuba yonke bangatshintsha. Ukuba isizathu sokuba umtshato uba "uncamathiselo" eqhelekileyo xa umfazi wakhe ndikuqhelile omnye komnye, sasifunda ubude nobubanzi sokuhambisa nganye inyathelo indoda yakhe, ngoko unga nje bahlaziye iimvakalelo ubudala, ukuba indidi kubudlelwane babo. Kodwa kukho omnye umbuzo - ukuze sisinde indlela mtshato, ukuba usapho unabantwana? Ngapha koko, unina womntwana ngenxa yokwahlukana upopu uba kuyingozi kakhulu ebomini. indoda encinane akanako nje ukuphazamisana nendlela oziva ngayo ingqondo yakhe, abazali 'umtshato kungabangela iziphumo kakhulu kwixesha elizayo. Amaninzi emva komtshato umntwana uhlala nomama wakhe; ngokuba notata wasebenzisa into efana "Utata for i weekend." Umntwana kunzima kakhulu ukuba kusetyenziswa kwindawo entsha, endaweni entsha ngaphandle umzali omnye. Ku phantsi koxinzelelo olukhulu kakhulu, iba nomsindo ndlongondlongo. Kwaye ke nanku umbuzo - ukunceda njani umntwana wakho nge mtshato mene ibuhlungu? Ngapha koko, xa abantwana abancinane uxinezeleko umtshato asichaphazeli nje kakuhle-ntle, kodwa kwi yokwetyiswa ubuthongo. Kule meko kuyimfuneko ukwenza iintshukumo ezininzi:

- qhubeka sebenzisa ucwangciso imihla yokuba usana lwakho, uhambe, ahlambe nomzimba, isondlo, uye kulala ngamaxesha athile;

- ukuphendula yonke imibuzo ngokunyanisekileyo, umntwana bahlule abazali imibuzo malunga mtshato, kufuneka kakuhle ngobuchule ungamphenduli. Indlela yokusinda xa umtshato na umntwana? - kufuneka uxelele umntwana ukuba utata nomama wakhe wayeyoliswa kakhulu, kodwa ukuhlala kunye, abakwazi. Kuyimfuneko ukuqinisekisa itakane wonke umzali uya kudlala naye kwaye umthande njengoko kwakunjalo phambi komtshato;

- njalo zidlale sana, kwaye ukuba ningethi unxibelelwano kunye nomnye umzali, nokuba ukuba ukuqhawula "babephikisana", akukho mfuneko xa yokugxeka umntwana utata (umama) e lokungcatsha, sithukwa sidanile kuye. Maxa wambi kuyimfuneko ukuba bonke ndawonye ukuze siqonde usana ukuswela kwenu;

- Phepha ukuxabana kunye nomntwana wakhe, umntwana kungabonwa naziva umama wakhe notata ukulwa. Ukuze kucinga ukuba ingxabano kungenxa yakhe.

Ngokulandela le mfuno, unako ukumelana nale meko kakhulu ukunceda mntana. Indlela yokusinda xa umtshato kwindoda nomfazi wakhe okanye? Kukho iindlela ezininzi, kodwa ngaphezu konke oko kuyimfuneko ukuze bakuthathele ingqalelo ngokoluvo owayesakuba ngumlingane, uphulaphule icebiso kwengqondo, ukunyaniseka, athobekile kwaye novelwano.

Ukwenzela ukuphepha umtshato, uyakwazi ukubhenela uncedo ezifana into ukuhlala kangangexesha elithile ngaphandle komnye. Kulo mzekelo, amaqabane banikwa ithuba lokucinga yonke into kwakhona ngenyameko iimbono zakhe ukuqonda - noba okanye hayi umtshato. igumbi okwethutyana eyahlukileyo - yinto elungileyo, kuba nangawuphina umzuzu kunokwenzeka ukufaka uqhawulo-mtshato, kwaye ungasoloko uqalise ukuthandana entsha "endala".