Indlela ukujongana umona

Kuyo nayiphi na isichazi-magama, kukho incwadi phezu bengqondo, yaye phantse zonke inqaku lemagazini kumxholo wekhwele kuthiwa lo imvakalelo negative kwaye kuyimfuneko ukuba ukohlukana naye. Kodwa ukuba ezizezemvelo, iMbonakalo-ngqo yoBume, ngoko akunikwe entle kuthi? Akukho iminxeba omnye siyeka ukuqhwanyazaemva kwaye linganiki sixhathise isilingo ukususa isandla sakhe ebushushwini searing. Ngoko kutheni iisayikholojisti ukunika iingcebiso ngendlela yokuhlangabezana nomona? Ngenxa nethuku esisiseko malunga kusinda umntu ehlabathini indalo yasendle, ngokwemiqathango eluntwini, ingabi kuphela kuphulukana umsebenzi zabo zokuzikhusela, kodwa unako ukuba imzisele iingxaki zempilo, zombini engqondweni nasemzimbeni.

Izazinzulu ziye zabonisa ukuba imvakalelo wobukhwele kuphakamisa ukukhululwa vasopressin egazini - hormone ebangela imithambo yegazi constriction, yindibanisela reflex kwemisipha, ukwanda koxinzelelo. Oko kukuthi, ukuba ukuziphatha kwamalweyile ngendlela amanye amadoda kunye nabafazi phantsi kwempembelelo le imvakalelo kube lula zichazwe ngokwemigaqo zomzimba. Ke yena umfazi, ukuba lutyekele ngokwasemoyeni ukuvakalisa iimvakalelo zabo, le ndoda kokukhutshwa hormone amanyathelo ephendulayo. Ngoko ke, ukubonakalalisa wobukhwele inkunzi kubangela ukubethwa kunye zinganakwa iingxaki zempilo tyala kakhulu nomona.

Indlela ukujongana indoda onekhwele

Njengomgaqo, ukususela iimvakalelo anokuwuchitha ithile enoba kukancinane okanye ichatshazelwe omabini amaqabane. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, iisayikholojisti banike iingcebiso ngendlela yokujongana ikhwele ukuze kuncitshiswe izinga uxinzeleko luvo ebangela ngayo umzimba, anisekele nentsapho yakhe.

iisayikholojisti Famous zenkulungwane yamashumi amabini, ezifana Freud, E. Byrne, E. aphumela wathi ubhalo nobukhwele efakwa emva kwinqanaba elisezantsi wophuhliso kwaye uvakalisa iqondo trust ehlabathini. Amava esibi lobudlelwane kunye nonina kuchaphazela bonke ubomi bakhe kwaye kudala umnqweno ukulawula inani phezu kwabantu.

Ukuba omabini amaqabane bazimisele ukugcina ulwalamano, iingcali ndiyanibongoza umntu iphinde yesu yokuziphatha yentsebenziswano, bayaqonda ukuba umtshato akukho sizathu sokuba kwezithandani ngumfazi umntu.

Omnye umba obalulekileyo ukugcinwa uxolo lwengqondo na self-ukuzithemba. Abo abaphethwe badla ezibuhlungu wobukhwele lawuleki, iisayikholojisti acebise ngenjongo ntoni ukunyusa umgangatho nokuzixabisa.

Kukho iindlela ezisebenzayo ezininzi ukujongana ikhwele: Luiza Hey izithembiso ukufunda nezingqiniso, Alexander Sviyash icebisa umkhuba esebenzayo ukuxolelwa ababingeleli Orthodox ucebise umthandazo - wonke unako ukufumana le ndlela ifanelekileyo ngokwakho. Zonke ezi ndlela yenzelwe ukutshintsha isimo sengqondo ehlabathini, ukuze babe neqabane kuye. Funda ukuthanda nokuhlonela wena, uthembe abantu wokwakha creative ubudlelwane, olugunyazisa lukhulu.

Noko ke, impumelelo ekulweni umgangatho ezimbi baya kufikelela kuphela abo wayefuna ukutshintsha. Ukuba indoda uyohlwaywa ngabo ukuchaneka yobume babo ebomini yaye ifumana kube nzima ukuba bahloniphe isithuba lobuqu yabo babathandayo, elinenjongo ulawulo iyonke zonke iinkalo ubudlelane nabanye, iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokujongana umona, kuya kuba nganto. Ngelishwa, iimeko ezinjalo kunqabile iSADC ukulungiswa. Kufuneka wenze ntoni ngumona, nto leyo ethatha ubomi ifomu buhlungu kuhlasela abantu bakaThixo? Nyamezela kuhlaziswa nokubethwa, ukugcina usapho ngenxa yabantwana? Ngaba impilo yabantwana akuthethi kakubi ebuhlungu ngokwasengqondweni usapho lwemozulu? wengqondo ephawulekayo Andrew Kurpatov kwincwadi yakhe, "Beauty and the Beast" kule nkalo unika iingcebiso yakhe ukufumana phandle umntu nazo eneneni: inkosana bathakathiwe abadinga inkxaso ngokweemvakalelo, okanye indoda yokuziphatha ephantsi, sifuna ukuba isizathu sokuba sibe ihlazo lakhe . Okokuqala ukunceda kwengqondo yobungcali. Inxalenye yesibini kuyimfuneko.