Indlela ukulwa: A Practical Guide

Musa ukucinga ukuba eli nqaku lilinge qethe ukukhuthaza wena ukuba ukuziphatha ndlongondlongo nangawathembanga ngayo abanye. Kodwa ngamnye kuthi ngokwakhe ukufumana kwimeko apho amandla zentetho, inkolelo kunye isizathu kungaba abusebenzi amanqindi umntu kunye nomsindo. Kakade ke, abantu abaqhelekileyo kunqabile ndithanda ukulwa, ukuba abathanga benze oko kwezemidlalo. Kodwa kutshanje ukuba ukuzimela kufuneka bakwazi wonke umntu. Kodwa njani? balwe ngokuchanekileyo - nto ke ayithethi lula njengoko kubonakala.

Okokuqala, makhe sibone, xa ukusebenzisa amandla. ngokwenene imeko yahlukile, kwaye, phambi kokuba ebetha umntu, kufuneka uqiniseke ngokupheleleyo ukuba oku akunakwenzeka ukwenza ngaphandle. Kwezinye iimeko, akukho mathandabuzo:
- ukuba umntu ejika kuwe okanye abahlobo bakho;
- ukuba isihange kunye iintsongelo akaziphenduli kungamil;
- ukuba uzama asuse impahla yakho.

Kukho amaxesha xa kubhetele ukuba ukubaleka kanjani na, kodwa ngangenini isandla kungquzulwano ngesandla, ingakumbi ukuba awazi ukulwa njani. Kwisitrato kusoloko kukho indlela yokuphepha, kwaye ukuba ngaba akakhawulezi ngokwaneleyo kwaye akukho mfuneko yokuba ezikwenza ungakwazi ukusebenza, kungcono, Kakade ke, ukuba ukuveza ukuba engeyomfuneko umngcipheko iqhele.

Kufuneka wenze ntoni xa ukulwa akunakuphepheka? Ukukwazi ukulwa umva ixhomeke isimo sakho sengqondo. Ukuba ucinga ngexesha ngokuhlasela ngoku ukuba buhlungu omnye umntu, ngoko ke ijolise kwizinto ezingalunganga. Watsho soft, yaye wena uya kuba lula ukuba umoni. Musa ukuba umntu buhlungu owaba kuwe umhlaseli: ukuba akhusele ubomi nokuzimela zobuqu. igalelo lakho ibe semthethweni, kodwa intlungu.

Khumbula ukuba abantu baxhomekeke kakhulu obstoyatlstv, yaye ufunda ukulwa, ukuba kuyimfuneko iimeko kuyo. Nokuba isikolo niphikele buhlungu, kwaye ukusuka kwimfundo emzimbeni, nenza ukukhululwa, oko akuthethi ukuba akunako ukuma ngenxa ngokwabo, ukuba awazi njani. ukulwa ngokuchanekileyo - hayi ukuba kakhulu ukulungiselela emzimbeni. Kukho ezimbalwa iincam luncedo ndisilwa:

- Ukuba kunokwenzeka, balahle iimpahla ukuba ukuyeka wena okanye apho ungafumana alahleke (kubandakanywa nezikhafu namaqhina);
- ukuhlala uzolile yaye ezolile, khangela utshaba ngqo kwi iliso - kungenzeka ukuba yena uya kuba esoyika iqhele, okanye ezilahlekileyo nje ukuzithemba kwabo;

- Vavanya le meko, Ukubona ukuba ukho na ekufutshane induku okanye enye into apho uyakwazi ukubhenela xa kukho isidingo kakhulu;

- Bala yokufuduka, ukuba abaphikisi ezininzi.

Musa ukulibala ukuba kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba wenze nqindi: iminwe ezine icinezelwe ukuvala encotsheni entendeni kunye nobhontsi. Nzima kakhulu ngenqindi de nangoko phezu nempembelelo, okanye ngokukhawuleza fizzle. Iintshukumo kufuneka echanileyo, kodwa eladlulayo. kujoliswe obukhulu phezu into bundlobongela yabo; uphawu ngcono kwiindawo ezininzi babuthathaka ezifana nasemiphakathweni, ubuso, nentamo. Ukuba ziwile, kodwa utshaba iyaqhubeka ukuhlasela, nesigqubuthelo entloko yakho ngezandla zakhe bazama ukufumana up. Isiphumo imfazwe ixhomekeke ukuzithemba kwakho, ngoko musa ulahlekelwe ukuzeyisa.

Ngoku uyazi ukuba balwe njani. Makhe Ndiyathemba soze kufuneka basebenzise olu lwazi xa befundisa. Xa kunjalo, khumbula ukuba akukho nto exabiseke ngaphezu kobomi bomntu.