Imiqondiso Non-ngamazwi: iintlobo kunye nexabiso

Abantu abakhulumi kuphela ngezwi (ukuthetha ngomlomo). Kukho neendlela ezingabonakaliyo zokunxibelelana - ulwimi lomzimba. Ngamanye amaxesha unengqondo ngakumbi kunamazwi. Emva kokufunda izibakala ezingekho ngento, unokuqonda kangcono abanye.

Ulwimi lweelwimi

Izibonakaliso ezingenzi-magama ziquka:

• Ubuso buso,
• Imizobo,
• Iimpawu zomzimba;
• Iimpawu;
• Ukuqhagamshelana kwamehlo;
• Utshintsho lwamagama kwizwi;
• Ukuxhatshazwa.

Masihlalutye zabo iintlobo ngokubanzi.

Gesturing . Iquka nayiphi na ukunyakaza kwezandla nezandla. Apha unokongeza izinto eziphathekayo kunye nezinto ezincinci.

Mimicry. Lezi ziqendu ezingabonakaliyo ezinokufundwa ebusweni bomntu: ukukhenkceza, ukumomotheka, ukukrakra, ukukrokra. Kwaye nayo nayiphi na inqubo ye-psychosomatic ehambelana nobuso: ngokukhawuleza ikhutshwe ibomvu, ibomvu, ukubonakala kwebala.

Ukuhamba komzimba. Naliphi na ukunyakaza komzimba (oku akubandakanyi nalawo kufuneka usebenzise izandla zakho nentloko). Ngokomzekelo, ukudweba inyawo entlabathi, izibilini ezinamaqabunga, ukusika, isenzo "unyawo ngezinyawo." Oku kubhekisela kwindawo epheleleyo yomzimba kunye noshintsho lwayo. Umzekelo, umntu unokuma, aqhube umzimba emdongeni, awela iingalo zakhe nemilenze. Oku kuya kubonakalisa imeko ethile yengqondo.

Ukubhenca. Oku kubandakanya:

• Ithenda yentetho;
• Ukutshiza kwe-smacking;
• Ukububula;
• Ukubamba umoya;
• Misa isikhashana.

Sawahlula iindidi eziphambili zezibonakaliso zomzimba ezingabonakaliyo. Ukuzifunda ziya kuba luncedo kulabo bahlala besebenza nabantu okanye bathetha esidlangalaleni. Iimpawu ezinjalo zisebenza kwi-subconscious yabantu ngaphezu kwezandi.

Izibonakaliso zokulwa

Izibonakaliso ezingabonakaliyo ziyakuthi zithathwe ngokupheleleyo phantsi kolawulo, oko kuthetha ukuba kunzima ukuzibamba. Bavela kwindawo engenazi nto, kwaye ukuba umntu udlala, ngoko kuya kubakho ukungahambelani ngamazwi nangobuso buso. Akayi kukwazi ukuphumla ngokupheleleyo, okuso kulula ukuyibona.

Kwenzeka ukuba i-interlocutor izimpendulo kwi-affirmative, kodwa ngokwenene ayicingi njalo. Qaphela: intloko yakhe iya kuqonda, njengokuba uthetha okuchaseneyo. I-intuition yakho iyona uncedisayo kakhulu kumbandela onzima wokuqonda idilesi phakathi kwezandla zomlomo nezengenagama. Musa ukuligxotha, kodwa ngokuchaseneyo - phulaphula.

