Indlela ukukhetha umandlalo ukuba umntwana?

Nayiphi nabazali abachaphazelekayo malunga umntwana wabo, yaye ngokukodwa intuthuzelo yakhe, ngoko ke bahlawula ingqalelo enkulu kukhetho ifanitshala abantwana. Kweli nqaku, siza kuqwalasela ukuba ukhethe njani ebhedini elifanelekileyo umntwana, kuthathelwa ingqalelo isakhiwo, ubungakanani, umbala kunye ngqongqo imveliso.

Ayiyomfihlo into yokuba kwiimeko ezininzi, abazali bakhetha kwisingqengqelo ukuba uthanda umntwana wabo, kodwa oku akusoloko ilungile. Kufuneka ukuya ngalo mbandela ngenkathalo, kuthathelwa ingqalelo ukhuseleko ifanitshala kunye nefuthe layo impilo yosana lwakho.

Kakade ke, nesilili usofa kwigumbi abantwana kufuneka kukhanyiseleka umdla, umbala esisityebi. Kaloku, ukuba iluhlobo oluthile isilwanyana, umatshini okanye umlinganiswa ikhathuni. Ngalo mbandela umntwana uya kukuvuyela ukuchitha ixesha uye kulala uncumo ebusweni bakhe. Ngexesha lasemini, kunye esofeni, nako ukudlala nje yokudlala ukuba uqinisekise ukuba ukukholisa umama nomntwana.

Kodwa, bebutha ukhuko ezintle ezimibalabala umntwana, kuyo nayiphi na imeko akakwazi bayakhohlwa kwiinkalo zobugcisa, ezifana awafuneki. Kufuneka kukhanyiseleka kwaye mhle, kodwa ukulungele-to-child umdlalo kungekuphela. Kufuneka ukhethe laphu ngenxa entofontofo ukuze abe noku ukusuka ebuhlanti, kwaye ice-cream, kwaye tomato juice. Umzekelo, amazwe aseYurophu, nto ezo ifanitshala abantwana (Italy ingakumbi), bavelise sofas kuphela izinto ekulula ukuzicoca kwaye zihlambeke.

Kubalulekile ukuba ucinge indlela iqhekeza lathenga ifanitshala iza kusetyenziswa yi umntwana. Khumbula ukuba inkunzi luyakhula, kwaye ukuba namhlanje ethile esofeni akuthandayo, ngoko ngomso oku siyeke ukumthanda. Nge ubudala, ubungakanani awumise kufuneka zandiswe. Umzekelo, ukuba uyazi ukuba esofeni zithengwa nyaka kuphela okanye ezimbini, ungakhetha i khetho atshiphu, kodwa ukuba ukhetha yona iminyaka ezayo - musa sinayo baze bakhethe umgangatho kunye ukhetho ixesha elide.

Ukhetho ifanitshala bobobuchule zixhomekeke ubudala bomntwana. Ngokomzekelo, omnye esofeni umntwana ukuya kwiminyaka emine, akanyanzelekanga ukuba zenzeka, ngoko ke kakhulu elula indlela neraskladnaya kwesingqengqelo. Kutheni olu khetho yeyona efanelekileyo? Okokuqala, abantwana abancinane abakwazi ukubonisa uze ubeke esofeni. Okwesibini, isingqengqelo kuthatha indawo ngaphantsi.

Ifanele ukuba abantwana abadala umfuziselo "withdrawable", apho lilungu elinye efihliweyo phantsi komnye. Namhlanje isofa evroknizhka - umfuziselo osetyenziswe kumagumbi abantwana. Zonke ezi ndlela zithathwa ukuba bayathandwa zombini eRashiya nakwamanye amazwe. Umzekelo, ifenitshala abantwana Italian i-imelwe onke embodiments ngasentla.

Ukucinga ngokhuseleko ifenitshala, Shiyiselanani kwisakhelo kwisingqengqelo leyo yenziwe ngamaplanga okanye imithi. Ezinye izinto kunokuba yingozi usana. Njengoko ngenxa yobulukhuni, a esofeni ukuba umntwana kufuneka athambe kwaye ezinzima ngexesha elinye - khetha into phakathi. Kunzima ukulala emzimbeni yomntwana elaqala kumphezulu ethambileyo, kodwa nayo akucetyiswa ukuba walala kwiibhodi.

Sinethemba iingcebiso zethu kuya kukunceda ukuba ukhethe i esofeni ngomntwana kakuhle nenenkathalo. Cinga nje ubuhle, kodwa intuthuzelo, imilo, ukuqina. Uxanduva lwabazali sisondela ukhetho izinto wezasekhaya izithole zemithi, bonga ngakumbi ukuba umntwana, kwaye uphantsi ngenene ingenzeka kuzo naziphi na iingxaki zempilo usana.