Ziziphi iimpawu ezibonisa ukuba umtshato wakho awuyi kuhlala ixesha elide?

Xa u-Lee Trevino owayengumdlali onobuchwephesha wayeshadile okokuqala, ukuqhawula umtshato kwakungeke kulindeleke kuye. Kwaye emva kweminyaka engama-18 yomtshato. Nantsi indlela izibini eziqhawula ngayo ukungabikho komnye wabatshatileyo. Ngoku uMnu. Trevino uneminyaka engama-77 ubudala, kwaye ukhumbule amava akhe angaphumelelanga ngexabiso elihle. Ngomfazi wakhe wesibini, uClaudia Bova, uphila iminyaka engama-23. Abantu abaninzi abaqhawule umtshato bathetha ngamava abo kwiinjongo zefilosofi. Kodwa kulabo abasenakukwazi ukuphilisa amanxeba angokwangokwangokwengqondo, esi sihloko sihlala sisigxina.

Okufanayo kuya kubagwebi malunga nomthetho weentsapho. Uninzi lwabo lugcinwe kakhulu ngomsebenzi wabo. Abavakalelwa kukuba banceda abaxhasi babo ngendlela enhle. Ngokuqinisekileyo, inkqubo yokuqhawula umtshato iyidrama, ihamba kunye neentlanzi, izigwebo kunye kunye nokuphikisana. Ngoko ke, amagqwetha malunga nomthetho wentsapho, ngaphezu kwezakhono zomthetho, kufuneka abe nezakhono zengqondo. Kutheni isiqingatha semitshato yonke siphela ngokuqhawula umtshato? Ngentando yesiphelo, izizathu eziye zachaphazela ukuhlukana ziyaziwa ngamagqwetha amaninzi. Abantu bathi njalo: balumkisa - baxhobile. Ufuna ukwazi ukuba impawu zibonisa ukuhlukana kobudlelwane?

Ukuthula (ukuthintela umnxibelelwano)

Ngokucacileyo, umtshato oqinileyo wakhiwe ekunxibelelaneni okuvelisayo. Amaqabane abaluleke kakhulu ukuthetha nabanye, kuquka ukuxazulula iingxaki eziye zavela. Ngako oko, ukuthula akusoloko kuyigolide. Xa unxibelelwano luya ekudlubeni, okanye kwiintlanzi eziqhubekayo ezinjengeenkomfa ezibandayo, lo mtshato uphahlile. Okucacileyo ngakumbi ukuthula, ukukhawuleza kuya kukhula kwimiphefumlo yabalingani.

Ulawulo olupheleleyo

Inzame yokulawula umlingane kungakhathaliseki ukuba imeko yinto yentsimbi ye-alamu yobudlelwane. Kuyaziwa ukuba iqabane, elithintelayo ekulawuleni ngokupheleleyo, lingenakulungiswa. Akayi kubuyeka umkhwa wokubeka iliso kwimeko kunye nokuyilawula. Ngoko ke, kuyacaca ukuba omnye umtshato womlingani uvavanyo lwangokwenyama lwengqondo. Kule meko, uhambo luyiphi na inkohliso: ukukhanyela ukufikelela kwimali, ukujonga incwadi yefowuni kunye nentsebenziswano kunye nabacuphi abazimeleyo. Kwaye kuphela ukunyamezela kweengelosi 'yexhoba' kunokugcina umtshato uphela ixesha elide.

Indlela yokuziphatha

Ngoku kuya kuba ngumbuzo wezinye iifom zokuziphatha ezilimazayo apho umntu efuna ukubalekela kwinyani ngokuguqula isimo sengqondo. Ingaba yinto ebalulekileyo yokusela utywala, iziyobisi, ukugembula okanye nayiphina imbonakalo yokuziphatha ngokunyanzela.

Utywala kunye nokuxilwa kweziyobisi kunokunceda unyango, nangona kunzima. Nangona kunjalo, abantu abaninzi abaziboni njengagula kwaye baqhubeka bezingcolisa ngokwabo kunye nolwalamano lwabo ngaphakathi.

Ukungalingani kwemali

Ngokufanelekileyo, nayiphi na imiba yezemali kunye neembopheleleko ezixutyushwa ngabahlobo ngaphambi kokuba umtshato. Nangona kunjalo, ngobomi bokwenene, abasandul 'ukutshatyalaliswa baphuphunyiswa ngothando baze bacinge ngexesha elide leentsapho zentlalo kwi-prism yexesha elizayo. Ngesinye isikhathi, isigqubuthelo siwa phantsi kwamehlo, kwaye imbobo yobomi bemihla ngemihla ihamba neengxaki zekhaya kunye nezezimali. Omnye iqabane (kwaye oku akunjalo ukuba ngumfazi) ingaba yinkunkuma eyingozi. Abanye abantu banemithwalo yemboleko kwiibhanki, kodwa abafazi babo abaqapheli oku. Xa ukukhwabanisa kubonakalisiwe, ukuzithemba kupheliswa ngokupheleleyo, okubangela ukuba uqhawule umtshato.

Ukungabi nemfuno eqhelekileyo

Sonke siyazi ukuba izichasi zithandwa, kodwa asiyazi ukuba oku kudlalwa kungekudala. Uhlobo luye lwavumela abantu ukuba bathandane ukuze bavelise inzala enempilo. Nangona kunjalo, akukho ngqapheli weengqondo uza kuqinisekisa ukuba abantu abahluke ngokupheleleyo banokuthabatha omnye nomnye kwiminyaka emininzi. Ukuba amaqabane angenayo iminqweno efanayo, umtshato wabo uya kuba nzima ukuhlala, nangona kukho abantwana abaqhelekileyo, i-estate and financial obligations. Xa abatshatileyo benemimoya eyahlukeneyo, iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zobuntu, bajonga amehlo ehlabathini ehluke ngokupheleleyo. Kukhulu kakhulu isithuba kwi-interest interest form a dissonance enkulu. Kule meko, amaqabane achitha ixesha elide ngaphandle komnye ngaphandle kokubambisana.

Ukuziva ukudeka

Ngamanye amaxesha abesilisa bavame ukuva iimvakalelo. Ngethuba elithile bavuyiswa ngokugqibeleleyo, kwaye kwezinye iingxaki zabo. Ukuba loo mfanekiso awuphindaphindi ngokuphindaphindiweyo, oko kuyazuzisa ulwalamano. Emva kwexesha, amaqabane ayaqonda ukuba awanakuhlala ngaphandle komnye, kwaye yonke into iya kuphucula kwakhona. Kodwa ukuba uvakalelo lwengqondo aludluli, yintsimbi ye-alamu, kwaye emva kwexesha ukuziva kakubi kuya kwanda. Qaphela ukuba ezininzi zezizathu esizikhankanyileyo ngaphambili zingabangela ukuhlukana.

Xa umsebenzi ufika kuqala

"Intsapho isoloko ifika kuqala" yinkxalabo yezibini ezonwabileyo. Kodwa xa omnye wabafazi abakho ngokukhawuleza eba ngumsebenzi onzima, oku kufuneka uqaphele iqabane lomntu wesibini.

Njengoko sisazi ukuba, ukunxibelelana okunonophelo kubaluleke kakhulu nakubani na isibini esitshatileyo. Kodwa ukuba abantu abanqabana ukubonana kunye nokuthetha okuncinci, kulo mzekelo, amathuba okuqhawula umtshato ayenyuka kakhulu.