Iimpazamo ngexesha lokuchithwa

Izibonakaliso zomzimba ezingabonakaliyo zisoloko zichazwa ngokuchanekileyo, kwaye ngenxa yoko kukho izizathu. Makhe sijonge iiposiso eziphambili:

• Umongo u tyeshelwe. Namela ingqalelo imeko. Umzekelo, ubona intombazana eyanciphisa ubukeka bakhe buhlungu kwaye yazibamba ngezandla zayo. Ngelo xesha, uyathuthumela. Ukuba le nkosikazi ingumqeshwa wakho kwaye ihleli eofisini, unokucinga ukuba uphelelwe ngumsindo kwaye unomdla. Izibonakaliso ezingafaniyo zingathunyelwa yinkwenkwezi ekumiseleyo ebusika, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo ubanda kakhulu.
• Gxila kuphela kwisenzo esinye. Umzekelo, unokuba ngumqondiso ophawulekayo xa iingalo ziwela kwisifuba. Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba kuthetha ukungathobeli, ukuvalelwa komnxibelelwano, ukulahlwa kweengcinga zakho. Oku akunjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi. Umnxibelelwano unokuhlala ekhululekile ukuma, ukhathele, uncike eludongeni kwaye ulungele ngokulula izandla zakhe. Ukongezelela, umntu makayithobele ingqalelo yezenzo ezingabonakaliyo. Ukuba iingalo ziyawela esifubeni, kwaye ngelixa umntu enqabileyo, ikhwebu eliphakanyisiweyo kunye nemilenze iphenduke kuwe, ngoko unokuthetha ngokuchaswa.

Ikhono lokubona izibonakaliso ezingabonakaliyo zothando Ngaba iyahlukileyo kwabasetyhini ngokwalo. Le yintsikelelo yowesifazane. Inikwa isini esibuthakathaka ukwenzela ukuba uqonde oko umntwana akufuna ngexesha apho akakwazi ukukusho ngoku. Kodwa abafazi bakhe abayisebenzisi nje kuphela "ngenjongo" yabo. Nangona kunjalo, banikezwa ngumqondo wesithandathu kunye namadoda ...

Izibonakaliso ezingezozithetha ngomntu

Ubundlobongela obuqinileyo bulawulwa ngokupheleleyo kwiimvakalelo zayo, ubuncinane kunabesifazane, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuba ziwafihla ngokupheleleyo:

• Ukuxilwa kwabafundi. Akunakwenzeka njalo ukujonga umntu ngokuthe tye, kodwa xa ubona ukuba xa ukhangela, abafundi bakhe bandise, ngoko unokuqiniseka ukuba uyakuthanda.
• Ukutshintshwa kwe-eyebrow. Ukuba ubona isignali engenzizwi xa ukhangele kuwe, nayo ingachazwa njengophawu lovelwano.
• Ukujonga ukujonga ukusuka phezulu ukuya phezulu. Umfana ukhangele emehlweni akho, kwaye amehlo akhe ahla? Unokuqiniseka ukuba uyakuthanda. Abafazi bayazi kakuhle le ndoda. Ukuphazamiseka kukuba xa intombazana yenza oku, umfana akayiqondi le mqondiso.
• Ukuhlaselwa komntu onesihawu. Xa udibana nentombazana enhle, loo mntu uqala ukuqonda ngokungazibandakanyi: into ekulungeleyo, ukusula izicathulo, ukuguqula ibhatyi. Umfana othanda ukukholisa udonsa esiswini, uzama ukuthatha i-pose encedo kakhulu ukubonisa izihlunu. Ungaphuthelwa ithuba lokuzisa into okanye ukuhamba ukubonisa amandla akho - "ukudlala ngeemisipha."

Iimpawu zengxolo ezingabonakaliyo

Amantombazana anomzimba. Yinyaniso! Inombolo kunye nemigangatho yezandla ezingasetyenziswanga zixhomekeke ekubeni uninzi lomqashi ufuna ukutsala ingqalelo yomntu. Makhe sibone iinqhinga kunye neendlela eziqhelekileyo ezisetyenziswa ngabasetyhini:

