Indlela ukukholisa umntu ukwamkela eyakho imbono?

Wonke yahlukile, kwaye wonke umntu unelungelo umbono wakhe - luncinane okanye ngoko States eyaziwa kangangeenkulungwane ubulumko bulumko. Yithini, kufuneka uthathe ilungelo abantu babe bona ukucinga ngenye indlela. Noko ke, ukuba amkele nzima kakhulu le nto. Yinto enye into xa kufikwa imibuzo cala ngokwanelisayo ezifana 'ukuba uhlobo lomculo owuthandayo, "okanye" loo nto ilungileyo:. Comedy okanye vukela " Kodwa ke imeko iyatshintsha kakhulu ukuba ngokoluvo lweZiko isiphumo welinye iqela lakho ulwamkelo izisombululo ngokubambisana. Umzekelo, kwimeko isivumelwano. Kwaye nje xa kubalulekile ukuxelela umntu ukuba kuye, tye!

Ukuze ukweyisela umntu ukuba ilungile, kwanele ukuba ukwazi ezinye ubuchule ngokwasengqondweni, esivumela interlocutor ukuba amalungiselelo vVam.

1. Yiba ngokunyanisekileyo. Nokuba yonke lugcwabevu ngaphakathi kwenu, kufuneka uhlale uzolile kunye nokuzeyisa, okanye baya kusebenza iindlela bokucenga. Wide nejongelwe uncuma, akukho mfuneko yokuba onokunyuka umdlali phantsi kwesikhumba, ndiwuthukulule abambelele. Musa ngathi ukuba nalo ngokupheleleyo kwisiphumo thethwano - ayikho njalo. akhangele kwaye zibekwe kwi incoko nje.

2. Phambi kokuba ukuxelela umntu ukuba zenu umnikelo okanye imboniselo kuphela ilungelo, bakholelwa ngokucacileyo kuyo ngokwakho. Oku akulunganga kwaye akanakuba ngenye indlela.

3. Yenza kucace ukuba umntu ukuba ihloniphe kunye umbono wakhe. Zinokuxutywa iinkolelo zakho izimvo cala. Ime, kodwa encumile. Kwaye uyavuma nayo. Thatha kalula: iqabane lakho (mhlawumbi) akukho mntu osisiyatha. umbono wakhe, kakhulu, ufanelwe intlonelo! Umbuzo, ngokubanzi, hayi indlela ukweyisela umntu nendlela ekufanele siyenze ukuze wayefuna ukuba amkele eyakho imbono.

4. lakubathwesa interlocutor yakhe isantya. Noko ke, ukuba wenze njalo ngokukhawuleza ngenkohlakalo akuyomfuneko ngayo. Kufuneka ukuba ube nombono ofanayo. Kodwa njani! Kubalulekile ukuba isantya yakho kunye nethoni yelizwi yathathwa yi-interlocutor, kwaye awunakho ukwenza ngolunye uhlobo. Ukuze wenze oku, wathi kubo emva kokuba binzana esithi kanye nezinga elifanayo njengoko (ngokukhawuleza okanye ngokucotha), kwaye ekupheleni kweli binzana ngokuyimfuneko ukunyusa okanye inciphise nesantya. Ngoko ke, wena nje ukudala indawo entofontofo thethwano bakho, kodwa kwakhona ukunika umdlali kuva ukuqonda ukuba idlala imithetho yakho.

5. Thetha ulwimi olufanayo. Phambi kokuba ukuxelela umntu ukuba into uthenga okanye nemigomo yakho, eme endaweni yakhe: ubuya uthathe into nzima kangaka "vparivayut"? Lutho. Noko ke, ukuthetha malunga nenzuzo, interlocutor umdla. Kwaye ke ayinamsebenzi ukuba uthengisa into okanye nje ukweyisela abanye ukuchaneka izimvo zakho, bavumele ukuba siwuve, ukuphulaphula, ngokubanzi, athetha into enye! Ngoko ke 'siguquke "kwezinye umntu yaye perforce kufuneka bashiye indawo ukuzithethelela.

6. Musa tediousness. Enoba kwakukho imbambano: ukuyikhaba basayine imvumelwano ishishini ngokwemimiselo kakuhle, okanye ukuxelela umhlobo wakho omthandayo umboniso akhe anamandla - yenza akukho ingqiqo lokuphosa izibakala ezithile. Ukuba umntu phambi kwakho eyayifunde ngokungakhathali, ukuze bamphose wena izibakala uthethe koko. Ngoko ke kusenokwenzeka ukuba ixesha elide into ukungqina kwaye akukho nto ukungqina ekugqibeleni. Vumelanani kunye nayo, ulungelelwano.

7. iingxoxo zakhe ziyafumaneka ngohlobo imibuzo. Yinto isigqebelo, kodwa isebenza. Masithi zikhala nomhlobo malunga nokuba indima ethile nomdlali vhidiyo iphezulu kwakhe umsebenzi. Uqinisekile ukuba kunjalo - na. Buza lo mbuzo: "Ngaba amagama bhanya akhululwe kulo nyaka, apho wadlala kakuhle?". Kwaye ngamnye efundisayo olova ... Ukukhusela eyaphukileyo ngokuyinxenye.

6. ukumelana Overcoming. Ukuba baphumelela boyise amanyathelo ezidlulileyo, uya kuphawula ukuba abantu "zinyibilikisiwe phandle" yaye baba abanandaba ngakumbi kwaye ibekwe kuwe. Ngamanye amazwi, amanye yokunganyangeki yayo ukoyisa imiqobo. Indlela ukukholisa indoda theni wakho ekugqibeleni? Yakha imibuzo ngendlela yokuba umthombo wathi, "ewe." Buza imibuzo ngokweemvakalelo, ukunika umoya obutofotofo.

Ikhuselo mfihlelo malunga nendlela ukuba beyiseke abantu ngoku iphakame kancinci.