Indlela yokusinda ukuphoxeka ebantwini?

Bonke ubomi bethu - iintlanganiso rhoqo kunye ezintlanganweni. Nentsapho, abahlobo, abahlobo, imizi yelizwe zengqesho kunye nomsebenzi. Kukudaniswa umntu besithembele, nathi sinokuba isifundo elungileyo. Okanye ukonakalisa impilo, ibangela onenxeba elivulekileyo. Njani ukusindisa kokusebenziseka okuqonda nokunyaniseka, yaye ukuze bazikhusele iintlungu? Okanye kufuneka senze kumgaqo 'ezingena kungcatsha lowo akabathembi nabani na'? Kodwa ekubeni kwenzeke ukuba baphile.

Ukuphoxeka abantu kuba ngenxa kangako ngobuqhophololo wakhe okanye isenzo eliphantsi. Ngapha koko, ininzi into akuqonde aze axolelwe. Banamandla kunathi ochaphazelekayo malunga imfuneko yokuba kutshintshwe nombono wabo ngalo. Ukuphoxeka umntu luhlale lugcwele iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo - liyingcwele kaninzi ngenxa yokuba akukho asazi nangomnikelo wakhe wokudla, nto leyo wadala umlinganiswa wasentsomini. Mismatching kwalo mfanekiso kunye kobesikulindele yaye ibangela nenzondo nobukrakra kangaka.

Quotes malunga ukuphoxeka ngabantu kusifundisa sengqondo olumkileyo ekhululekile ukuba ubuthathaka bethu. Ngokomzekelo, omnye wabo uthi: "Ukholo kunceda ukuba baphile yaphoxeka isifundisa ukucinga.". Kodwa Churchill yaqulunqa ingcamango noko ngokwahlukileyo: "Ukuba uyakwazi bendingedaniyo - ngoko ukuba yobutsha bakho." Phawula la mazwi; kuba ziyinyani nehlekisayo. Ngamathandabuzo sokugxeka, inkolelo yokuba ihlabathi akanakunikwa - ukuba uhlobo umphefumlo yobudala.

Ukuphoxeka ebantwini kwenzeka kuphela xa sikholwa abanye. Ngaba ndizilungiselela yona? Nxiba isikrweqe protective? Siya kuphela ukunyamezelana kunye nesakhono ukuxolela. Ukuphoxeka kulowo omthandayo lifana ekutshatyalalisweni isithixo unkulunkulu. Xa sijonga umntu ziintanda kuthi, kungekhona lwalo ngumnqweno, kodwa umntu nje nawo onke amandla kunye nobuthathaka zayo, siya kuba lula kakhulu ukwamkela izono zabo.

Njani kodwa aqhubeke ukuphoxeka ebantwini? Njani ukuba ube nomsindo yaye akazange engamzondi? Ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala ukuba oku akunakwenzeka. Ukuphamba ubukrwada buhlungu. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuba uzame ukuba bazahlule kuye ngokwakhe mintlhaveko leyi ebangela oku okanye isenzo, ingcamango yakho umntu kwiimfuno zokwenene iimeko. Ingaba nomsindo okanye uphethwe yokuba umntu close nto yenziwe ngendlela obulindele? Yintoni wenza ngawe ezininzi ezimbi okanye uyahlangabezana enye / kwabanye? Zama ithuba lokuyihlolisisa le meko kwinkalo eyahlukileyo. Kaloku, enyanisweni, lo mntu ukuhlangabezana nokulindelweyo yakho ngqondweni, yaye musa ukwenza njengoko kubonakala kulungile kuye? Ngapha koko, nawe ngokwakho ubuya kuba lula kakhulu ukuba ukuxolela izono neentsilelo. Ngenxa ungabona ngokwakho. Ngoko zama ukuqonda zombini. wamgxotha Yintoni? Zeziphi iinjongo bema phambi kwakhe? Ngokuqinisekileyo akazange azame ngokukhethekileyo ukuphoxa okanye buhlungu.

Thina rhoqo ayikhulise ibar, befuna ubomi zonke ngaxeshanye. Xa kwasebuncinaneni bakhe, ezele amathemba namaphupha thina. Nokuba ngokwethu, asinako akabonwa cala. ekuvuthweni Emotional esibonakaliswa yokuba kuphila kunye ukukhohlisa. Samkele ubunyani njengoko kunjalo. Phakathi sokugxeka bangu nokugxekwa enethemba kamnandi kunye nendawo abadala ngokwenene. Ukuze baphile apha ngoku, ndawonye abo babemphahlile, ngokuthatha ihlabathi, bona nabanye.