• Izwi. Cishe bonke abafazi bayashintsha amazwi abo ngokungabandakanyeki xa bethetha nento yovelwano. Inqanaba eliqhelekileyo lokuthetha linciphisa. Izwi liba liphantsi, lingahle livele libonakala lincinci. Oku kubonisa ukuba umfazi unesifiso sesini somntu.
• Stamina. Xa intombazana ithandana nomfana, kodwa uyamoyika ukutshatyalaliswa, ngoko intetho yentetho yakhe, ngokuchasene nayo, iyakhawuleza. Izwi liphula, liyathuthumela, kukho amanqaku amnandi. Emqaleni, i-spasm iyakwenzeka, ukukhwehlela kunokwenzeka.
• Giggles. Ukuhleka kwentombazana kuguqukile. Nangona inenekazi enomdla ingakwazi ngokukhawuleza ihlaziye, ihleka ngokukhawuleza. Umfanekiso ukhangeleka kakhulu.

Umlingo wesifazane

Izibonakaliso ezingekho phantsi kwezantombazana ezisetyenziselwa ukutsala isondo esinamandla. Impawu esetyenziswa rhoqo ngabafazi:

• Ukuthinta i-earlobe, ukulungisa amacici;
• Ukuphosa intambo yeenwele ngomnwe;
• Ukuboniswa kwesandla;
• Ukuqhawula, okubonisa inqeni elincinci, ukubetha isisu okanye ukuqhuma;
• Imbonakalo yokuphosa inyawo emlenzeni.

Izibheno zesondo ezicacileyo ngakumbi:

• Ukudlala ngesihlangu, kungcono ukuba nekhephe. Le ntombazana iyisusa kwaye iyayigubungela kwizwane, ize uyibuyisele kwakhona.
• Ukunyanzeliswa ngezinto zobunzima bombhalo. Ukuphenya phakathi kweminwe yecuba, ukubetha iglasi ephosakeleyo ne-champagne. Ezi zibonakaliso ezingekho ngamagama zibonisa ukuba izandla zilungele ukunyanzelisa. Kwindoda, ezo zenzo zivuselela ukucinga ngezesondo ngokungezelela kwintando.

Ukwenza impawu zakho zizonwabe, kwaye kungabi ngotshanje, khumbula ukuba kutheni umfazi efuna izandla zakhe. Bayiphambanisa umntwana, baxabise baze bathuthuze indoda ethandekayo, bamenze i-massage, ikhuphe ukukhathala. Ukuba uyigcina entloko yakho, impawu kunye nokunyakaza kuya kuba buqilima, buhle kwaye budibanise. Uya kujonga imvelo kwaye uvule.

Ukunyanzelisa

Ukuba intombazana ifike kwiqela elithile ngenjongo ethile yokuqhelana nomfana, ngoko kufuneka uhlolisise impawu yakho. Abanye banokubangela isini esomeleleyo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba intombazana ibonakala ihle kangakanani:

• Awukwazi ukuma emilenzeni nemigca. Oku kunciphisa ithuba lokwenza ulwalamano oluhle kwi-zero. Oku kuziphatha kubonisa ukuba uvaliwe kubafowunelwa nabantu.
• Chukumisa ubuso bakho ngaphantsi ngezandla zakho. Ukuxhaswa kwesama, ukuxubha kwempumlo kunye nomnwe emlonyeni bubonisa "izitokisi eziluhlaza". Kwakhona uthetha ngokungathandabuzi okunzulu.

Flying gait

Intsikelelo enhle yinye isingeniso somlomo kubantu. Umgangatho onamandla ugqithisa i-flat back, amahlombe axhasiweyo, ubabalo bentaka. Ungaguquli iingalo zakho - zibukeka zingenangqondo.

Xa uhamba ungafunda umlingiswa womntu. Oku akusebenzi kuphela kubafazi, kodwa nakwabantu. Indoda enamahloni yenza amanyathelo amancinci. Umkhwa wejoni uthetha ukuthambekela ekusebenziseni kunye nomyalelo. Ngomntu onobumbano uya kubonisa ukunyakaza okukodwa. Umntu onjalo uzama ukuzikhusela, kodwa unokukhawuleza abonise ubugwenxa.

