Indlela ukufunda ukunxibelelana

Sonke ebomini bakhe njengesiqhelo siyaxoxa, kodwa umntu isangqa esikhulu abahlobo kunye nezihlobo, kwaye umntu uchitha bodwa ekhaya zonke iiholide. Eyona nto kukuba abanye abantu bayakwazi ukunxibelelana umdla, yaye ezinye nje abazi ukuba baveze indlela uluvo lwabo, kwaye ngokubanzi wabeka amagama amabini kunye.

Kulo mzekelo, kukho umbuzo elifanelekileyo: "? Ndifunda ukunxibelelana njani na".

Okokuqala, ahlawule ingqalelo kwinqanaba jikelele kwezenkcubeko nezemfundo umntu, ukuba uyazi kancinane kwaye phantse akukho nto akanamdla, kunqabile ukuba umdla ukuthetha kwaye akwazi ukugcina ingxoxo. Kuba abo isigqibo ukufumana impendulo yombuzo njani ukuba bafunde ukunxibelelana, oko kuyimfuneko kuqala ukufunda ngakumbi, abanomdla iindaba kunye ngokubanzi konke okwenzekayo ehlabathini. Akukho mntu uthi kufuneka uyazi ngokweenkcukacha ngayo yonke into eyenzeka kwezopolitiko yamazwe zehlabathi wesithathu, kodwa namhlanje iindaba olungundoqo lokwakhiwa Pope ukuba asiyeke, kufuneka kuba nako ukubeka okanye ukugcina incoko, ukuba inkampani umntu bachaphazeleka mxholo efanayo.

Kufuneka ube nomdla wokwenene kwabanye abantu. Uyavuma, ukuba diki kuninzi oko sele kuthethiwe kwaye zange awukhathalele loo nto interlocutor wagula kakhulu pet inja, ukuba ikhawuleza kakhulu yaye uya kuba xa ebona umhlobo wakho, yaye uya nkqu ukukhumbula ukuba akuyi kuthiwa na okanye hayi ngokuba nje cafe nge abahlobo.

Ukuze bafunde ukunxibelelana ngayo, kufuneka ukuba bakwazi ukuqaphela isidima lomnye umntu, ukuba abe nako ukuba bamdumise kwaye unike abantu baziva lwabo kunye nokubaluleka.

Konke esinako ukukwenza, kodwa kufuneka izono, uthando ukugxeka abanye, kodwa ukuqonda kwaye ayisigwebi abantu kodwa ukufunda, kodwa eli liya kukhokelela le njongo alithandayo - ukuqonda ukuba ufunde indlela yokunxibelelana.

Khumbula ikhathuni malunga Lithole tiger, ngubani ucula ingoma "Le uncumo iya luyenze ihlabathi '? Ngoko ke kule khathuni critter ilungelo, ngokwaneleyo ukuba nobubele sincumile, yaye, njengoko bathi, abantu ukufikelela kuwe.

Funda ukuphulaphula interlocutor yakho, ikhuthaza abantu ukuba ukuthetha okungakumbi ngawe. Ukuze senze unyamezelwano kunye nentlonipho ngokoluvo njengotshaba. Amazwi ezifana "oku ephosakeleyo," "Yintoni na ukuqonda", "uthetha ububhanxa," lokutyhala nje kude kuwe, uze buhlungu interlocutor yakhe.

Amaxesha amaninzi, sithekelela zabantu, umlinganiselo kunye wakhe, kodwa wathi ukuba le benchmark kwaye konke kulungile? Kodwa nigweba nezinye izimvo ngobomi, siya kuyithoba le ndoda, yaye nje ezahlukeneyo, singafani thina.

Zama ukuma omnye umntu. Ukuba ngokunyanisekileyo uzama ukujonga izinto omnye wakhangela, nokuba ukuba awutshintshi uluvo, imizamo yakho iya kuvuyelwa kakhulu.

Musa sinayo kwi indumiso. Khumbula, ukuba ufuna impendulo yombuzo njani ukuba bafunde ukunxibelelana, kufuneka kuqala ube nako ukuqaphela isidima somnye umntu, ukuba abe nako nje kuva, kodwa ukumamela uluvo lomnye.

Unxibelelwano kwi-Internet, xa umthombo kwelinye icala sikrini yahluke kancinane, kuba ekubona, ningenakuliva ilizwi lakho ilizwi, akazange abone umqondiso wakho. Kulungile, yindlela enkulu ukufunda ukulawula indlela neemvakalelo zabo musa ukuphendula ngesantya esiphezulu, kwaye imali ukuze zihlaziye "kwizazi 'kwaye' neengozi" nayiphi na impendulo. Kuba guys, yindlela enkulu ukufunda ukuxelela amantombazana yokuncoma banal, kwaye aphendule ngokukhalipha kwaye bawo, kuba ababhinqileyo lithuba lokuba melwe umdla besini esahlukileyo.

Kuba abo efuna indlela yokunxibelelana kwi Internet, kukho inani elikhulu lamagumbi chat ezahlukeneyo kunye neziza ukuthandana apho lula ukufumana interlocutor ngenxa yomdla eqhelekileyo. I lokuqala kukufumana ikuba entsha, ikuba, okanye ukuba nenxaxheba kulo naluphi na uhlobo kwezemidlalo, kubalulekile kwimpilo, kwaye uya kuba isihloko lokuxoxa.

Nxibelelana nabanye, kwaye khumbula ukuba kubalulekile ukugcina mood entle imvula kwaye ube yindoda nokuthantamisa.