Kubi xa imilenze ihamba, kwaye iingalo zixhamle emzimbeni. Oku kunika uncedo, ukungathandi ukuthabatha inyathelo. Ngolwimi olungenzi ulwimi uthi: "Ndibuthathaka, yenza konke kum." Amadoda ayithandi abafazi abanjalo.

Kwi-movie "Umtshato WaseTaliyane" uSophie wabonisa umonakalo omkhulu, owaba yincwadi. Yihamba kakuhle kumlawuli wakhe womyeni. Wenyuka ngendlela ehle kakhulu yokuqeqesha. Umdlali wecala wayefanele ahambe phakathi kwemiqolo emibini yee-nightstands kwaye avalwe iingcango zawo. U-Sophie waqeqesha kwaze kwaba yilapho ukutshitshiswa kweengcango kwaba nzima.

Ukuqonda ukuba umntu ulele

Izibonakaliso zamanga ezingabonakaliyo akunakunzima ukuqonda ukuba uyazi ezinye iimfihlo. I-subconscious yethu ayiqambi amanga kwaye iya kunika umqambimanga lula. Ukunyamekela iimpawu, banokunika iingcamango zangempela zomntu:

• Imizobo:
• Jonga;
• Iimpawu;
• Intonation, isiqu sezwi.

Ngaba ufuna ukwazi ukuba yintoni na unyana okanye intombi-intombazana efihliweyo? Okanye mhlawumbi ufuna ukuqonda indlela umphathi wakho ekuphatha ngayo? Ngaba ucinge, nokuba indoda ayitshintshi? Le mibuzo ingaphendulwa ngokufunda i-psychology yamanga.

• Jonga ngokukhawuleza kwicala lasekhohlo. Le nxalenye yobuso inokunikela ngokugqithisileyo umqambimanga. Jonga ngokukhawuleza umntu onokungathandabuzeki kuye. Ukuba ngethuba lakhe lasekhohlo isandla silenga, luchaza izibonda ezingacacileyo, okanye uphula iminwe yakhe kuyo - lo ngumqondiso wento omnye umntu obhalisayo. Okufanayo kunokunika umlenze okhohlo. Into leyo kukuba i-hemispheres ezisekhohlo kunye nekunene zobuchopho zilawula zombini okhohlo kunye namacala omnxeba omzimba, kuphela isebenza ngokuphambene. Ngenxa yoko, ilungelo lobume belizwe, olujongene neemvakalelo kwaye kunzima ukulawula, luyakwazi ukunika ubuxoki, nangaphambi kokuphindaphinda.
• Umlomo uphelelwe ngesandla. Ukuba umlingani wakho ufuna ukuthetha amanga, ngoko unokugubungela umlomo ngesandla sakhe. Isiqwenga, njengomthetho, sicinezelwe kwisitramu. Ukongeza, umnxibelelwano unako ukukhwehlela. Into ephambili - musa ukudibanisa lesi sibonakaliso esingasisigxina ngentsholongwane yangempela. Ukuba isalathisi esinjalo sinikezwa ngumntu ophulaphulayo, kuthetha ukungathembeki kumnxibelelwano.

• "Iidyudle ezindlebeni." Umntu odiniweyo ngamanga akhe uya kugubungela iindlebe zakhe ngezandla zakhe okanye azigcine ecaleni le nxalenye yomzimba wakhe. Lo mqondiso ngumzamo wokucima ibali elingamanga. Kuya kufana nomntu ongakholelwa amazwi omnxibelelwano wakhe.
• Ukuxubusha ngamazinyo. Kukho umzekeliso: "Igama alilona intlunkulu, liya kubhabha - awuyi kubamba." Umntu okhohlisayo, uya kuzama ukuvula "indlu yeentaka" kakhulu, oko kukuthi, ukuba angathethi ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngokungathi ngamazinyo. Ukuziphatha oku kunokuthetha ukungazinzi, ukucaphukisa, ukukhathala okanye intlungu yalowo ulandayo. Konke kuxhomekeke kumongo kunye nemeko.
• Amehlo - ukubonakalisa ukuthembeka kwamagama. Ubundlobongela obuqinileyo akayithandi ukujonga emehlweni xa ekhohlisa. Indoda ihlamba ijwabu leso. Le ntombazana inokuqala ukulungisa ukuzenzela okanye ukwenza ngathi into ethile iye yangena kwiso. Isalathisi esingenasigcaziso sibonisa ukuba ugula ngumlingane wakho.
• Thatha amehlo akho. Abameli bolawulo lwesondo oluqinileyo bayazilawula kakuhle iimvakalelo zabo, kodwa ukuba ukukhohlisa kuyingozi, bajonga phantsi. Amantombazana, njengomyalo, ukuba alala, jonga idilesi.
• Intamo ityunyiwe. Le ngenye yezinto ezithandekayo kakhulu eziphawulwe ngabangcali beengqondo. Umntu olalayo, uqala ukukhanda intamo yakhe kunye nomnxeba wesandla sokunene. Kule meko, ngokuqhelekileyo uhamba ezintlanu. Ukuba umnxibelelwano wenza oku, uyayiphulaphula, oko kuthetha ukuba akayi kukholwa naye.
• Ukuthetha ngokufutshane. Nangona umntu sele elungiselela ixesha elide kunye nokucinga ngokuqamba amanga, uya kuzama ukukhupha ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngaphandle kweenkcukacha ezingadingekile. Umqambimanga ngokwakhe akanakulungeleka kwindali athethileyo, ngoko uya kuzama ukukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza.
• Ukhangelelwaniso olunzulu. Ukuba kwintetho eqhelekileyo abantu abanalo umkhwa wokufumana iimpendulo kumazwi abo, umqambimanga uya kubonakala ebuza amehlo, ekhangele ukuba bayamkholwa okanye cha.

Indlela yokuchonga ngokuchanekileyo ubuxoki?

Kukho iimeko xa ufuna ukukwazi ngokuqinisekileyo, xelela inyaniso, ukuhamba okanye ulale. Zama ukusebenzisa izicwangciso ezingezansi:

• Yithi akubona wonke umntu oqondayo. Buza umntu osikrokrelayo yokukopela ukuphinda yonke into ngokubanzi. Oku kuhlaselwa kwengqondo. I-Vrunishka iqala ukulahleka kwaye ihambe kwiinkcukacha. Qaphela ukuba yeyiphi imiqondiso engabonakaliyo umzimba wakho othumelayo.
• Mamela ngenyameko kumnxibelelwano. Ukulahla ebusweni bakho ubuso obuhlukile: utshintsho olunzulu lube luphawu lokungathembeki. Umnxibelelwano olalayo, jonga ngokugqithiseleyo ukuthetha kwakho. Ukuba uyayazi intsingiselo yokungabonakali komlomo okanye uvakalelwa into ethile, ngokukhawuleza uya kuqala ukuphazamiseka aze alahle indlela yakhe.

Indlela yokubona ukunyaniseka kokumomotheka

Nabani na umntu ubona ukumncoma uphawu lovelwano kunye nesimo esihle sengqondo. Ichaphazela ingqondo engqondweni engakhathaliseki, nokuba uyayithanda okanye awuyi. Ngako oko, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuhlukanisa phakathi kokubonakalisa ukubonakalisa uvelwano okanye ukuzumkotela, apho ufuna ukufezekisa okuthile kuwe.

Uphawu olubi lu-asymmetry. Ukwenkqangaza kwangempela, nangona umntu "edonsa", enye ikona yomlomo ingaba phezulu kunomnye. Ukubonakaliswa kwamazinyo kubonwa njengophawu lokuthembela kunye novelwano. Umqondiso wokuthakazelelwa kukuba umnxibelelwano akasenqikazi ukuhleka kuwe.

I ngcikivo. Ukuhleka okukrakra kuvela kubantu abakuphathayo, ngokubanzi, ngokufanelekileyo, kodwa kuthetha ukuba okwangoku ukhangeleka. Ukumamotheka kunqabile, kwaye iliso elinye lingahlaselwa.

I-Sarcasm ibonisa ukungahloneli kunye nokuzidla. Umntu ucinga ukuba ungaphantsi kwakho kwaye uhleka ngenyameko kuwe. Iimpawu zokuqwengqa:

• Ukukhawuleza kokumomotheka;
• Amehlo azidlayo;
• Isifo siya kubeka ilizwi lakhe.

Indlela yokuqonda iimpawu ezingabonakaliyo zentsimbi? Oku kuyimfuneko ngokukodwa ukuba umsebenzi womntu uqhagamshelwe ngokuqhubekayo kwintlalo. Kwakhona kubalulekile ukuba ama-arhente arhweba aqonde ukuba umthengi onokuyiphulaphulaphula intetho yakhe okanye ukuzenza nje. Ukuba umntu ochasene naye uyaxhala, akanakukufihla: ulwimi lomzimba alukhohlisi.

Iimpawu zokukhupha

Ngeempawu ezinjalo ungayiqonda ukuba ingxoxo yakho ayinomdla kwibali lakho okanye inkampani yakho iyabhuqa:

• Ukuba umntu usezikhundleni zokuhlala, ngokukodwa etafileni, uya kuqhuba intloko yakhe ngesandla sakhe. Kwaye ukuba ingabonakali ngokukodwa (umzekelo, umfundi emva kwedeski ngexesha leentetho), ngoko ke unako ukulala.
• Umntu ongenomdla uya kujonga iwashi, njengokungathi ukukhawuleza kwindawo ethile. Akakhange abhekane naye, kodwa ngaye okanye kwelinye icala, uzama ukufumana ingqondo yakhe ngandlela-thile.
• Uphawu lokukhathala luvame ukukhwela. Ukuba umntu sele sele efuna ukuphelisa umnxibelelwano aze abuyele ekhaya, ngoko uqala ukuza, udibanise eludongeni, uncike kwisihlalo.

Umgama kwiilwimi zezandla

Ufuna ukubona indlela umthombo ziyasebenza kuwe? Slide ukusondela kuye. Ukuba evunyiweyo osi, iya kuhlala kwindawo uze uncume. Xa alahle umntu elinye ixesha ngokuzenzekelayo. Yena akabathembi wena, uye linqanaba kunxibelelwano kufutshane kuya kuba nzima.

Imiqondiso Non-ngomlomo kunxibelelwano kubaluleke kakhulu. Ukuba bathe bavumelana namazwi akho, ngoko abantu baya kuziva wena ukholose kumgangatho enobuchule. Ukuhlalutya iimpawu zangaphandle non-ngomlomo, uya kukwazi "funda" i interlocutor efana incwadi.

Imiqondiso Non-ngomlomo kunxibelelwano kuya kunceda ukutsala ingqalelo besini esahlukileyo. Intombazana ngubani ophethe "ulwimi umzimba" kusenokwenzeka ukuba ukutsala mfo oyithandileyo. Ukongeza, lo mfazi ukuba uqhelene gama ezifana Imiqondiso non-ngomlomo uvelwano, kwaye liyakwazi ukwahlula phakathi kwabo, yena wayeza kukwazi bazikhusele gigolos, abaphangi uthabathe igcisa. Ngoncedo ukufunda imiyalezo ethunyelwe umzimba wethu, siyakwazi ukubona ukuba ingcamango lo mfana, niqinisekise ukuba ngokwenene avakalelwa novelwano.

Noko ke, ulwimi lomzimba kubalulekile nje kuphela kwimiba yokubonisana. Umntu owenza umsebenzi, ufumana ithuba lokuba basebenzisane ngcono umphathi okanye umsebenzi othile oogxa babo, ukuba unolwazi.